Okay. Well, me and my bf is ready to do "it". He's still a virgin and I'm not. I HATE taking guys virginity. I don't know why but I just do. Well, he found out what I am thinking/feeling.
Well, what I'm feeling is,
Does my bf really love me??? Or does he just want to have sex and
like brag about it??? Or are we going to do it then him leave???
Is it a bad thing for me to feel this way???
And, if we do "it" will drama get started and then me and him break up???
I mean I've never ever ever felt like that before,
but I've never loved anybody this much before.
2007-01-21 11:49:28 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
IM NOT HAVING DOUBT'S AND IM NOT SAYIN THAT IM SURE THAT HE'S GOING TO LEAVE ME...I'M JUST SAYING...DOES HE REALLY LOVE ME ENUF 2 MAKE THAT COMMITMENT HIMSELF....AND IS IT BAD 4 ME TO FEEL THAT WAY OR ASK THAT QUESTION....
2007-01-21 11:58:28 · update #1
DONT WORRY SO MUCH
WHEN YOUR WITH HIM FORGET WHAT YOU HAVE DONE BEFORE AND IMAGINE YOUR DOING IT FOR THE VERY FIRST TIME
YOUR PUTTING WAY TO MUCH PRESSURE ON YOUR SELF
JUST SIT BACK AND ENJOY IT AND HAVE FUN.
2007-01-21 11:58:06 · answer #1 · answered by ââ¢Â¥*~áƦ~NYSunrise~áƦ~*ââ¢Â¥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! I guess the first question would be, how old are you? If you're under 18 and you're feeling this way, it's natural. The only problem is, you're putting too much emphasis on what he wants. So what, you're not a virgin! Does that really matter when it comes to YOUR wanting to have sex with him or not. Don't put yourself in a situation where you are comparing love to sex and certainly DO NOT have sex to make someone feel like they are part of you, because ultimately you are one single person and what you bring to a relationship is YOU and not sex.
You are a woman, you feel allot of different things, you are excited and anxious and the feelings that guide this emotion are not to be taken lightly. Think about sex as the last part of getting to know someone and not the end all. Be happy to have someone who is a virgin, tell him it's wonderful, and make sure he is not jumping into things too quickly either. He has waited to have sex and if you're really not even 18 yet, than give him a break too, you will both meet and love people far into your lives, let his accomplishment of keeping his virginity for the right girl be a plus and not a minus.
And one last thing before I go and leave you to your wisdom. You love him, love yourself more, whether you are a virgin or not, sex is a huge huge step and it's just as important as loosing your virginity because you are giving someone a part of you that is personal and intimate. It should never be done as a gift or a favor, especially if you are not really sure why you want to do it. omen forget how wonderful it is to just be with someone for the sake of getting to know them as a person, women are more important than just sex, we are the glue that holds life together. So, if you're not sure, especially if you're doubting this just a bit, don't do it. Save your wonderful self for someone who means the world to you, because of who you are, and then when you find you both respect and care for one another, than the decision is yours to make, be safe in making it.
Good Luck.
2007-01-21 20:01:17 · answer #2 · answered by accountrep2001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it's perfectly normal to feel like this! It sounds like you're having second thoughts though, and that's not good when you're about to have sex with someone. Talk to your boyfriend, and make sure you are walking into a drama-free situation when you walk into that bedroom....otherwise, it's not worth it, and you'll have regrets!! If you can't communicate, the sex is gonna suck!!
Oh, and BTW USE, CONDOMS!
GOOD LUCK!
2007-01-21 19:59:19 · answer #3 · answered by Sally Sunshine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know...if you're this uncertain about the status of your relationship, then I would say you're not ready to be having sex in this relationship. You shouldn't do it if you have doubts. ANY doubts. If you're not certain he loves you, and isn't using you to try to get laid, then don't sleep with him. If he leaves you for not sleeping with him, then you can be pretty certain he would have left you AFTER you slept with him, because if he loves you, he wouldn't leave you for either reason.
2007-01-21 19:55:52 · answer #4 · answered by Jess H 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not ready for sex. You sound too young. Even if you have had sex before you need to control yourself. How do you know when you are ready? You won't have to ask questions like these.
2007-01-21 19:53:57 · answer #5 · answered by Sunday P 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like neither of you are ready for that step.... Why don't you both slow down and work out together, because that will ease the frustration.
2007-01-21 19:53:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
yeah i agree, youre obviously bothnot ready to make that commitment. when you are, you wont be having doubts.
2007-01-21 19:55:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
aaaaaawwwwwwwwwwwww thats sad talk to him bout it.
2007-01-21 19:54:15 · answer #8 · answered by kimberlee b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋