my husband stays with his mother through the week and me on weekends this drives me crazy cause i need his help how can i stop this he is 36 !!!
2007-01-21 13:57:27 · 19 answers · asked by tina 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
PLz Answer!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-01-21 14:01:00 · update #1
He needs to move and dwell with you or you will have to move with him and his mom.... If he will not live with you then more then likely you will have to divorce him. talk with him and tell him how you are feeling and see if he is open to going to marriage counseling with you... Why is he still living at home with mom if i may ask?
2007-01-21 14:00:39 · answer #1 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unless there is a job involved or his mother needs constant care, this makes no sense to me honey. At some point you are going to have to ask him where his committment lies. Although I don't think an altimatum is the answer, I do think it's time to start asking him the tough questions. This is no way for a marriage to survive. And if he gets defensive and argumentative about your need for a "normal" marriage, then it might be time to cut your losses and chalk this one up to a 'lesson learned' the hard way.
I wish I had better answers for you, but marriage doesn't work this way and this is a first for me. I wish you the happiness you deserve and I hope things find a way to work themselves out.
2007-01-21 14:05:39 · answer #2 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If is mother is in need of a caregiver then ask him to hire one for her. Or have her live with the two of you so that you can share the burden with him. If on the other hand he is just trying to avoid intimacy with you, then you have another issue and I would suggest seeing a marriage and family therapist. Good luck.
2007-01-21 14:03:49 · answer #3 · answered by curious 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is not normal. I was once married to a man that put his mother first. No matter what she came first. I ended up with severe depression. Long story short we divorced after 16 years. He never could see what he was doing was destroying our marriage. If I were you try to get him to go to a counselor. Maybe if you get him into counseling it could help him see that this is just not normal behavior.
2007-01-21 14:11:08 · answer #4 · answered by Janst 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi my name is Debra I don't understand why your husband is not with you & with his mother married couples live together not apart he needs to get himself some help if he says he loves you he should be with you not somewhere else if you love him enough keep on fighting to get him away from his mother.
2007-01-21 14:29:36 · answer #5 · answered by Debra Workman 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is he living with her? Is it related to his commute to work or her health? If your MIL is in poor health, someone can look after her at a nursing home or adult day care.
You didn't mention how long you've been married to him or how long he's been doing this.
You and he may want to try marriage counseling. If he doesn't want to go, then go without him.
2007-01-21 14:05:35 · answer #6 · answered by salsera 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's definitely a Mama's boy. The only way to get him away from his mother is for the both of you to move hundreds of miles away to another state.
2007-01-21 14:03:14 · answer #7 · answered by janetrmi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey you need to get a man. What you have is not. You need to let him know how you feel and if he is not willing to provide and meet your needs which is part of being married then you would be better off without him.
2007-01-21 14:01:16 · answer #8 · answered by crystal A 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Holy crap. Tell him he's married to YOU, not his mother! He needs to cut the cord!
He needs to make a choice- you or her. If he can't part from his mommy's breast, then run far away from this loser!
I hope you don't plan on having kids with him!
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