shes my 9 year old sons tutor and babysitter, he even has a crush on her and I find her irresistable, beautiful, funny, PERFECT
i really just want my feelings for her to stop before it ruins my marriage and my life. What do i do ?
2007-01-21 12:59:40 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You sincerely need to find someone to talk to. Please seek professional help immediately! It's sick of you to find anything attractive about a 15 year old GIRL. What is it that you like about her? The fact that she's young and fragile and easily broken? People like you would do well to try and get help before you start ruining peoples lives. By the way. I've been in this young girls shoes and i'm almost certain that she finds you absolutely repulsive. Kids are good at picking out the pervs.
2007-01-21 13:09:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
She is not perfect...she is 15.
You are correct that your feelings for her should stop. Harmless crushes and admiration from afar, are normal things. It gets bad when it gets to the point where you think that this could ruin your marriage and life.
I would find another tutor for your son and forget about this obsession. I do not know what state you live in, but it is very likely that it is against the law to act on your crush. No matter how beautiful, funny, or perfect she is -- she is still 15 and you are 30. You don't have anything to really offer each other. She is a teenager in a totally different part of her life, and you are a husband and father.
This 15 year old is someone's daughter and as a father you should tune in on this. You wouldn't want someone's parent hitting on your son. If you had a daughter you wouldn't want someone's father hitting on her.
2007-01-21 13:17:42 · answer #2 · answered by Denise C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Quit watching American Beauty and Lolita for starters. Most 15 year olds think 30 year old men are gross and old. If knowing she finds you to be an old fart doesn't kill your buzz, think about what prison life will be for you if you even BEGIN to make a move on this girl. You will be EVERYone's beyotch. Pedophiles are the lowest of the low in Cellblock D, you'd be better off going in as a murderer than a baby raper.... and they won't care if all you did was play a little grab a** with a 15 year old, you'll be a baby raper to every con in the joint.
Your 9 year old son having a crush on her is cute. You having a crush on her is just gross. Put an end to it now however you have to, before you wreck your life and the lives of those around you, even if it means letting her go and hiring a guy tutor.
2007-01-21 13:11:02 · answer #3 · answered by Jadalina 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Well if you persist a number of great things could happen to you: You wouldn't have to work to have 3 meals a day, a roof over your head, and a great wardrobe of penitentary coveralls.
Not only that, but after you got out, you would never be alone, because the state would always want to know where you are for the rest of your life ... as a sex offender.
Feelings can't "stop". You can have feelings but you don't have to act on them. That's a choice . . . and a choice only you can make. So if you think it's worth it ... go for it.
2007-01-21 13:14:27 · answer #4 · answered by morahastits 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hun it is called a mid life crisis. Look i dated a 33 yr old man with 3 kids when i was 15 and i was being their mom because theirs ran out on them, i loved him yes but it didnt last we were together for about 11 months then broke up dont get me wrong it was great but she will soon fall back for someone her own age, thats not why me and mine broke up, my parents kicked him out and forbaid me to see him i still love him but we had a very violent relationship and i enjoyed it but i dont think it would have been that way if he wasnt over twice my age, ignore your feelings find a new babysitter do whatever u have to do except get with her your wife loves u im sure dont destroy the love that could last a lifetime over something that isnt guarenteed to last over 2 weeks, and dont cheat imaging how your wife would feel if she found out she would be crushed and even if u think no one would kno there is always i repeat ALWAYS the risk of someone findinf out and you could get charges pressed on you like my biological father did now i can not see my real dad for 20 years, well about 18 or 17 now but thats 20 years he gets to miss of my life i will be suprised if i ever see him again he could very well die in there, could you imagine doing that to your child or children it tears my heart up i can only imagine what kind of hell it would raise in a nine yr olds life, dont risk it value your freedom and your children more!
2007-01-21 13:24:50 · answer #5 · answered by Bri P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes um well 30??? you need to grow up and get over it. even know telling her seems right the best thing to do is to sorta fire her. yes a bit rough but your life is gonna be a mess if this continues. your wife will leave you, your son will disrespect you when his older and shes 15, (she wants 15 - 19 y.o probably) and im 18 and even i feel she would be getting a bit to young for me. you get to get her out of your life your a married man now :P
2007-01-21 13:09:43 · answer #6 · answered by Flash 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it!! I was that 15 year old once upon a time and it ruined my life. You won't do anything but take a chance for the fun. she will get hurt. You are old enough to have fathered her. Preserve her, she deserves better than a cheater and someone who will only leave her anyway.
2007-01-21 13:10:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
It's obvious. Do not use her as a babysitter any longer. Otherwise your feelings will only grow until you have sex with her .. and things go bad. Plus .. obviously, you know that it is illegal to be sexual with someone that age. Not to mention that you are 30 and she is 15. Something is not right with you. Good Luck ! :)
2007-01-21 13:09:20 · answer #8 · answered by tysavage2001 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
well its time for you to hire somebody new and just take things easy and just block her for good........get an older male tutor somebody who you know your not going to be attracted too because you dont want to wreck your world for something thats only temporary not to be mean and rude but try to seek help from your Pastor or a Therapist dont try to pursue her by having her around because sooner or later your going to mess up so just try to stop every thing now while you still have a chance good luck and God Bless
2007-01-21 13:13:40 · answer #9 · answered by Tamara Loves Kenny 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stay away from her and behave like a grown man for Christ's sake. Always remember 15 will get you 20.
2007-01-21 13:12:37 · answer #10 · answered by Dane 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋