I just don't think I can resist the urge any longer. I've talked to him, and he says he just doesn't want to. What should I do? I need sex now! I don't know what to do, but i'm desperate to try anything.
2007-01-21 12:18:20 · 14 answers · asked by Sandy P 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have considered seeking some mariaging counseling, but right now i'm at the point that i'm about to explode from the lack of sex.
Oh my goodness...
My hubby says he wants to do me now. I think he was just waiting for the moment. What complete irony. I'll answer your questions quickly:
He didn't want sex because he wanted to wait for the right moment. No, he wanted to wait for the right moment, he knows I respect him. He doesn't have problems at work, he loves his job!
2007-01-21 12:29:56 · update #1
He's bored with you and getting satisfied somewhere else. Confront him. Any man who doesn't want sex from a woman either a) finds you extremely unattractive; b) is sleeping with someone else and has too much guilt; c) is bored with you and seeking outside satisfaction.
2007-01-21 23:38:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have this same problem except my husband cannot get an erection because of his illnesses he has. I was way too young to go without sex and he refused to take any meds. to help with the problem. So I told him that I loved him very much, but I was going to take care of my needs. I don't know if you are interested in a open marriage, but it could be an option. I know that we make vows and everything when we get married, but our spouse have to realize that we all have needs (rather if it the man or the women) and if you didn't ask for a sexless marriage when you said your vows, you should not have to go through one. If you are not into that sort of thing and feel like you can't go without sex anymore, than you need to consider maybe moving on. You will only make yourself sick and be depressed. If you wanna know, I am in an open marriage and its working just fine for us.
2007-01-21 12:56:54 · answer #2 · answered by kayla21832004 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband's behavior is unacceptable. Tell him he may not want sex, but you do, therefore it is a problem that needs to be worked on immediately. Tell him you want him to begin with a physical examination to determine if there is something physical causing his disinterest in sex. If there is nothing physical, then you want him to consider psychological counseling. If he is not willing to work on it then he is causing irreconcilable differences in your marriage and you may have to consider separation or divorce.
He may be suffering erectile dysfunction and that is the reason he says he doesn't want to have sex. Men are such donkey's hind quarters about this issue. I could see it years ago when there was little that could be done about it, but now there are medications that can help them enjoy a satisfying sexual performance well into their elderly years.
Try to be patient, but don't acquiesce your needs too long. AND DON'T THREATEN TO HAVE AN AFFAIR OR HAVE ONE. There are ways you can relieve yourself while you wait for resolution. As long as he is willing to work on the issue I believe you owe him that much consideration.
Good luck.
2007-01-21 12:28:17 · answer #3 · answered by amazingly intelligent 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him know you are desperate and that it's grounds for divorce in most states. He needs to see a Dr. He might have a low testosterone level. He sounds selfish. Many women don't feel like having sex either but they go ahead and do it for their husbands. Depriving a spouse of sex is the same as depriving them of food. It is a natural and healthy appetite. Ask him how he would feel if you sleep with another man.
2007-01-21 12:26:57 · answer #4 · answered by crazywoman88 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have to answer your question with a question. Why doesn't he want sex? Is he feeling like you don't respect him? Is he having problems at work? Is he afraid he's impotent and doesn't want to be embarrassed?
Sounds like you need to seek marital counseling instead of a message board.
2007-01-21 12:22:18 · answer #5 · answered by S. W 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well I was going to say that if he didn't want it pack it up and bring it to me.I could use some sex every now and again.That stuff is pretty good.I can't believe anybody would just leave it lying around like that.
2007-01-21 12:34:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he in a high stress job? Because if he is that might explain why he's got no desire for sex. Stress can hurt a persons sex drive.
I know from personal expirience, happened to me a few years ago. If that's the case I think you need to be supportive of him.
2007-01-21 12:24:12 · answer #7 · answered by Bryan M 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he wont, you should buy a toy...then think about whether you can stay in a sexless relationship
2007-01-21 12:21:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get him some viagra girl!
2007-01-21 12:21:15 · answer #9 · answered by H-Dizz 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Find a new hubby:>
2007-01-21 12:21:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋