no it's not like someone died, or my boyfriend just broke up with me. i feel like i have no friends, even though i do. and no, i'm not suicidal or depressed.
2007-01-21 13:47:14 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
i'm 13 and outgoing.
2007-01-21 16:14:04 · update #1
It sounds like perhaps your "friendships" are a bit superficial, and that they are more "aquaintences" than "friends" This could be why you feel lonely.
Perhaps you feel lonely because you automatically assume that no one would ever understand you, therefore you don't ever give anyone the chance to really get to know the real you.
You don't need to be ALONE in order to feel LONELY. Lonely can be more than just a simple "by yourself" VS "with other people" concept. It can be a feeling of isolation, in that you can't believe there is any other person that feels the way you feel, or that truly understands you. You can be social, and hang with friends, and it seems like your having a great time, being with others....and yet, there can easily be that feeling... that feeling that your friends don't always truly understand you, or don't really KNOW what you feel and why. They cannot though, because they are their own person, they are NOT you. They haven't lived your life, haven't experienced whatever you've experienced.
It can leave you feeling a bit isolated, or Lonely.
There is nothing wrong with feeling lonely, but if you are wanting to stop that feeling, perhaps you can try to really open up and really express your thoughts and feelings to someone. I wouldn't do that with all my friends, but you probably know one in particular, or maybe even two, that would listen and be receptive. Hopefully they are the kind of person to really make an effort to understand your perspectives.
If you have siblings, and I don't know that you do, a sibling can be your absolute best friend in the whole world...if you'd let them.
2007-01-21 16:01:40 · answer #1 · answered by luv2roq 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel the same. It is a crappy feeling. The best advice I can give is keep busy, especially getting off the computer because I realize being on the computer for too long is depressing. Watch some exciting movies which might open your imagination and make you feel better. Maybe read a good book. Try to get out of the house as often as possible. Good luck!
2007-01-21 21:53:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
remember this, sweety: U ARE NEVER ALONE. As long as u have some way to contact people, it's all good. Actually, do u feel like u r all alone, even in a crowd of people?? I get that too, and the internet is how i cope. If u want, u can email me anytime, or I M me, and we can chat, OK? NO ONE should ever feel that way, EVER!!
I want to help in any way I can, so don't be afraid to I M me, ok?
Hope this helps.
2007-01-21 21:53:49 · answer #3 · answered by thundergnome 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say you DO have friends. If you feel really lonely, contact some of these friends. Go hang out with them for a while. It usually works. But you have to make contact.
2007-01-21 22:43:13 · answer #4 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like everything's okay, but you're just in a bad mood. Call somebody or go to sleep, it will be better in the morning. If not, go hang out with someone tomorrow.
2007-01-21 21:51:14 · answer #5 · answered by sarcastro1976 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yeah i feel you girl. is it a feeling that you can't really trust anyone around you. or is it that no one is what you expect. don't worry that happens to others around you too & if you take time, you'll find the one that can be your best, you know your other half. ;) like a sister from a diff mother
2007-01-21 21:56:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
get involved with the community. like help the handicapped kids. if you spend all the time thinking about yourself then you will feel lonely but if you get involved youll feel proud and will amke friends.
2007-01-21 22:05:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Expand you horizons and get involved in activities that you enjoy. Could be at your church, or a food kitchen or any organization, they would welcome your help, and you will meet many nice people. God Bless and hope you feel better soon, and remember you are not alone.
2007-01-21 22:00:27 · answer #8 · answered by Janice 10 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I felt that way when I was quite young. A wise one told me to stop thinking about myself, and do things for others. I can see that, that really healed me. I deeply empathize.
2007-01-21 21:59:22 · answer #9 · answered by Blank 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Check your local newspaper for voluteer work. You'll meet people with similar interests in no time!
2007-01-21 21:52:18 · answer #10 · answered by Bugmän 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋