i am very depressed..... the girl who i love doesnt want anything to do with me anymore and its been 5 months..... and i havent been able to deal with it.... because my life hasnt gone anywhere....
i dont know what to do, i say im gonna do this and that and i dont end up doing anything or nothing really happens if i try..... i need help.... because i personally think i am very close to being suicidal if this keeps up even for another month......
i am very bored of my life........ and i cant keep my attention on anything......... and when i do it just seems like a waste of time whatever i do after i do it and i go back to thinking of "her"........
2007-01-21 14:26:30 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Men's Health
all of the answers are really good
get help, there is somewhere out there for you, do research on depression..........
most of all, take it one day at a time and one moment at a time and slowly pick you lie up peice by peice and put yourself back together. If you go it alone or with the aid of a professional, it is going to be slow going and you shouldnt overwhelm yourself with "ifs".
On a personal note I know how much this sucks!
Do anything to dig yourself out of the the deep hole. I was depressed/suicidal a few years ago and it was like constant hell. Dont put yourself through it any longer. Get help, take one day at a time, and look to the future while you treasure the past.
2007-01-21 15:35:10 · answer #1 · answered by STL 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? You are giving this girl way too much power. In any relationship, you have to have something to bring to the table. What do you bring? Maybe that's why she kicked you to the curb. You would be way more depressed if you invested more time and energy in a one way relationship. Dwelling on the past only serves to poison your future. The best way to get over her is to fill your time with something else... not someone else. The ONLY thing you have any control over is your attitude. Choose to be happy. Memories are mostly always better than the reality. Make a list of the qualities you have and then the ones you want in a mate. Don't settle. Shake it off. Everybody has been dumped. You are not alone. If you're bored with you, just imagine what other people trying to get to know you will feel. Go take a shower, put on your best attitude and get out there and try again. Good luck. Be blessed.
2007-01-21 14:46:53 · answer #2 · answered by skayrkroh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly what you are going threw.
Last March me and the only person i have even loved broke up and I spent weeks planing out how I was going to kill myself.
I ended up getting treated at a clinic and finding out I have Bipolar disorder and depression (obviously). It's been almost a year and I have not fully recovered. I am happy i did not go threw with it because NOTHING or no one is worth taking your life over. I know it may be hard to see now but things will get better at some point for you. You should get help. If you wont see a doctor or a therapist then you can call the
UNITED STATES
NATIONAL
Suicide & Crisis Hot lines
1-800-SUICIDE
1-800-784-2433
1-800-273-TALK
1-800-273-8255
Depression needs treatment it's not something that just goes away on it's own. Please see or call someone.
2007-01-21 14:46:54 · answer #3 · answered by freakNpink 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
GOD is the answer for you!
Whenever I went through difficult times in my life I liked to find a place where I could have some piece an quiet and do what people call "pray". I simply call it talk to God like if you were talking to a friend. Don't be afraid to cry and ask him why ? ask him for help? and his help to give you peace.
An empty church is an ideal place, where you can kneel in front of him and feel very close to him.
I have gone through difficult times myself in my life and I always looked up to him, now I'm 38 and I have been married for 5 years but we were unable to have children. God has finally blessed us with a child that is on the way.
How does this relates to your problem you might be asking yourself ?!, well, after all those years of difficulty conceiving I came to realize that God is the one that gives live! Not the doctors, not even your parents. God has given you life for you to live it and to enjoy the good and bad in it.
Peace!
2007-01-21 15:17:33 · answer #4 · answered by Ed 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I evaluate myself a author (a minimum of, I write) and that i'm no longer depressed. yet frustration or perhaps unhappiness is a few thing that comes from writing, by way of fact, as somebody else mentioned earlier me, you're no longer basically feeling your guy or woman united statesand downs, yet your characters besides. i'm an somewhat emotional guy or woman, i'll confess, and that i'm getting labored up over stuff that possibly I shouldn't. Does how writing is going for me effect my temper? i think of so. Writing is, for individuals who're prepared approximately it, one in each and every of those launch of their innermost self, and while by surprise some thing happens and that launch gets up on carry, it gets all bottled up. i think that's why I call author's Block a ailment. you're being slowly tormented to death via the recommendations which you won't be able to write. Haha, so yeah. Are all writers emotional people? i think of so. Are all of them depressed? i'll could disagree with that one, even however they truthfully all could be depressed at distinctive situations.
2016-12-16 10:19:11 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is someone else better for you out there. I beleive this. It is hard to get over this type of thing and it sounds like you need to take some time and get over her. Eventually you will feel better and soon you will feel like getting out and having some fun and adventures in love again.
Try to be a littl bit self involved for a while and do things that are fun for you and it will keep your mind occupied and not so obsessed on her.
Don't take your life. Please beleive me,I was feeling like this once and I know how you feel. You have to trust me that if you give yourself another chance to be happy and you will eventually be able to turn things around for yourself. It just takes time and you have to be really ready for change, and not still thinking of only her.
You also can't wait for life to happen to you. When you are ready You have to go find your life.
I don't know if you are religious in any way shape or form, but even if you are not(I am not a100% beleiver myself) Take some time and say a prayer or two when you are alone. You would be surprised how much it can help by just saying your thoughts and prayers out loud and not just in your head, this will help you to focus on things better and it makes it easier for you to find answers to your problems. I don't know if it is really God helping you or not... But it does seem to help in most situations especially when you really need help the most...as crazy as it sounds this really helped me.
Never give up on life. My life was really bad at one time,and I got a chance to turn things around and make a better situation. I really feel happy with things as they are now and can't beleive I was thinking of killing myself and cheating myself out of my life.
The most important things I learned, is to always try to be strong and brave, and LOVE YOURSELF FIRST before you can love anyone else. If you can't love yourself right now,find out why and then change the things that are stopping you form loving yourself. Most of all,life is a gift and just being able to live and breathe and have thoughts in your head is a miracle, as well as a real adventure and no matter what happens you are strong enough to handle anything life deals you.
I hope I helped! Don't give up! :-) Life can be really good to you if you give it another chance.
2007-01-21 15:02:07 · answer #6 · answered by Cuppycake♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The Strait Dope:
Life will go on! It's cool man no worries. Try volunteering an hour or two of your time somewhere. Like a hospital,shelter, food bank or fire house.
Good Luck your gonna make it!
2007-01-21 15:25:43 · answer #7 · answered by OneMindsEye 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey,
OK first go to a doctor to make sure you are ok, anytime someone is feeling like they want to end there life,you want to make sure it's not a chemical umbalance.
Second, go to the book store and get Dr phil's book Self Matter's, becasue you matter
Third, hopefully when you read that book, you can stop thinking about your ex, you are looking to her for your happiness, and you deserve to feel it by yourself. I hope this helps
2007-01-21 14:42:34 · answer #8 · answered by Jessica A 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depression happens to me, actually everyone. But people get over it. You should too, get another girlfriend. Go places, like with friends. Because if you still feel the same tell your parents, and they'll get you help.
2007-01-21 14:32:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
ohhh this sounds so awful. i am so sorry you feel so bad. it sounds very painful and lonely. please believe me..it can get better. others have felt this way and it does get better eventually. you have to hang in there. this is a rough time in your life. are you talking with anyone about these feelings? some day you will look back and wonder how you could have felt so bad about this girl.please find someone to talk to.
2007-01-21 14:34:14 · answer #10 · answered by janet 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋