they are not active, tired all the time due to their sickness, needs to be taken to hospital twice a week, is it worth it? not married yet just dating
2007-01-21 13:51:14 · 8 answers · asked by hwdfoo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Not worth it. Leave him/her at once.
Here's the deal. You date her hoping to marry her........at least that was your original plan. Now that you know that she is sick it means she can't hold up the deal in a marriage. The marriage vow is "in sickness and in health", but you are not married to her yet. What everyone hopes in a marraige is a lifelong companion who will have children with and to bring up the children together. With a sick spouse, how can that happen? It's not fair that a sick person should go into a marriage knowing they might die soon, leaving the spouse to handle the pain and to bring up the children all on their own. Would the sick partner want to put their children through the pain of the loss and to probably live an unhappy life with a step-parent in the future. The selfless thing for her to do is to let you go. A seriously sick person is not suitable to be married. Their medical care and burden should fall on themselves and their parents. They should not complicate things and bring more sorrow to more people.
2007-01-22 03:33:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my 20s, I would have said yes. Now that I'm in my 40s and now something about this, I would say - no. Don't do it. It makes life too hard. You have the right to a healthy partner. Either of you could get injured in a car accident tomorrow, but you have the right to start off healthy.
2007-01-21 22:02:47 · answer #2 · answered by t jefferson 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I will never date an unhealthy partner,it is a drag down, I intend to be happy and active ,have good experience in life.I don't care if she'd promise to leave her millions to me. My time is so precious to spent in that kind of relationships.
2007-01-21 22:03:45 · answer #3 · answered by Vannili 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long have you been dating? Six months or less, cut your losses. Six months plus, weigh the pros and cons, what can this individual offer you? How old are you? Do you have children? These are all things you must consider.
I am not trying to be heartless, but in my opinion you really need to look out for yourself, if you don't who's going to?
2007-01-21 21:57:46 · answer #4 · answered by Aunt Henny Penny 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
only if u are willing to put his needs first, and know that in the future he may get sicker, and needier. but if u are in love and totally committed to him than he is a very lucky man
2007-01-21 21:58:10 · answer #5 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if they were sick before u got with them then i wouldnt get in the relationship because if somethig bad happends then you are going to be the one who gets hurt. but if you were with them before they got sick then it would be wrong to leave unless ur really unhappy
2007-01-21 22:19:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I sure would as i would want to be unselfish and put their needs above my own.
2007-01-21 21:56:25 · answer #7 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I loved someone and they had medical problems, I wouldn't let that hold me back.
2007-01-21 21:54:39 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋