How can I get my friend to see that smokin weed everyday is a problem?

Question

I have been talkin to this guy n whatever else we do for a yr now n i like him but don't want to commit to him cuz he needs to get it together before that would happen. he been smokin weed his whole life i think. Anywayz, he's 23, livin wit his momma still, dropped out of college, and works a job that has terrible hours and doesn't pay much. I really care about him n think that i can help him. He works late n sleeps till 1 or 2pm everyday! When I ask him what he wants to do wit his life he says just survive. When i ask him what he did today he says he slept. I know that he might have real reasons to smoke as much as he do...ya know for relaxation, stress, n just pretty much to get over the fact that he wasn't given the best chance in life to succeed, but doesn't weed just make everything worse. I am conviced its partly the weed that doesn't make him want anything more. I used to smoke...but this is probably his problem right? I really want to help him see that he can do more w himself

Answer 1

Yes, this is his problem and he's the one that has to want to quit. If you care about him don't enable him, like making excuses for him (relaxation & stress), there are other ways. As for "not given the best chance in life to succeed," honey some people have it much worse. If you care about him, know your facts so that you can lay it down for him.
Here are a couple of wesites for more info.

http://www.nida.nih.gov/MarijBroch/Marijteens.html

http://www.theantidrug.com/drug_info/drug-info-marijuana.asp

Answer 2

There is something else wrong here.....People can smoke weed everyday and still be productive. He seems like he is just depressed about his life and doesn't think he will ever amount to anything. If he smokes all day everyday, that is a problem, but if he can be productive during the day, and just smoke when he gets off work or when he's done with everything for the day......That will definitely help.

Answer 3

You can't make someone stop doing drugs. They have to want to stop. Yes, the weed does make things worse. It's a "downer", which means it's going to make your friend tired, depressed and will contribute to lack of ambition. As long as the people who care about him look the other way and offer excuses for why he's using weed, he will continue to use it. This is called "enabling". I used to smoke pot and found that I didn't move forward with my life while I was getting high. When I stopped using it to relax and to ease stress, I began to grow and found that I was stronger than what I gave myself credit for.

Bottom line is, he has to want to stop. He has to want to be better. Nobody can do it for him. You have to decide what kind of life you want and move with it. Don't let someone else decide that for you.

Answer 4

Your friend is making it a problem.
Many people smoke weed everyday, but have good jobs and are productive members of society.

Perhaps your friend has other problems like depression, which is preventing him from being the best he can be.

Answer 5

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Answer 6

Show him people who did drugs for a long time. You know the homeless, creepy guys

Answer 7

hide all the weed and throw it in the garbedge can then take the trash out.

Answer 8

One thing you could do is go to your local doctor's office and get some info about local people who have died from smoking marijuana. This could be very effective especially if someone he knows is one of them.

Answer 9

Wow..look at me, I don't know what to say!!!