2007-01-21 14:27:15 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
First of all, I would have to ask why he is needing the outlet of pornography, versus the real deal. Pornography has some hugely addictive components to it. The 1st thing he needs to be made aware of is how it makes you feel when he does this. I personally believe that he is committing adultery in his mind. Secondly, with pornography, 2 things occur the 1st is that within 30 seconds of staring at a photo or still video, he can then place that image into motion, secondly, he can recall that same image 1000's of times, eventually, he will no longer be able to make love to a real woman, unless he is mentally replaying the images he has seen or created in his mind. I know lots of people will tell you, it is normal, it isn't, it is normal for our society, look how far we have come.... Good luck
2007-01-21 14:44:49 · answer #1 · answered by cunhvn 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
It's normal for men from 14 to 41 to watch porn....occasionally. If it's causing ANY type of problem in the home however, then it's just that - a problem. If your hubby is doing this non stop, or trying to hide it from you, he could becoming (or already is) an addict....yup, porn is highly addictive. He'll need professional help to kick the habit. If it's occasional, but still causes a problem, then sit him down and tell him this isn't a matter of petty jealousy, but a matter of you being hurt by it. Try to come to some kind of resolution. If he views it rarely, then just put it down to him being male & visually wired and let it roll.
2007-01-21 23:14:42 · answer #2 · answered by Justlookin 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
A lot of guys do it and there is certainly a lot of it available.
Men are very visual creatures and they have a rich fantasy life but when it comes to them using porn to the exclusion of their partner or using it over and beyond her protests and hurting her with it then something is very wrong.
Look up "sexual addiction" and see it it fits your man. It may, it may not. Either way you do have a problem if he is using it and doesn't care how it affects you.
I'm a fan of the more tasteful films that couples can watch together but not OK with the ones that depict women as objects and that make sex look like a damn Olympic event. I think they raise expectations to an impossible level and make men insensitive to the real thing.
2007-01-21 22:34:45 · answer #3 · answered by Ande 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Normal no, but he is a man and for some strange reason all men are visual creatures.They like to watch anything that involve sex and is not the wife.Not that he doesn't love his wife because he does.It's a guy thing and us women will never understand it and I'm not sure that I believe it to be true but an excuse to get away with things he shouldn't be doing.
2007-01-21 23:11:29 · answer #4 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is not normal and usually indicates that he has a sexual addiction that very well could destroy your marriage. You need to take action immediately. He has to chose either you or porn. What if your children were to walk in on this? Is this activity glorifying your marriage? Does his viewing porn make you feel good about yourself or is it damaging your self esteem? You need to tell him exactly how you feel and I highly suggest you get into some serious marriage counseling. This can and will destroy your marriage if you just pretend it is "normal" and don't take a stand against it.
2007-01-21 23:19:06 · answer #5 · answered by Sally B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, he needs to stop this. He can get addicted very easily to porn. After awhile, it will not be enough and he will feel a need to go to strip joints to see the real thing and then he will start having one night stands. Then before you know it, he's gonna tell you he's met the love of his life who happens to be an 18 year old blond bimbo and divorce you.
He's 41 years old and I can tell you this will turn into a mid-life crisis for both of you if this doesn't stop. You need to ask your pastor or ask a good Christian friend to talk to him about this and stop it before it is too late.
2007-01-21 22:36:17 · answer #6 · answered by janetrmi 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sad- not normal and not everyone does it- it is detrimental and degrades family, women and marriage- He may have a sexual or pornographic addiction- he needs help= sorry to hear it- good counseling may help - and FOcus on the Family and the Minirth Meier Clinic are helpful=D
2007-01-21 22:36:43 · answer #7 · answered by Debby B 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
hi,
yes it is normal for him to do that. he may be going through that male change of life thing. you know were they go buy the little red sports car. yours chose to go in a different direction. give him a little headway . and hop that it doesn't get any worse than that. he could be after women of the night.
2007-01-21 22:35:26 · answer #8 · answered by Sonya K 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
If its not normal, then there are alot of sick men out there. Most men I know from 30 to 60 watch them. I just keep thinking maybe they will learn something from them.
2007-01-21 22:32:09 · answer #9 · answered by notalucky 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
yep normal at any age. bec some ppl, even couples sometimes want to get some excitement going.. and when they watch these dvd's it makes their sexual life healthier.. so i thik its normal for men to watch these.. its also ok to watch it with him. it will improve ur sex life. no kidding.
and better to watch these than go out for a prostitute...
2007-01-21 22:33:51 · answer #10 · answered by The Punisher 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋