Is my view 'old fashioned'?

Question

Now, being a caddish chap-about-town, I've seen the world in all its colours and tastes. But that said, dash it if I'm not a little peturbed that my betrothed wishes to find some form of 'employment'. My view is one of tradition, that a lady remains at home, looking after domestic concerns, making lace and cooking pies whilst idly dreaming of failed aspirations. Meanwhile, my duty is to socialise at the gentlemen's club and maintain a standard of dignity that reflects the power of my family fortune. Sadly, my choice of lady has proved tempestuous to say the least - quite determined as she is that she will go 'out to work' and, even worse, that I might consider the same for myself! Dash it and blast, how can I make it clear that this simply isn't on?

What she fails to accept is that I'm far too busy taking on absurd wagers and drinking gin cocktails to get a 'job'.

Answer 1

You're old-fashioned, but that's a good thing.

Answer 2

Yep! Your thinking is definitely old fashioned. However, there are women out there who accept this role. The women of newer years are much more independent .... You will have to make a decision ... since you cannot change anyone. If it isn't for them, you can't fix it to work your way. Let her go, move on and find one that appreciates this lifestyle. Though I don't get the "duty to socialize at the gentleman's club" ... while your wife is at home tending to other things. Sounds a bit creepy ... and more creepy when you mention the power of your family fortune. The fact you wrote this sounds like you probably have nothing .... People with money I doubt would be on this site posting such a question and boasting about money. Maybe you should use some of that money for counseling ... The deep root of the problem could be you.

Answer 3

Fully agree with you, old chap. Employment indeed! Fie., Fie! Beyond my wildest contemplation. What an affront to your dignity. Whatever will "society" make of it. And your gentlemen friends at the club! And I haven't even mentioned the butler, and, through him, all the butlers up and down the High Street. You cannot, but cannot, allow yourself to be viewed askance by such lowly ... people... for want of a better word, whom you shall condescend to call human at Christmas when you shall, in your righteous conceit, give them each a brand new shiny pound coin.

Oh no. If she is hell-bent on employment, and thereby to bring you to wrack and ruin (Oh the pain of it is almost unbearable!) then why not prevent this descent of your prestige by getting her to "work" for you? Perhaps you might find her a station in the scullery, as head charwoman, Yes, that's it. Head charwoman. I think that should put her in her proper place, where after she has worked her fingers to the bone, she might indulge in making laced tea-cozys, or try her hand at making a partridge pie, whose main ingredient met its end by your barrel. That is, of course, chef permitting.

And now, Richard Snapples Esq., be a jolly good chap and let's have those 10 points that are so richly deserved by your true and humble servant.

Answer 4

What you fail to accept, assuming this is a legitimate question, and not some kind of screwball joke, is that women need to have the freedom to be themselves, just like any man. The true gentleman would encourage his wife to find a career that fulfills her need for individual purpose, and fulfillment. If you really have that family fortune, the help can look after the "domestic concerns". Your wife would be more likely to look upon you favorably if you encouraged her aspirations, instead of dashing them.
As far as you getting a job, that fortune won't look after itself. In today's world, you could find yourself penniless in a wink, if you don't stay on top of your fortunes and investments, and make sure they grow instead of decline.

Answer 5

Your way of thinking is something that has, I guess you could say is out of style currently but I think it is interesting how a person in this day in age with so many styles circling the earth has that certain outlook and that someone like yourself is not old-fashioned but decent to things that a regular person wouldn't even understand. So my advice is to not label yourself as an outsider of this generation by being "old fashioned" but being a true gentle man and showing the world that people are not dumbing themselves lower on the evolution chart. So kudos for you and I hope you don't give up on whoever your looking for!

Answer 6

really in this day, women arent hindered by jobs anymore. they arent told they cant be lawyers or doctors or such. its no longer "A Man's World". young ladies are told they can do anything they wish. which really is possible. women can go into the military, be lawyers or doctors or do other stuff such as accounting and all kinds of jobs. its sorta stupid to expect a women to stay at home and "idly dream of failed aspirations" when they can actually achieve something. you cant expect a women to sit at home and bake pies all afternoon while youre at a "gentlemans club". it just doesnt work that way anymore. in my oppinion you should stop thinking so down on women, and give them a chance. men arent the extreme beings in the world.

Answer 7

Are you for real ?? She probably wants a job so she doesn't have to stay home and listen to your boorish conversations. Some ppl enjoy working and get a feeling of accomplishment from it. Not to mention the satisfaction of earning what you have in life, not just getting it handed to you.

Oh and by the way if you do find someone to bow to your lifestyle I bet while your at the gentelmens club she will be at home giving the pool boy a raise, LOL.

Answer 8

Which romance novel did you just fall out of? Gentlemen's club indeed!

Since when does a lady remain at home and cook pies? That's what the domestic help is for. Consider it a foible of a wealthy woman and smile and indulge her. Her happiness is your happiness, and a joyful wife will gladden your time at home.

Answer 9

Statistics show that women want to get out of the house and get a career or at least work. The days of being a plain housewife are gone in most countries.

Answer 10

it is not that i'm large previous formed yet I style of trust your mom. My boyfriend is like that and he even advised me that's a appreciate factor. Even for the chum to hold out with the lads female chum. it relatively is just one thing i do no longer locate myself doing too often. i do no longer think of you could tolerate jealousy nonetheless if the guy is being infantile approximately it... Like your mom suggested in the event that they have been your chum for a protracted long term then there should not be a difficulty, my boyfriend and that i style of have that very same rule too. there is in basic terms particular human beings we have confidence lots.

Answer 11

My greatest sympathy lies with you my dear fellow. Damn be the woman who's feminists wiles have brought nothing but shame on us all. one must only conclude that your betrothed must be from humble beginnings and quite below your class and station.
Why we all know that work is but for commoners!
Dispose of her at once, and set on thy way to find a lady of proper breeding, one who will most appreciate the delicacies and intricacies and great importance of idle home life!
Be well fine chap!