when i don't have the strength to push myself sometimes....
i'm 16 by the way.
2007-01-21 13:14:07 · 7 answers · asked by Meno 1 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
Oh, what a GREAT question. Your motivation to become a better person shows just in the fact you can ask this question. You can ask your Mom for encouragement and guidance. It's a natural reaction for, when one is pushed, to push back against the pressure. This can create friction and cause undesired reactions. Give yourself more credit, you already sound like a good person. Also, remember that God loves you just the way you are.
2007-01-21 13:43:48 · answer #1 · answered by Give life. Be an organ donor! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Recognizing that you want help from your Mom is really the biggest hurdle to jump over in solving this problem. I don't sense that you and your Mom are mostly at odds with each other, which would not make it easy to approach her on this problem. I think you might be reluctant to ask her for more of her time to be a little more aware of your needs or a little more consistent with her help, support and guidance. You probably think you will hurt her feelings by asking her to push you more. You can ask her what has caused her to back off from pushing you if that is part of the problem. She just might not even think you would appreciate more supervision. Maybe she backed off because you rebelled? If any of this is part of the problem, then carefully think thru how you need her help. By age 16, we usually know what approach works best for us.
Tell her you need some time, if time is a problem, to discuss something really important to you and her. You will need her undivided attention alone. She will either set a time or drop everything and listen. Ask her to hear you out before jumping in to solve the problem, because you have some ideas of your own you want her to try with you. If you don't have ideas of how she can help, then ask for suggestions from her as to how she thinks she can help you best with the area or areas you define to her. Pick the suggestions you think will work for you and set a time frame, say- 2 weeks, 1 month- to review your progress or lack of progress. If you have made progress, then continue with your remedy or remedies. Refine them if you need to. If there is no progress, work out together what strategy to try next. Mothers don't want their children to withhold problems from them. Mothers want to help and want to see their children succeed. Approach her with "I have a problem and I need your help solving it". Don't approach her with a blaming attitude as if she has caused your problem. You own the problem and she is part of the solution! Good Luck.
2007-01-21 21:55:15 · answer #2 · answered by shari w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you laying this on your mom? At 16 you
should have enough sense to become a better person
than you are now. What do you mean by better?
What are y ou now? Be a man--you can do it.
2007-01-21 21:44:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I'm almost your age, and I can tell you that you need to learn to push yourself. Noone's going to be there to help you forever. You have to make that happen for yourself.
2007-01-21 21:40:50 · answer #4 · answered by sothisislife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take the shortcut. Go straight to the source. Eliminate the middle man. catch my drift?
2007-01-21 22:17:11 · answer #5 · answered by Crabby Patty 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her if she still doesnt then you just hafe to push your self.
2007-01-21 21:19:01 · answer #6 · answered by Pholla 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Would you really respond to that?
2007-01-21 22:50:10 · answer #7 · answered by Voodoid 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋