im being put in the middle of my brother baby momma drama and i dont know what to do. my brother is 20 and im 15. my brother got 2 girls pregnant he dont go with one no more and 1 girl had a baby last year in 2006 and the other girl is havin her baby in april and i just seen my nephew for the 1st time last nite (i only seen 2 pics of him) and now i feel like just because my brother is havin problems with his 2 baby mommas im been put in the middle of it. my mom is mad at me and both of my brother baby momma's is mad at me now. i dont know what to do.....i tired of my brother not growin up and bein a man. he wont handle his biz....i dont know what to do. i put my nephew pictures on myspace and i got in trouble for doing it. any advice....please
2007-01-21 13:57:46 · 8 answers · asked by *pretty girl* 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
First off you need to talk to all of the people who are mad at you and be like "Hey look I'm sick of all this Bull s*** you guys are putting me through. " and then tell the baby's mommas that they have no right to be mad at you because you weren't the one to get them pregnant. Tell your parents to focus their anger and frustration on your brother because he's the one who acting an a** and won't keep his d*ck in his pants. And for a closure remark tell them that you are there for moral support and not all that yelling and solving their problems.
2007-01-21 14:26:09 · answer #1 · answered by Ellion 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Family troubles blows big time. I know coz my family has had trouble just this past week. And it is even worse when you are not the cause of the problem, but you get stuck in the middle.
I would, if I were you, stay away from the "problems" as much as possible. Not sure why you are being blamed for anything really - doesn't make sense from what you wrote.
You cannot change other people, only yourself. So don't try and make your brother accept his responsibility. just make sure you do when the time comes.
For now though, just ride it out. Appologise to those who reckon you did them wrong, but tell them you didn't believe you were doign them wrong. They should understand that.
2007-01-21 14:08:56 · answer #2 · answered by Wes J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have the right to be a part of the children's lives. Just coz your brother is an irresponsible member of the male species, doesn't mean you should ignore the fact that you have to ignore the children! And as far as your mama being mad at you SHAME ON HER TOO!!!!! She should stand up and be a grandma to the babies! You go girl and be an auntie Good Luck to you
2007-01-21 14:06:47 · answer #3 · answered by Jazzy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your brother needs to learn what the word "condom" is and "responsibility". I hate guys like this. That is what is wrong with our generation. Men need to be men and stand up and do what is right. Now what kind of life do these two kids have?? More than likely if he is 20 and has two kids by two different women, he is going to have a whole lot more before it is over with. That is just total irresponsibility on his part. Poor kids!!!
2007-01-21 15:46:40 · answer #4 · answered by supersweetfungal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are the only one in your family that is the good person. I support you in wanting to get to know your nephew(s?). Good for you. As for your mom getting mad at you AND your brother, I'm here to tell you that having a baby is a VERY big deal, and trust me, she's probably a little bit short these days. In other words, she's more than likely in a bad mood.
I would suggest talking to your mom about how you feel like you are in the middle of this. Talk to her about how you would like to have a relationship with these two new precious family members. Also, tell your brother that (coming from me) he will be more in love with these babies than anything in the world if he gets to know them. My fiancee, soon to be husband, was SCARED TO DEATH when he found out I was pregnant. The minute he held our daughter when she was born, he fell in love with her. I tell everyone that after a minute after she was born, I would have died for her. Yeah, it's that intense. He will miss out on the most amazing love if he turns away now.
Good for you that you want to get to know your new additions to your family. You have every right to be excited!
2007-01-21 14:08:45 · answer #5 · answered by Tasha 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
suggestion for the destiny - you snooze you lose, chum. attempt operating a touch speedier next time. She for sure wasn't too into the guy interior the first position, if she enable another dude get to her.
2016-10-15 22:12:20 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you want to be a part of these babies live then try to be. the moms might thank you in the long run.
2007-01-21 15:39:37 · answer #7 · answered by michelle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not ur business so if they even try yelling at u just yell at them back say i didnt get u pregnate and walk a way
2007-01-21 14:38:22 · answer #8 · answered by cheergal4 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋