We both loooooooved it!!!!!! and now we can't keep our hands off each other!
2007-01-21 13:20:19 · 21 answers · asked by Yvonne T 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I don't know but if you find out let me know. Me and my hubby did one, and he freaked out, says everything is changed, and hated everything about it. I on the other hand loved it. Isn't that usually the other way around?
2007-01-21 13:24:24 · answer #1 · answered by intensegrl74 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
There's an old saying that goes,"the enemy of my enemy must be my friend". I'm not saying the extra person should be considered an enemy, but it probably gives you and your husband a shared perspective. Not to mention the fact that you both shared something new and exciting, and shared it together. How that translates into your bedroom activities when it's just you two, I wouldn't know. I would think the excitement level would be a bit lower in comparison, but that's just a guess. Good for you two. I think a threesome would have serious potential to screw things up. I'm glad to hear that you've decided to emphasize the positive aspects.
2007-01-21 13:51:01 · answer #2 · answered by rtanys 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, I would say it has brought you closer emotionally because you've removed a giant issue from your marriage... sex. You've done it together with someone else and realized that you are not going to leave each other for the other person. This removes the petty jealousy that resides in most relationships about this.
By removing jealousy over sex as a possible issue you've realized and defined what it is that makes you a couple, instead of either of you being with someone else or still with one of your ex's. You can have great sex with lots of people, but everything else you have with your spouse - companionship, friendship, knowing all each other's darkest secrets and still loving each other, etc. - can only be had with this one person.
If great sex was all it took to keep a relationship together many of us would still be with one of our ex's, but they obviously lacked the other stuff that makes you want to be with them when you're not having sex.
As for keeping your hands of each other? You're one of the rare and lucky people that get supercharged sexually by the thought of your spouse having a good time with someone else. It is a very unselfish way to be. As I've said numerous times, my wife is my favorite pornstar. It's all my fantasies in one woman.
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2007-01-22 03:51:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Did you have this with a extra guy or girl? Bet it was a girl. Ask him next time if it can be an extra guy. Bet he won't think that is to cool. Honey, it may seem cool now, but quite frankly is sick, I guarantee you before to long you will have no respect for each other. Well, hell, you already have no respect for each other or it wouldn't have happened.
2007-01-21 13:29:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Sick, sick, sick!!! This is adultery. This is against everything God ordained marriage to be. All 3 of you need to repent and stop this. God says all adulterers will go to hell. Don't you know that we are in the end times? Repent before it's too late!!!
2007-01-21 13:34:31 · answer #5 · answered by janetrmi 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
want the easy answer? Cuz yer perves and you finally admitted it and had fun with it... Believe me its no biggy.. enjoy...
MFM FMF MMFF MFMF MMMMFFFF ad infitinum.. been there done that LOL (and thats just the simple stuff).. have fun.. dont ask questions LOL
(personally I always prefered the MFM's to FMF's.. thats way to much pressure on me HA!)
and NO its not adultry if theres no sneaking and lying about it.. any one that tells ya different should be slapped.. adultry isnt about the sex its about the betryal & lies..
2007-01-21 13:27:44 · answer #6 · answered by darchangel_3 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋
You never said if it was with another man or woman. If your husband was lucky, you brought home another woman. If it was another man, then that would explain more than I'd want to know about him.
2007-01-21 13:27:27 · answer #7 · answered by oblivious 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think its a deepened felling that your spouse has the ability to attract others--so you and he both try harder to please each other to keep them home--even tho you know they are not going anywhere --the fact that they could find another --you know this because you saw it to be true--It took the safe edge off the comfort zone--
2007-01-21 13:30:13 · answer #8 · answered by skizzle-d-wizzle 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
On big reason is he knows he can trust you, second reason you gave him something most men fantasize about their whole lives and now he has it as a memory. and thirdly he is probably planning on doing it again.
2007-01-21 13:25:43 · answer #9 · answered by Serenayowlerlove 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Congratulations, it often doesn't work so you give hope to many couples that want to try it but are afraid. Glad it worked for you enjoy.
2007-01-21 13:28:03 · answer #10 · answered by noddy 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋