she does not take the time to clean or pick up during the day and feels will not implement any kind of system to get the kids on a cleaning system. She is unorganized with the house ( runs around all the time because she does not manage a schedule)I have to call her during the day to remind her to take out diner, iron for me and do laundry. She has the attitude of "I would rather not" She wants to loose weight but wont excercise with me and wont talk to her doctor about the deprecion I believe she has.
2007-01-21 13:15:31 · 6 answers · asked by Mark C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well it really sound's like you hit the nail on the head..She defiantely sound's like she is depressed and if you don't get her help it can become very serious.Good Luck
2007-01-21 13:24:38 · answer #1 · answered by Maureen B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's home all day, doing nothing, "would rather not", unorganized even when it comes to the children, I would definately say theres a very good chance she is depressed..If she refuses to see and doctor you might want to sit her down and tell her again why you believe that she should seek help. If she's still refusing at that point you might want to tell her that while she's comfortable with living her life unmanaged, that you are very concerned for her emotional well being that you aren't,comfortable living this way, and that you'll have to consider leaving as an option if she won't seek that help. Be supportive and offer to go with her. Perhaps this threat alone will give her a shove in the right direction. I'm not advocating a divorce, just suggesting desperate measures.......a family intervention might also help....could you draw family together to express their concern for her well being and that they also feel she needs help? This might give her the depression "wake up call" she needs. Much luck with this.
2007-01-21 13:34:28 · answer #2 · answered by Justlookin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, it definitely sounds like depression. She needs to seek counseling.Her neglect of the house and kids could be a symptom of her depression. You didn't mention if this behavior has just started recently; or if this has been an on-going problem through out your relationship with her. And, how old is she? Does mental illness run in her family? Theses are questions you need to ask yourself. Maybe you can make an appointment with her family DR. He can do a consultation with her; then refer her to a good therapist.
2007-01-21 13:28:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people just don't like systematic life styles--or were not raised that way--maybe if you showed rather than told she would get the drift--And she might feel like she is doing all the work (or asked to ) in the home--even tho she is a homemaker some people just don't feel its their place to do it all--
2007-01-21 13:25:50 · answer #4 · answered by skizzle-d-wizzle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
slap her with divorce papers and get a hot girlfriend that will wait on you hand and foot and fulfill her duties as a woman (and shes freaky in bed)
2007-01-21 13:46:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her to shape up or ship the **** out quit being a slob and lasy
2007-01-25 09:21:08 · answer #6 · answered by sweetgranny06 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋