How to you deal with depression? I'm having problems at work and my father died this past year. I am feeling

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really depressed and not sure how to bounce back. I don't feel like I need anti depressants, I took them for about 1/2 a year and I didn't notice a difference. I guess I am still mourning, and I can't seem to move on. Any advice?

P.s. I just want to stay home and cry all day lately.

Answer 1

Hi Myra,
My heart goes out to you. I also lost my Dad 8 weeks ago. It is so tough to lose a parent. I know what you are going through.

I have found going to grief counseling to be very beneficial. It makes you get out, go somewhere and talk with others who are suffering this kind of loss as well.

I found the grief counseling through the local hospice office.http://www.hospicenet.org/
They also have articles to read under the Bereavement title in the lower right hand side of the home page.

Bless you, if you need someone to talk to, email me

Answer 2

I'm so sorry about your loss. You're having a normal reaction to the loss of your father; there is nothing wrong with you. It will take time, and one year isn't a long time. Anti-depressants will help you make it through the day. If the last one didn't work for you ask for a different one. When one is alone to contemplate the misfortunes in their life, hopelessness, despair, and sadness set in. I'm sure your father would be upset if he knew he was the cause of your depression because as a parent, his primary goal was to safeguard you. Are you in a grief group? This is a great place to talk to people who know what you are feeling instead of your friends who probably feel helpless to comfort you. Volunteering at your local charities can also help. Anything that will keep you active will keep your mind occupied. & it will take a great deal of determination to carry through on your commitments. When I lost my son, I also took Ambien in order to go to sleep. Your body needs a good night's rest in order to function during the day. When I was going through my grief, I remember wondering if there would ever be a day that my last thoughts at night and the first in the morning won't be about him. The answer is yes, but it takes lots of time.

Answer 3

What you are going through is natural. It is a grieving process, and by trying to get over this you are not processing the feelings of sadness and anger that you must be feeling. What would be good would be to find a good bereavement counselor to help you get through this and realize that everything that is happening is normal and grief is highly individualized. No two people go through it in the same way or for the same amount of time. You will be feeling a little better each day, and one day you will wake up and instead of feeling the intense loss of your father, you will intead think of those gentle sweet memories that you have been blessed with. Stop being so hard on yourself, treat yourself with care and love and remember this will not last forever.

Answer 4

Over the last five years I had begun to have increasingly withdraw into a downward spiral of depression..

But now with the method I can fully focus my energy and thoughts into a decisive line on how to make my life better constantly. And it works like magic! I'm beginning to attract people to me once again and things have just been looking up since then.

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Answer 5

I can empathise with you there! I struggled with depression, even on antidepressants, for a long time after the death of my daughter, break down of my marriage and desertion by my family. The only thing that got me through it all was counselling. The lovely lady who practically saved my life was not even a fully qualified psychologist, just a counsellor, trained to listen. Just talking about how I felt and hearing back that what I was going through was completely normal helped immensely. Before that, I thought I was nuts! Find somebody you can talk to and get it all out there, out of your system where it is slowly poisoning you and making your life miserable. Good luck! Hope you feel better soon.

Answer 6

I'm so sorry. I know the feeling. My father past away also and we were very close.
You are going to go thorough stages of denial, anger, then acceptance. You shouldn't force yourself to bounce back. Take time to grieve.
Here is a fool proof plan for you that worked for me:
God, Exercise (everday at least 35 minutes high-intensity like running), Try to get plenty of sunlight, you can also talk to your father in your mind if you have unfinished business, be there for yourself, keep yourself busy, treat yourself to a spa treament, take a walk in the park, get a pet if you don't have one, and most importantly Cry when you need to. If it is still unbearable, then you can ask for further help with a counselour and never be ashamed to do so.
Take care,
Rachel

Answer 7

I'm so sorry to hear you are having problems.

A lot of times people need to try more than one anti-depressant to find one that works for them. Since you are reporting that you want to stay in bed all of the time, it sounds like you definitely need to talk to a psychiatrist about trying a different medication. At the same time, anti-depressants are not necessarily a cure-all; research has shown that the combination of medication and supportive therapy is the most effective cure for depression.

Good luck.

Answer 8

Do you have someone in your family or a close friend to talk to? Talking with someone helps.

Also, you may want to go to see a Psychologist or Counselor to sort out your feelings.

I know how you feel. My father died in October as a result of a bad fall. I'm still not over it.

Answer 9

Sounds like you were really close to your Dad. Try doing something to honor him, like making a website in his honor. Talking about him to friends and family alot also helps. That's what I did when my Mom passed. I know this sounds sad, or silly, but find any pictures of your Dad smiling or laughing! It will make tou feel so much better.
If you want to talk..email me

Answer 10

I'm sorry too. I think you should talk to a doctor. It's terrible and debilitating feeling like you do. There are different meds and dosages. Hope you feel better soon.