I am currently going through a separation with my husband which will ultimately end in divorce. I have 2 young children. Can there be light at the end of the dark tunnel?
2007-01-21 13:45:21 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
YES! There can and there will be. Will it be easy? No. If you have a job, evaluate if you could be doing something else that might help you make more money or get you promoted. You're about to become the head of your household and you want to position yourself to be earning as much as possible without sacrificing your family. If you aren't employed, it's time to check with public service agencies about training, if you need it, so you can get a decent paying job. The point I'm trying to make is: don't be a victim. Take charge of your life and take responsibility for making it as good as you can, for the sake of your children. If necessary, get counseling for you and your children to help you cope with the changes and the grief over lost trust and a lost marriage and to give you the emotional support you're going to need. Your children will take their cues from you. If you work at building your own confidence, you will give them confidence. If you act weak and destroyed and victimized, they will be frightened and insecure. And, most importantly, don't defend but don't bad-mouth their father. They'll figure out for themselves who and what he is. Also take the moral high road and show them what it means to have real class. It will make a huge difference for them and they will love you more for it as they get older.
2007-01-21 14:08:17 · answer #1 · answered by Yo' Mama 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes believe it or not there is life after divorce even though it is hard... There is a light at the end of the tunnel... You may also want counseling and help to get past this and the pain of it.
2007-01-21 21:53:41 · answer #2 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know the circumstances of your divorce, but yes there is life after....but only if you want it enough to make the effort. Try not to become jaded and assume that men are "all the same"....take each person as an individual. Divorce can do heavy duty damage to our sense of trust in others....and unfortunately in our own judgements. That was the worst for me....learning to trust my good judgement again. Take some time for yourself to heal.....don't rush into anything you're not comfy with. Consider some councelling....even if it's just a place to vent, you'll pick up some very handy "life tools" from councellors. Research the heck out of the subject on google (eg: how to survive divorce)....the more informed you are the better you'll face your new life.....call it that "my new life"...not "my divorced life". When you're ready, get yourself out there...join clubs, take a night class in something fun....anything to help build up the confidence again. Treat yourself kindly....you've suffered a knock, but don't allow it to take the feet out from under you....you've got lots of living left to do. Much luck! :)
2007-01-21 21:55:26 · answer #3 · answered by Justlookin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, indeed their is life after divorce and speaking from experience. First realize this, if u an emotional wreck, ur children will be the same. Learn to seperate the difference between ur emotionals & ur childrens emotions. They are watching u. Take the time to heal, there is no limit on that time frame BUT you need to decide when to get out of the valley and begin to live again. Get involved in community based groups, find urself a good support group of friends or family. GET COUNSELING.... GET COUNSELING... GET COUNSELING for yourself! Find friendly activities for you and ur children to get involved in maybe in church or some other mutual interest. Love urself always
2007-01-21 22:24:28 · answer #4 · answered by Vetta 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am recently divorced with 1 very young child. At first you will have your good days and your bad days. What got me through the tough times was family, good friends and my child. I knew I had to be strong for my child. When I feel down I look at their little face and when they smile back...wow it definitely lifts my spirits. If you can, have someone watch your children overnight and have a girls night out! Trust me you may not want to but it will help. By the end of the night you will feel better!!
2007-01-21 22:24:04 · answer #5 · answered by lexie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Believe me, if you make sure that you do whats right, keep your head up, look after the welfare of you children, and keep a positive attitude, yes, I can tell you that life will be fine and there is light at the end of the tunnel.
2007-01-21 21:50:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Their is always light at the end of the tunnel!! When one light burns out you replace it and start new. Maybe the second or third bulb will last longer or maybe a life time- Good Luck
2007-01-21 21:51:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is there life after divorce?? Oh Honey YES!!
I was divorced after 10 years of marriage and two beautiful daughters.. Wanta know what I did??
I picked myself up, dusted myself off, and started over.
I am so much happier now than I was when I was married.
As for your children..
My mother always used to say.
It is far better to come from a broken home, then to live in one.
Good luck to you.
2007-01-21 22:02:03 · answer #8 · answered by Aunt Henny Penny 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can say yes there is life after divorce, I went through it three years ago and am fine and much happier now.....there is a light you just have to sometimes take your time to getting there.
2007-01-22 01:38:08 · answer #9 · answered by linus1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im a male & i went through one after being married for 19 years .and it takes time but you will get over it .all of a sudden she wanted a divorce ,it really hurts when u r the one still n love,but i got over it and finally see the sky is blue after the dark clouds pass
2007-01-21 22:58:32 · answer #10 · answered by injun 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋