I told my best friend a partial lie. She's smokeing and she's pregnant, I love her and the baby. I saw Dr.Phil say on a show "we need to get her to stop smokeing she's torchering that baby". When I herd that I really wanted my friend to be aware of what the effect's of her smokeing was to the baby. So the next time I talked to her I started telling her what Dr.Phil said, and I started rambling on about other things I had seen on TV, about what it does to the baby, and basically the part of me seeing the rest on tv was a lie the facts were true I just had red them online. So two day's later I felt guilty because I don't ussually lie and never to her. I told her that I lied I appoligized. She did'nt bring it up agian for 3 weeks, I also asked her not to tell anyone like her fionsay, she's getting married in two months and I was sappose to be her maid of honor. I thought, if you can forgive me then don't tell anyone. So now she's mad and cant forgive me. We have'nt talked in 4 day's.
2007-01-21 14:00:38 · 16 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
you are a good person and friend to be looking out for the unborn baby, you shouldn't feel bad or guilty she should and also she should feel ashamed, I just had my son on xmas eve I have smoked for many yrs but quit cold turkey throughout my pregnancy it was hard the cravings and all but when I look at my beautiful perfect son I know it was all worth it, you are a good friend...
2007-01-21 14:06:22 · answer #1 · answered by nissdonna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did nothing wrong. Somebody had to say something. The poor little baby can't speak for herself, and she is hurting the baby by smoking. Your friend will eventually come to realize that you meant her no harm. She's probably more upset by what she's hearing because she's in denial. Smoking is such a bad habit. In some ways the addiction is worse than drugs. If she doesn't come around, then there's nothing you can do. You did the right thing.
2007-01-21 14:07:45 · answer #2 · answered by true blue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may be a mother, but it doesn't mean she's any wiser. While you may be lying about the effect of smoking to her baby, you did it out of good intention and I don't blame you for making all the effort in the world. If she can't stop smoking for the sake of her baby, she's not a good mother and she's selfish. It has been proven that second hand smokers like her baby, have higher health risks than first hand smokers. If she already knows this, she's really selfish and should never have a baby in the first place.
2007-01-21 14:06:38 · answer #3 · answered by Hanna 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay first of all, there's this thing called spell check, use it torturing* fiance* suppose* sorry but bad spelling, irks me. about your situation, i think you were right in what you did, smoking could really hurt her unborn baby, and even after the birth of the child she still shouldn't smoke around him/her your friend probably thinks you are trying to tell her 1 how to live and 2 how to be a mom- pregnant women hate that since shes pregnant her emotions are running HIGH, call her in a few days and try to talk to her best advice i could give
2016-03-29 08:19:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what you did was something you did out of love for your friend. There are tons of research and statistics showing how bad smoking is for pregnant women and information on birth defects can be very impressive.
So, don't be upset if she can't forgive you now. She will realize later. Hopefully, her baby will be OK. But, why take any chances. Truth is worth suffering for!
2007-01-21 14:07:10 · answer #5 · answered by Kalistrat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your told her the truth...you love her and you will love her baby too.... she has to come to terms with that... smoking is bad. Hopefully she will come around, and maybe if she does, dont mention it, but give her support and help her understand that everything you do when you are pregnant can have some effect on that baby. She doesn't want to have to live with that for the rest of her life.
2007-01-21 14:07:40 · answer #6 · answered by sushihen2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You told her the truth... She is doing something that could harm her baby, and that isn't a lie. You did nothing wrong and if she wants to stop talking to you about it, well then at least you don't have to breath in her second hand smoke anymore!!!
2007-01-21 14:08:53 · answer #7 · answered by Couple of Cents 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry but you are right. Talk to her and give her information on things that could happen if she keeps smoking while pregnant. Tell her sweetly that you are concerned about her, if she's still mad at you. Try and have her see a doctor about that if she doesnt think she's hurting her baby.
2007-01-21 14:04:53 · answer #8 · answered by julyleobaby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She should realize that you are doing her baby a favor.
She's not a true friend if she acts like this.
I'm glad you said something to her. She's killing someone and you were right in telling her she should stop.
2007-01-21 14:05:56 · answer #9 · answered by ( Kelly ) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's only mad because you were right about the smoking and doesn't want to be reminded. If she doesn't want to be your friend anymore than she wasn't much of a friend.
2007-01-21 14:04:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋