What age do you think is okay to start having sex?

Question

This is an absolutely open question and is not stemmed from personal desires...just asking cause I'm curious of what people think.

Answer 1

after you get married....

Answer 2

I see that many people are saying that sex should wait until after marriage. To be honest, I must disagree with them.

The question you are asking is a very difficult one to answer. It depends much on a person's maturity level. A good rule of thumb is if a couple are not mature enough to talk about sex, birth control, and what to do if the woman gets pregnent, then you are not ready.

Personally, I was 18. Looking back, despite being mature for my age, my hormones still ruled my sex life rather than my brain (probably happens to most guys that age). I was probably still not ready for the potential consequences and responsibilities of sex.

Ont he flip side, I think sex is something that should be experienced before marriage. Someone once told me that a problem becomes 10 times bigger once you are married. That person was on to something.

I enjoy my sex life in marriage. If my wife and I were not compatible sexually, I might have had a different view on marriage. Sex is an important part of a loving relationship. I just think it is something to "explore" witha future spouse before you actually get hitched and make sure you like the goods.

I know that this may sound shallow, but I think it is an important area of a relationship to explore before swearing your love for eternity.

Answer 3

With all the family I have in the southern half of this state and all the family my wife has in the northern half. I tell my kids they should wait till they can leave state. Joking of course.
Seriously, I tell them to wait as long as possible. The choices they make can effect them for a lifetime. So be sure of what you want and when you want it. Always to protect themselves. When questions come up about sex there are no "don't do that" answers without explanation. No question is too embarrassing or taboo.
I think both my wife and I are in agreement about sex education in this country. The way they describe the human reproductive system and sex in general, has all the hallmarks of the mechanical processes that describe building a house. Teaching nothing that debunks the myth and mystery of sex.
My wife and I are trying to raise knowledgeable and responsible human beings from children.

Answer 4

Realistically, we would probably all say that the right age is when you are mentally, physically, financially, spiritually and informed enough to make that type of decision. I say that because the younger you are, the more you end to do it out of impulse or misdirected feelings. Everyone has a crush when they are young. They feel that person is the best thing since sliced bread and they have to be in love. If any of their friends have done it, there is a rush to be part of that crowd (not all of them do it though). But as you get older, you learn about all the effects of sex. From diseases to pregnancy, to health problems, the more informed you are about the risks, the more informed you are to make the right decisions.

I think though, that that is up to the individual. Me however, i really would have wished i waitied until after i got out of high school. It wasnt that good at that time and I wasnt informed enough to make that decision properly.

I have told my children I dont care what they do (as long as they protect themselves) AFTER they get out of my house. Until that point I really hope they keep it as a hands off thing....

But in the real life now, kids are doing it at age 13 or younger.

Marriage is the only really good time though....

Answer 5

Depends on the person, but I think definitely not before the age of 16. Anyone over the age of 16 who is too irresponsible to use birth control shouldn't be having sex. That includes people up to the age of menopause.

Answer 6

Think it depends on the person. I don't think people should have sex under the age of 18. I think people shouldn't rush into it, they should do it when it feels right for them, when they're with the right person that they feel comfortable with. They shouldn't do it just coz all they're friends have done it, coz of peer pressure from friends or a partner, but when they are ready.

Answer 7

When you feel your mature and ready to deal with everything that comes with having sex......i personally think you should hold off and wait as long as possible....i think when you reach your senior year in high school if I had to put an age on it.....but again you could be 40....what's the rush....you can never get your virginity back.

Answer 8

The best time to start having sex is definitely...
the honeymoon.
Imagine how much better it would be if both of you saved yourselves for your wedding night?
I always thought the honeymoon would be a bit anti-climactic (no pun intended), if the couple is already regularly having sex. What's the point of a honeymoon then? It's just like any other vacation.

Answer 9

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Answer 10

well, i know someone who did when they were 14, and i did when i was 15, so i guess i have no real number answer for you just this;I think sex is ok when you and your partner are ready mentally and physically.I think you should know about what can happen if there is no protection from stds so I guess it all depends on the person,how they feel about being in that situation and their knowledge of thing that may occur.

Answer 11

As a physical question, as soon as you are able. As a moral question, wait for that permanent partner. As a peer-pressure issue, not long after puberty! As a social question, when you are responsible enough.
Me??? When you are mature enough to understand the ramifications and responsibilites of potential disease, pregnancy, and reputation!
Not much of an answer, is it????