2007-01-21 13:48:26 · 9 answers · asked by thug_angel1986ny 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My dad was in the Navy. I remember the moms all took pride in being "Navy Wives" and agreed that only women of stamina, patriotism, generosity, and organization could truly make it as a military wife.
You have to move a lot. You have to help your kids adjust to the move and help the new community function. You have to be a giver.
If you're husband's an officer, you will have a very demanding schedule of entertaining that you have no choice about if you're not going to hurt his career.
If your spouse goes to war, it can definitely change him for the worse. PTSD and many other emotional problems, as well as risking disabiltity and death. Otherwise, military usually has a positive impact on a person, although my dad noticed the FOX NEWS brainwashing going on in most mess halls and exercise rooms at military bases, so that can have a very negative impact on a military person's ability to think.
2007-01-21 13:52:48 · answer #1 · answered by t jefferson 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are expecting marriage to be easy military or not then you shouldn't get married. Marriage in or out of the military is something one has to work on 24/7. Yes a spouse in the military can be a bit harder on someone who is totatlly dependent upon their partner for everything. Frankly I enjoyed it when my ex was in the military because of the times where I had to be totally responsible for taking care of things at home. I am sure that being in battle having to face an enemy and have the task of killing or be killed dropped upon you would have a pretty profound effect on life once back on the home front. I have a friend who was in the Navy during Viet Nam and they would often Napalm villages, and as they sat off the coast they could see the villagers (children) running into the sea because they were burning to death only to wind up drowning. Yes this has an effect on people. Yes someone who lived through all of that would be changed.
BTW we didn't get divorced until he had been retired for five years and working in as a civilian.
2007-01-21 21:56:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being a military wife is very hard. The military will always come first. You will make plans and they will have to change because of the military obligation. It is easier for me because I was military at one time. I do understand it. Most spouses who do not have a military background have a very hard time. Yes it will change your spouse and change you as well.
2007-01-21 22:10:26 · answer #3 · answered by sexyladyinak 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being a military wife is the hardest thing to do. The divorce rate for service men is unbelievable and almost always cited as infidelity. They're away alot and chicks get lonely, there's a lot of Playas around the base and it's easy to give in. If you're really worried about it then you're NOT ready. trust me I've seen it all from service wives.
2007-01-21 21:55:53 · answer #4 · answered by riddler2237 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not easy. But some men it can change and some it just does not because they have character to begin with. I was married to a Marine for sometime and I was too young to appreciate it. It is a good life and I would do it again if I got the chance. You just have to know who you are and who he is and know how strong your love is. Be honest and know that is the love you and life you want.
2007-01-21 21:56:00 · answer #5 · answered by soulmate_n_nc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I myself am not married to a military man but, my cousin is and she loves him dearly. She is so worried about him being deployed. I guess that would be the hardest part. They don't know when, where or even if they will be deployed. That is a scary thought. They have a small child and she is worried. I can't blame her though.
2007-01-21 21:53:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i had a teacher in high school last year, and when ever her husband called she would stop class and talk to him for about 15 mins... he would be gone for months at a time.. and she raised 3 kids on her own.. form what i have scenes it takes a strong person to do it ... I'm sure it would give your life alot more worrying and alot more time consuming ( always waiting for calls) but ever situation is different.. good luck!!
2007-01-21 21:55:06 · answer #7 · answered by Emmie S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont beliee it is easy because they are not so much in your immediate life but I wouldn't say it would change for the worst if anything it would change for the best because he or she has gained discipline and responsibilty and the long break will strenghten your marriage because you can relight that fire when they return
2007-01-21 21:54:01 · answer #8 · answered by DeathBe4Dishonor 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its really hard and yes it does change people. Its a tottaly different lifestyle trust me.....
2007-01-21 21:52:05 · answer #9 · answered by cmp 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋