What is the reason behind marriage?

Question

I mean people can be happy too when they live together without marriage...
They can be committed to each other and in love with each other?

Who usually makes the first move for marriage?

Answer 1

i would say it is a combination of alcohol and stupidity

Answer 2

Since people who've lived a little while see that marriages are much more stable and long-lasting than live-in arrangements, regardless of what lies people like to tell themselves, those who want a real relationship, want marriage.

People can be in love, but if they're not married, they're not committed. They're together until, or together unless. Yes, some marriages fail, but once a marriage lasts 4 years, it's chances of ending are much lower than the 50% everyone quotes.

Hopefully, a big reason to go for marriage will be the desire to give children a proper home, with a mom who can stay home for at least 5 years, as children need and are severely harmed without, and a dad who is proud and happy to support his family. The data shows live-ins don't produce stable homes for their kids and that single parent homes are disasters for kids. (Tho people hate to face that.)

Back in my day - i'm an old 45 - there was no 'first move' for marriage. Marriage was just the logical step when people dated enough to know they'd found a good match.

When I look around at the bizzare ways 20 and 30 -somethings are conducting their relationships, I can't imagine how anyone decides to make the first move. The emotional damage done by day care and divorce on that generation is very clearly observable to those of us looking in on them.

I'm not religious and don't think imaginary gods have any bearing on this.

Answer 3

When two people live together they miss out on some of the "benefits" marriage has to offer. Some health insurance companies will not cover live in partners or children from a live in partnership. However by law they HAVE to cover married partners as well as children of that union. When a live in couple make a major purchase it can mean trouble and headaches for one of them if the couple ever splits. If one of the partners wants to move out and leave the other one with all of the bills they can. The one left living in the home is the one the mortgage company will go after if the payments are late, not the one who moved out. If the live in couple purchases a car together and then split up the car will more than likely have to be sold because again the one left with the car will be the one the loan company comes looking for to pay for the car.
Marriage on the other hand offers a type of "protection" against such things because all marital assets are divided 50/50 in divorce court. A husband just can't up and leave the family home making his wife totally responsible for all of the house hold bills. Usually in the case of a divorce one of the spouses will get the house one will get the car...in a divorce things are at least attempted to be worked out equitably. In a live in situation they don't HAVE to be worked out equiably. One of the few things that is totally across the board in either a marriage or live in situation is child support.
In a marraige should one of the partners die the other partner is automatically awarded their estate, in a live in situation the estate either goes to the dead partners blood relatives or the state, if the remaining partner is awarded everything in the deceased will the blood relatives CAN fight it in court and nine times out of ten the blood relatives will win, simply because they were related by blood.
That is the reason behind marriage, a little more security for both sides...it doesn't matter who makes the first move, traditionally it has been the man though..

Answer 4

Marriage to me has only ONE aanswer behind it and that is it is ordained of God, I am a Christian so living together or having children out side of marriage is not a sin but NOT the way it was all intended... not being married makes it easy for one or the other to simply just WALK, which they do now days anyway, but they also have to answer for that walking out in the courts !!! I ask this.. if ppl are so commited why dont they want the paper saying so ?? think about it ??????????
and as for who ask first and all, that is usualy by the man, just because !!! but I have known women that have made the first move, to me it realy do not matter !!!! God bless

Answer 5

people can live together without marriage but then they can also walk away just like that anytime...marriage is more about love and commitment. when you love someone unconditionally you wanna commit ur whole self to that person...signing a piece of paper and a white gown to some doesn't make any difference but as for me being a Christian, i believe that marriage is not only a union between the bride and groom but also with God...not everyone is okey with the thought of being married to someone so they decide to cohabit..when they get bored they just walk away..but in mariage people dont just walk away (although nowdays people do do that), they have a responsibility to their spouse and they try to make things work...so i would say to get married to someone there's more than "love" to b taken into account...
i think it's ussually the women who start givin out hints to the guy about "marriage" and sometimes the guys make the moves when they r scared they'll loose her if they dont act now..

Answer 6

Yes, some people can be happy without the ring and paper, but there will always be that dreaded, what if. There are no legal ties to be and stay committed. Any partner can leave at any time. I got married because I truly love my partner and want to be committed to only him for the rest of my life. As for who made the first move? We both came to a mutual decision. We both wanted it. Most times the female talks about it and the man acts on it. It is totally up to you and your partner if you get married. Good luck

Answer 7

Marriage is a tradition.
Personally, in American culture in this day and age I think that it's more of a convenience thing and less of a celebration of love. People get married because it's the next step or they're having a baby, I do not believe that the vast majority of people getting married take the time to fully think the entire thing through. If more people did then the divorce rate wouldn't be so high.

Answer 8

The reason behind marriage is to have a huge party that you pay way too much for. And a few years later you hate the person.

Just live together it's much cheaper and easier.

Answer 9

First the reason behind marriage is spiritual. Second, fornication is not good in the eyes of God. Many people get married for that reason along with knowing and understanding that neither one wants to be with anyone else. Plus it is a good example for children if there are any involved. My husband brought marriage up first to me. i think it is pretty balanced though even though most men would say it would be women.

Answer 10

To make it simple, it's to see if a person can keep his/her word for the rest of their life and also solving problems and never turn to divorce as a solution. Of cos that comes in both ways too..husband n wife. It's abt committment throughout ur life...can a person do that? Let's say when ur married and not suppose to separate for life....can u do that? When ur not married, it doesn't mean u have to be committed. As for ur 2nd question...either gender can make the first move, mostly guys tho.

Answer 11

This is true but marriage is much more commited and permament and it has vows behind it.... Usually the guymakes the first move but sometimes the woman does too.