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i ask her to put something on but she says she's more confortable but the boys look at her in a weird way when she's in her undies

2007-01-21 12:48:09 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture Other - Society & Culture

26 answers

You are projecting your own discomfort with this situation on to the boys.

The boys are just curious.

Love and blessings Don.

2007-01-21 12:52:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0 2

Family nudity is a matter for the family.... if this has been the norm since the children were born then there will not be a problem...if it is not done in any "provocative" way.... for the teen years there is a time when "personal space" is needed... and the individual comfort level should be monitored by the parents and just delt with without any big deal... each family is different so difficult to make clear rules... But.... from you post is seems there is no real history of nudity in the family...beyound the inevitable "oops" occasions...so I would supect there is some other dynamic at work and it might not be such a good thing.... you and your wife need to have some open talking time on this...

2007-01-21 12:56:49 · answer #2 · answered by idahomike2 6 · 1 1

Evidently she is immodest. Be glad she isn't running around in the buff. She may need a psychiatrist, as she is displaying exhibitionism to her sons, but probably portends OR insists that your sons not be ashamed of the human body. Out of respect for you, & to teach the boys respect for women & their bodies, she needs to at least respect herself. The concern is that you don't want them growing up to think that all women display this behavior, but then again, she is not every woman, & that may be her way of letting you know this, as women can think for themselves, & it sounds like you are trying to adjust to the issue at hand. (Maybe her mother did the same, maybe she didn't.) If you had daughters, you may be telling THEM the same thing. Morality changes, morals don't. Otherwise, we wouldn't have anything else to compare it to. Therefore, & if you haven't already done so, may I suggest that you go out & buy her a nice wrap around [easy on, easy off] house coat, long,or short, light weight, or not, depending on the weather where you live, make sure you address your concerns to her, perhaps she really doesn't understand. Make sure you speak gently to her in front of the boys, when she does this. You don't want to come across as a tyrant. THEN see what happens. Terry cloth is wonderful & comfortable. I hope this helps you, dear.

2007-01-21 13:30:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0 1

It sounds style of wierd yet in spite of this i'm no longer a boy or a teenage boy for that lots. He probable heard his acquaintances talking approximately smelling ladies panties and he had in no way finished it so he went for the only women issues he's conscious. i think of it may be o.k. to tell your spouse its probable something she could understand.. then possibly you and her could take a seat and function a communique with him with regards to the birds interior the bees in case you haven't any longer already. additionally, make confident if he's making plans on being sexual lively-or isn't even yet that he has condoms besides. greater advantageous to be risk-free than sorry!

2016-10-31 23:02:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Any decent human being ought to be considerate of nudity in the house once the children have reached the age where they are aware of the nakedness.
The fact that your boys are noticing (and the fact that they are teenagers!) indicates that they are well aware of the fact that this is not normal behavior for adult women around them (mom or not!).
It is appropriate for your wife to wear the same clothing around the house that she would be comfortable wearing at a casual social gathering. It is important for a house to have appropriate boundaries, especially as your kids grow up.

2007-01-21 12:55:21 · answer #5 · answered by insipid.enculturation 2 · 1 1

This sends the wrong message to the boys. It's not proper for a parent to walk around in their underwear in front of children of the opposite sex. Tell your wife she can be just as comfortable in a pair of sweat pants and an old shirt. Shame on her!

2007-01-21 12:53:08 · answer #6 · answered by gldjns 7 · 1 1

No, this is not good at all. She is exposing herself to the boys. That would be the same as you trotting around in your boxers or briefs in front of girls. You could be arrested for this. It is not respectful and this is teaching your boys not to respect women and their privacy. Maybe you should enforce the house rules of being fully dressed when outside the bed room. At least covered in a house robe.

2007-01-21 12:55:49 · answer #7 · answered by Vida 6 · 0 1

It's one thing for her to wake up in the middle of the night to get a glass of water in her undies. It's another to lounge around the house in them. This is showing her boys NO respect, and teaching them not to have respect for women's bodies or their own. Where's her decency? Kids or no kids. Cover your self up Mom!! I would be extremely upset with her if I were you. You need to some explain to her that this is WRONG!

2007-01-21 12:53:03 · answer #8 · answered by Brittany A 2 · 1 1

Some people are more "freer" than others. However, I have taken many Psychology courses....and will tell you that this would not be looked on in a positive light by the local Department of Family and Children Services. Most likely they would view this type of behavior as emotional and sexual abuse. For the emotional part...your wife, regardless of her intentions (conciously or sub-consciously) are taunting the boys. And it is this taunting that will be viewed as sexual abuse. Sexual abuse does not have to involve any per se physical touching.

2007-01-21 12:56:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1 2

Yeah, sure. 96 points and Level 1 says you've been suspended before for similar questions. They were funny then; they're still not funny. And I'm curious as to how you got those 96 points if you've only asked one question and haven't answered any. That adds up to negative 5, not 96.

2007-01-21 12:51:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1 1

Wow.......... There is some thing wrong with her. If she is the boys mother I think there should not be much of an effect more embarrassment than anything I think. If she is not the boys mother then yes probably.

2007-01-21 13:01:50 · answer #11 · answered by Domingo 2 · 1 1

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