ok...
over the past like 8 months wen i have sex,
i dnt use any protection at all.
this is cuz i want to get prego...
i dnt try to hard....
i dnt stress about it or nething....
it jus dnt work for me...
and ive been told to go to my gyno
but if ur under 18 i think they have to tell ur parents n i dnt want that...
plz dnt hate on wat im tryin to do...
im only 16 but i really want a baby...
you dnt undestand...
plz help...
wat am i doin wrong n wat to i need to do differently??!!
2007-01-21 14:05:16 · 24 answers · asked by *kat* 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
I know I wanted a baby more than anything when I was 16, and I tried the same things. But the universe will give you a baby when you're ready for one, I didn't get mine until I was 24. It sounds as if your reproductive system is immature, it will need a few years to fully be able to support a life, as women under the age of 18 are at the highest risk for miscarriage. In the meantime though, you should use protection so that you don't get an STD, most of them make you infertile, especially when left untreated. Honestly, just wait a few years because your body isn't done growing yet, and the heartache of miscarriage is one no one should have to bear.
2007-01-21 14:11:55 · answer #1 · answered by heartlostangel 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
All the people who have answered your question,has done so out of concern,not only for you but also for a unborn child.
You are to young to have a child now.It may feel that you are ready and all that,but when you look back in a couple of years,you are either gonna be happy or really sad.
Happy that you waited for that right guy to sweep you feet out from under you,or sad that that same guy doesn't want a another man's child.
Because i can promise you,Not all men will want a child from a another man,instead,he wants his own.
The guy that will be the father of this child,may stick it out,but he probably still wants to party and have fun,not stay home on a friday and change nappies.
Not all of the men are like that,but it can be a cruel world.
You are 16!Do you have job?Just wait a few more years and then you come back and ask the same question again and i promise you.You are gonna get different answers all together!
Don't think of only yourself,but also the baby that's gonna want all of the best you can possibly give.Think of that.Can you really give that child the best you can?
Good luck in this struggle to find a answer,but really think it through before making a decision.
It is your life and you should life up to the the consequences.
2007-01-21 20:38:39 · answer #2 · answered by joe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
O-K you asked for it! Girl you are playing with fire! You may think you want a baby, and you probably do ! I did too. I got my wish. There were things that I didn't think about like how I was going to feed my child where we were going to live, wow was I going to cloth my baby, how was I going to diaper him Etc Etc Etc... I could go on for a long time on the things that I didn't think of, but I'll get to the point! I never thought of having a child with special needs. and that was what I got! Oh don't get me wrong I loved him with every bit of my being but there were things that he needed that I could not give him, and yes there was help but it would have been much easier on him if I had waited until I was a little more responsible, a little more educated, and a little older so i could have gotten a better job in order to give him the things he deserved in life. Please don't be selfish and have a baby just because you want one! Find some one with a child that you can share and love and grow a little before you bring a little life into this ugly world Please for your baby!
2007-01-21 14:19:07 · answer #3 · answered by Jazzy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Bit of advice Babysit a lot like 5 or 6 days straight 24/7 in someone Else's home.You will soon change your mind when the kids are balling and crying and making messes and you have to clean it up, like puke and poop. So do you expect Mom and Dad to bail you out I think not! You just want a kid like a teddy bear or a toy.So do you expect welfare to bail you out Live in slummy place and you will be forced in 3 year to go out and get a job this is a new Clinton rule.
Not to mention because you are young you are at higher risk for birth defects and infant death because of your age.
Honey I have been there done this. Change your ways this is very dangerous behavior.Not to mention AIDS STD and all .
If I had to do it all over again I would not do it.
2007-01-21 14:20:50 · answer #4 · answered by dianehaggart 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My heart goes out to you and you will be in my prayers.
Are you independently wealthy? I ask this because I grew up - just my mom and I. My mom did not graduate high school and always had trouble paying rent wherever we lived. I lived in every city in north Texas as well as three different cities in Arkansas. I know you have no plans to do this to your child but these are things my mom could not control and she still pays for to this day, not to mention all the ways I have had to pay for my moms mistakes. Think about how much you will love your precious baby do you not want to wait till you are older, have meet your soul mate and have a wonderful home and atmosphere to provide your baby. I am 27 now , my husband and i have just started trying to have both of our first child and it is a very exciting time. But I would not have given up my graduation, wedding and everything else for the world. You have so many wonderful days ahead of you dont jump ahead of yourself live your life to the fullest and dont miss out on those special events.
2007-01-21 14:36:15 · answer #5 · answered by batgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you need to do differently is stop trying to have a baby. If you want real advice.
My mother had me when she was 16. To be quite honest with you she was a horrible mother. She was not emotionally ready to handle a baby, and treated me like crap. I never came first, not even second sometimes. I have had horrible anger/emotional problems when it comes to her and resent her with EVERY fiber of my being.
You are not ready to have a child at 16, you are merely a child yourself.......Now I am 22 years old. Im married own a house, etc...I was basically forced to grow up early with no real parents. (my father skippeed out when she got pregnant)...no help from him.
Im asking you to PLEASE wait. Don't put a baby/child through what I went through.
Most of the excitement of having a baby is knowing that you, and your husband created that baby out of LOVE....and knowing that baby was wanted.........
What will your boyfriend do?.....9 times out of 10 they leave, they say they will take good care of you...but at 16..a baby is a burden...Please wait....finish school...have a baby when you are emotionally & financially ready. Any child you have will thank you in the long run if you wait. TRUST ME on this one.
2007-01-21 14:14:02 · answer #6 · answered by JennyBoBenny 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should stop tryin to get pregnant altogether. I had my child when i was 17 yrs old and now im 22. Her dad and I are together and he has a good job and everything. Our life is fine in that sense but being so young, you still have the want to go out and enjoy yourself and it wont always be possible with a child.
2007-01-21 14:12:01 · answer #7 · answered by Christal E 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I do not hate you. But maybe it is God telling you to wait until you are married. Raising children as a single mother is not so cool as it seems. I have been divorced twice from very abusive husbands. At 40 I just found a man who actually loves me and my chidren. He is a wonderful man and I am thankful to God for him. However, it was not fun raising the children all by myslef especially when my exs did not pay child support or always broke their promises with the children on coming to see them. Please keep your spirits up about having children just wait until you are married and you can experience the true joy of it all. Trust your parents. I wish I would have mine, (I would of not married the other two men....my parents warned me about them. I just thought my parents were old fashioned and did not want me to grow up. Well I am 40 years old now and I know now that they only wanted the best for me and saw things that I could not see because I was just too clouded up by my own wants and desires not to listen to their good advice. I am now trying and praying that my children will listen to me.) So far they have.
2007-01-21 14:12:44 · answer #8 · answered by wow1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First let me say this...you need to learn how to spell correclty, use proper grammar and finish your education before you even consider bringing in a child that will easily cost you every bit of 3 hundred dollars per week. Not to mention housing, utilities, automobile and other daily needs for yourself such as food. Don't be a fool. Look out for number one first girlfriend...and number one is you. When you can walk that line and hold your own, then consider it again. Untill then, don't waste my tax dollars on your stupidity. Sorry, reality is what it is.
2007-01-21 14:11:38 · answer #9 · answered by IrishEyedGal 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There are clinics you can go to like "planned parenthod". You will have to pay up front but they don't tell. BUT, I seriously think that you really need to reconsider. You are SOOOO young. Don't you want to finish high school and ENJOY it...like Homecoming parties and Prom parties. What about college? I'm not saying that you can't finish high school or go to collage with a baby at home, you just need to think about your future AND the future or your babies. You have so much time! Just think about it.
2007-01-21 14:13:31 · answer #10 · answered by 2princesses 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋