last year my marrige broke up and i relocated with my new man. after a bitter struggle i was allowed to take my daughter with me. that was 5mths ago she was happy at first but now she want to go to live with her dad, she gets on well with new partner but is saying she is not happy,we now live 250 miles away, she sees her dad everry two weeks and i know that he has brain washed her, i want the best for her but i just dont know what to do genuine replys only please
2007-01-21 14:09:30 · 9 answers · asked by fatbotomgurl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
im sorry to hear of your situation, you love your daughter that is obvious but you need to consider her happiness, regardless of any brainwashing, you will get to see her and may make your relationship stronger, you have to listen to her, i know it's hard but in time i am sure everything will work out, just make sure proper agreements are arranged. good luck xx
2007-01-22 01:39:48 · answer #1 · answered by Fallen Angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think divorce for any child is difficult even if it meant the parents did not get along.It has only been a year or less so she probably has really strong feelings about everything still.She loves both of her parents and she doesn't want to have to choose between them both.You never know how complex children's brains are until u're in a situation that has gotten out of control.Have u tried sitting down with her and asking her why she wants to live with her daddy?Just remember no matter what you do, don't ever talk down on her dad in front of her,he's still her daddy and she will end up resenting you.I would have a serious heart to heart talk with her.Hope it all works out!
2007-01-21 22:19:21 · answer #2 · answered by AJ78 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How old is your daughter? Is she in school.. if so she also maybe missing friends and family. I don't know how long your daughter has live in the place she move from but it might have felt secure for her.. Have you really sit down with her and talked about it? What ever you do, don't belittle her father in front of her.. (I made that mistake!) If it was me, it would be very hard..I have been through it.. I moved closer so that the father was able to get our child every weekend..but far enough to where he would just show up at the door. Good luck to you....remember base your decision on the right motives.........
2007-01-21 22:21:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In all fairness to the daughter and yourself, 5 months isn't a long time. the novelty has worn off and now a bit of homesickness is settling in. You may need to stick it out.
2007-01-21 22:18:56 · answer #4 · answered by Kiss My Shaz 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes i feel that you probably should move back closer so that you can see and know what is going on with your daughter and such. Go back to court as well and get a good attorney.
2007-01-21 22:17:07 · answer #5 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do not give the child power like that. You are the parent and adult. Yes the father probably is brainwashing her. My ex does the same thing and its going to be hard for a few years until my son sees what he is doing and eventually he will. She is probably better off being away from someone controlling like that anyways. I would not change your life one bit.
2007-01-21 22:16:02 · answer #6 · answered by alexandria1_1999 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
If she is old enough to decide, I would let her go live with her dad, if that's what she wants......God bless ya
2007-01-21 22:24:13 · answer #7 · answered by Bert 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what is best for her.
See needs her father not a boy Friend
2007-01-21 22:18:18 · answer #8 · answered by zen522 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
the choice is yours not your daughters.
2007-01-22 02:50:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋