I LOVE MY HUSBAND HAVE BEEN MARRIED 11 YEARS HAVE 4 CHILDREN AND LIKE EVERY COUPLE HAVE OUR UPS AND DOWNS. FOR ALMOST 5 YEARS I HAVE BEEN CHEATING ON HIM WITH DIFFRENT GUYS. I ALWAYS USE PROTECTION , BUT SOMETIMES I FEEL HORRIBLE AND SOMETIMES I THINK HE DESERVES IT. I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO HELP ME!!!!
2007-01-21 12:56:04 · 22 answers · asked by xedalie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You need to see a therapist to help you sort out your feeling first. You have something that is making you punish him, Why? Seek therapy.
2007-01-21 13:03:39 · answer #1 · answered by beamer 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Loving yr husband is more than just 3 letters word, I love u. U need to prove, care, share and tolerance of each other, then u call it love.
By claiming that u sleep with other man and he deserve it, is just a simple irresponsible excuse. R u doing that to revenge for something he said about u? How do u like it, after quarrel with u and he sleep with other woman? At times u need to be in his shoes and imagine he is doing exactly the way u r now. How does it feel? Horrible right? I think communication between both of u r very lacking and instead of working out together, u choose the negative to vent out yr frustration. This can't be happen all the time. It defeat all purposes of love and family values.
Try talking to him when u hv something to say. For a relationship that last 11 yrs and having 4 kids ain't easy to come by, treasure it before it gone! U hv to stop this kind of activity immediately before it get out of hand. Bear in mind, what consequences u will face if 1 day yr husband, kids, friends and families come to know about it, it is hell u will go thru!
Sit down calmly and talk, love will find a way. BUt if u r really thru with the relationship let him know and face it. Is more worthwhile to resolve issues then to use problems as excuse for vending yr stress. Think about it! Wish u luck!
2007-01-21 13:20:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be reminded, that you are responsible for all of your own actions and you will be accountable for the consequences of the choices you made. be it good or evil. And It is not fair to blame others for your being unfaithful. Consider this. A hand that works so hard will become a callous hand, so much so that it feels numb in the long run. The same is true with a callous heart. A person who keeps on doing the wrong deed, in the long run, will become so engrossed to what she is doing that she wouldn't feel any remorse or any conviction that what she is doing is wrong and might have the mentality that it is alright. The best thing to do is to REPENT.
Like what happen in the days of Mary when she was found committing adultery, Jesus told her to GO AND SIN NO MORE. Confess your sins to God and to your husband.
Do what Mary did, GO AND SIN NO MORE,
2007-01-21 13:27:11 · answer #3 · answered by dtmc542006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really is awful when people use the word love to their advantage without any meaning or feeling. How can you love him and your family and yet you still make the choice to cheat over and over again. YOU NEED TO TELL HIM YOU ARE CHEATING AND SEEK PSYCHIATRIC HELP! It not just the deceit but the issue of aids, psycho's that you might be getting into a relationship with and bringing into the lives of your kids. I wish your husband, kids and even you the best of luck in this situation you have placed everyone into.
2007-01-21 13:07:59 · answer #4 · answered by Sati 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you say "sometimes I think he deserves it ". What has he done ? You know why you do it. Look inside of yourself. It is like a cycle .. something builds up .. and then you do this. The excitement ? The new men ? Marriage is a commitment. See someone professional to help you sort it out. Good Luck ! :)
2007-01-21 13:05:42 · answer #5 · answered by tysavage2001 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can stop being unfaithful becasue you were faithful druing some point of the marriage. if you truly want to stop the cheating one surefire way is to tell your husband! But I'm not even gonna try to tell you what is making you do this behavior, all I can say is how would you feel if he were doing that to you and you need to do something to workout your marriage/nonmarriage.
2007-01-21 13:08:27 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what. There are women out here in the real world that would love to have a husband. Stop being selfish and go back to your family and close your legs and stop
2007-01-21 13:17:56 · answer #7 · answered by Passion S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you dont want to change and are not ready to... If you truley want to change then go get counseling and help and stop cheating and being unfaithful to him your marriage and your kids. If you cannot change then let your poor husband go so he can move on with his life and find someone that will not do this to him.
2007-01-21 13:07:11 · answer #8 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to examine your feelings, as to why you need to cheat what feelings and needs, are not being met in your marriage that these other men provide? If is just for the thrill of it and you need the newness that it offers? then you need to divorce your husband, so you can be free to fool around. better come clean with this.... you cannot have your cake and eat it too. Just my 2 cents
2007-01-21 13:05:00 · answer #9 · answered by Bonduesa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really loved your husband you would not be cheating on him. I think you are bored, why don't you try getting a different hobby, other than men. Then you would'nt have to feel so guilty.
2007-01-21 13:04:07 · answer #10 · answered by espee65 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋