i have been dating this divorced guy for over 3 mons now and before it gets any farther i want someones opinion on this.he was married for 7yrs with a child that he adoors.hes the best/loving dad i have ever seen.the problem is he cheated on his wife not once but 2x and finally left her for an old gf(not me).he told me his wife was so bad to him she drove him to cheat.i will say in the 3 short mons i have known him he has been nothing short of wonderful/accommodating to her but she has made his life a living hell.example i heard her call him a f-cking a-shole in front of thier 5 yr old child and he just walked away.i asked him if she was so bad to u why did u not leave.he said when u have a child its not that easy u want to make it work.what do u guys think can a controlling wife make u cheat or did he make her that way from all his cheating/lieing on her?
2007-01-21 13:04:26 · 15 answers · asked by heather5jean 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Don't make the biggest mistake of your life. If he's cheated twice already he'll do it again.
Trust me on this one.... I'm not a teenager or twenty-something.
If he stayed with his wife because of the kids he still shouldn't have cheated. He'll come up with some ridiculous reason for cheating on you.
2007-01-21 13:12:19 · answer #1 · answered by janisko 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO.There is absolutely no excuse for cheating ever..Also let me add that it is never good to stay in a relationship because you have kid's..That is the worst mistake that parents make.The kid's alway's pay for it in the long run when unhappy parents stay together and drag on misery.And If this man is a cheater why on earth would you want to be with him.Once a cheater alway's a cheater.He was probably all wonderful in the beginning with his wife too.Anyone that cheats is a immoral dishonest person.Think about that is that what you want in your life to eventually end uo to be the OTHER woman because I can almost bet that is what will happen to you if you are foolish enough to trust this man.Sorry I am just brutally honest.
2007-01-21 13:17:21 · answer #2 · answered by Maureen B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it kinda goes both ways .. I think that if he was such a good guy then he would have divorced her before he cheated. Not only did he cheat on her but he also disrespected his daughter when he made those decisions. If he cheated then its more than likely he will do it again. That is way to much badge for you to put yourself in to.He cheated on her when she was raising a child i can kinda understand why she would be so cold hearted.. i mean there is only so much hurt a person can hold .That makes no sense for him saying he didn't want to leave because of his child because he turned around and was out with other women ? i just don't think he is worth it and i would get myself out.. 3 months ? that's not long at all.. good luck girl!!
2007-01-21 13:13:34 · answer #3 · answered by Emmie S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi there! Of course it's easy to say when your not the one involved.....but i think once a cheater, always a cheater. No offence intended. Of course its never easy with relationship breakdowns and children BUT sticking with it for the sake of the child is an excuse.
There is no "good reason" for cheating on someone. Really, can you think of one that you would accept?
Further, of course he will be well behaved in front of you with his ex cause your dating him! I'm sure he is a nice guy but go into this with both eyes open and not behind rose-coloured glasses.
I don't question what kind of father he is but as a husband, would you marry him? That may help put it in perspective for you.....*don't mean to be harsh just my opinion*
2007-01-21 13:17:45 · answer #4 · answered by kelstar 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one can make a person cheat. It is a choice that person makes. If he was so unhappy and she was so awful why didn't he just leave instead of cheating not only once, but twice? You know the answer he cheated and broke his family up because he wanted to have sex with someone other than his wife.
2007-01-21 15:18:41 · answer #5 · answered by tomimegi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You only got one side of the story... his. Just because you heard her call him a name means nothing. You were not around him 24/7 when he was husband and father. Remember, you already know he IS capable of cheating, he has done it before, doesn't that worry you? The fact that he is not faithful? Just because it was not you he did it too, doesn't mean it won't be in the future, most times people don't change. Furthermore, you can't MAKE someone be anything, you can't make them cheaters, liars, controlling, etc. we are who we choose to be.
L.
2007-01-22 05:08:40 · answer #6 · answered by tink3610 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NOBODY "drives you to cheat" unless they are giving you a ride over to the house. Everyone is responsible for their own actions. If his wife is that bad, then he should get a divorce first instead of looking for a way to justify his actions.
2007-01-21 13:11:24 · answer #7 · answered by J D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is NO excuse for cheating, whatsoever! Get rid of him. This one is a real loser and you have no business being with him.
Look...a man who blames a woman he cannot deal with is not a man, any more than a matador who blames the bull for trouncing him is a matador.
2007-01-21 13:06:45 · answer #8 · answered by Joseph C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cheating is a choice and not you cannot be driven to it as it is just that a choice... We make choices in our lives and marriages whether they be the right or wrong ones. No one can make you cheat.
2007-01-21 13:19:35 · answer #9 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before you believe everything about what this man says about his exwife try talking to her and finding out what her version is. There may be more than you know. He could have treated her so badly that maybe now she is lashing out back at him.
2007-01-21 13:10:44 · answer #10 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋