My son is 7 months old he will cry all day just looking at me i have tried playing with him on the floor but he wont stop! At first i thought something might be wrong but as soon as i picked him up he would stop and smile. I tried letting him cry it out but he just dosent see to want to give up he will keep at it for hours! I have tried a play pen with toys around, even putting him in the high chair so he can see me while im doing work around the house. When he is with my husband he dosnt cry at all! As soon as i walk through the door he starts untill i hold him. He gets attention from me and i never leave his sight but i cant hold him the entire day. Please help!! What should i do i have a three year old little girl i cant hold my son ALL DAY LONG. When will he grow out of this? What can i do to help him?
2007-01-21 12:36:12 · 9 answers · asked by ninalatti 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
When doing laundry, sit in the floor with him or fold it on the bed. Let him "help" you with it. He can play in the laundry basket or in the pile of clothes.
While working in the kitchen, have one cabinet full of stuff he's allowed to pull out and play with. Or put him in a high chair with a snack he can self-feed or a plastic bowl and spoon he can play with.
Do the floors while Dad gives him a bath at night.
Get a sling and wear him while you work or a "baby backpack" kind of carrier.
2007-01-21 12:49:18 · answer #1 · answered by momma2mingbu 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My daughter was like that for a while. She outgrew it around 8 or 9 months - when she became more independent.
I mean, she grew up during that time and all she knew is that I was hers, and I was the one that paid the most attention to her. And for a while, all my attention was on her (breast feeding, changing, dressing, bathing, etc.). I swear that she still has that radar - at 17 months - that when I am doing something, she suddenly wants my undivided attention. I don't know if they ever outgrow it, but it does get better.
What I tried to do was "include" her. When I was doing the dishes, I would have her sitting in her highchair right by me, and I would give her a spoon and a pot to play with (clean ones, of course) while I washed. I would play some music, and I would talk to her and sing to the music. I would make sure she knew I was paying attention, and I would stop once in a while and give her a kiss, or tickle her, or bang on the pot with her. This let her know that she was a part of the action, and I hadn't forgotten about her. I also tried to make sure that the tasks I had to do where shorter ones. I saved the big stuff for nap times or the times when daddy was home to aid in the entertaining. There were times when daddy wasn't "good enough", but I made sure that she understood that it would have to do.
Is he going to cry? Yes. Will he get over it? Most definitely. I think just about every mom has been where you're at one time or another. But we make it through just fine, and you will, too. And just think about it - there will come the time in his life where you want his attention, and he will be busy or involved in something else. It all comes back around. Enjoy his attention now - it won't last forever.
2007-01-21 13:08:03 · answer #2 · answered by volleyballchick (cowards block) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Purchase a baby sling. Wearing your baby as you do laundry, make sandwiches, vacuum or take a walk will help you, your baby and your older child. I believe that after you carry your son around for several days, he will gradually tolerate more time on the floor. Once he decides that he can trust you to hold him when he needs you, he won't need to be on you all the time. This is a frustrating problem, but you can fix it!
2007-01-21 15:11:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
As long as you keep picking him up when he cries, he will continue to do it. You are giving in and he knows that when he cries you will pick him up. Let him cry. It's good for him. He needs to learn how to be independent and that he won't get his way all of the time. At first it may seem like you are torturing him, but you aren't. He'll get it real quick (a day or so) that you won't pick him up at his every whim. Trust me...I have kids! By the way, you'll get your sanity back. And if you choose not to allow him to cry and you pick him up, guess what? Unfortunately you will be calling The Nanny to come and save you and your kids from misbehaving because you always will give in.
2007-01-21 13:16:47 · answer #4 · answered by IrishEyedGal 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I suggest using a timer. Set it for, say, 10 minutes (or whatever)and give yourself permission to let him cry and ignore him till the timer goes off. Then set it again and give him 10 minutes of your attention. Repeat the cycle, all day if necessary, so that you can give him attention and not go crazy yourself. As you both get used to this, you can start to lengthen the "you" time and shorten the "him" time until it's more normal.
2007-01-21 12:55:43 · answer #5 · answered by toomanycommercials 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try getting a sling or baby carrier that's like a back pack. That way he is close to your body, and you still have your hands free. I'm sorry I don't know how to get him past this stage though. Mine is only 6 weeks, and pretty much still needs to be held, but hopefully This provides a compromise for you and him.
2007-01-21 12:53:41 · answer #6 · answered by whitetigerlover 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my daughter is 7 month two and she is like that when i go out the room so i tried her in a baby walker and she is now happy as she can follow me around in it. i find at this age they are frusrated because they cant yet crawl or walk but want to be mobile. it may help as he can play with his sister
2007-01-21 13:40:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please get a sling. Baby needs you! The more secure you can make him now, the more secure he will be when he grows up and separates from you.
2007-01-21 14:04:49 · answer #8 · answered by Ducky's Mom 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
build a bridge and get over it
2007-01-21 12:47:14 · answer #9 · answered by xo_Gabby 2 · 0⤊ 6⤋