Very recently there have been voice mails & texts from a woman that my husband claims that he doesnt know on his personal cell.They dont say anything specific like names or details just silly stuff like "I'm moving stuff will be away from my phone" and "hey, I know you're up & running" but this last one is a kicker.I decided to call her # from my husbands work phone,it goes straight to her voice mail and her name is "Ann".
Well, the next morning, my husband has a voice mail on his personal phone from "Ann" stating that "you will be asked who Ann is...she called my phone....u need 2 hide ur phone from her....if anyone gets hurt, you're in trouble...just wanted 2 give ya a heads up".
So,I call her & confront her with the messages.She denies them & says shes a grandmother & happily married.She said maybe my hubby was trying 2 reach her hubby,his name is John (very long pause)Doe.
John is the guy that was very angry & upset with my hubby when he very recently got.........
2007-01-21 11:27:15 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
...a promotion.
John thinks he should have got the promotion.
John is a guy that no one speaks very highly of.
My hubby thinks he may be trying to set him up.
What do you guys think?
I asked my hubby if he was cheating on me. I can always tell if he's lying or not...there's a certain glare in his eyes....that glare wasn't there....it looks like he's telling the truth.
I'm just very upset...and maybe some "outsiders" can help me see things a bit.
Thanks!
2007-01-21 11:28:57 · update #1
One more thing.....its been several days...I've had both of his phones with me & she hasn't called anymore.
2007-01-21 11:32:46 · update #2
THANKS TO TALLBRWNTEXASGIRL FOR MENTIONING THE CELL PHONE THING.
THATS PART OF WHAT ALSO CONFUSES ME. HE WAS WITH ME WHEN I CALLED THAT # FROM HIS WORK PHONE. SHE APPARENTLY DIDN'T EVEN KNOW HIS WORK # BECAUSE WHEN SHE LEFT ANOTHER MESSAGE ON HIS PERSONAL PHONE...SHE JUST ASSUMES THAT THE WORK # IS ME CALLING. THATS WHAT SHE SAID IN THE LAST MESSAGE...."SHE CALLED AT 1:38"
YES IT WAS ME CALLING AT 1:38, BUT FROM HIS WORK #.
YOU'D THINK THAT IF HE WAS TRYING TO HIDE SOMETHING, SHE'D BE CALLING HIS WORK #, NOT HIS PERSONAL #
AND, BTW....JOHN DOE IS A NAME I MADE UP.
2007-01-21 15:50:31 · update #3
AND YOU'D THINK THAT SHE WOULD KNOW HIS WORK #.
2007-01-21 15:51:52 · update #4
You are the only one who knows your husband and your relationship with him. I think you would sense if something was going on.
If you think there is a possibility that something is going on then you need to discuss this with your husband. The entire thing sounds strange to me.
If nothing else I think I'd be sure to pay close attention to what's going on for awhile until I was satisfied that he was being honest. If you and your husband have a good relationship and he's always been honest with you I wouldn't necessarily assume that he's guilty.
Keep your eyes open and good luck.
2007-01-21 11:40:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A simple way to put your mind at rest. Send your husband a text asking him to meet at a certain place at a certain time and then sign the message "Ann" Go the the meeting place about 15 Min's before the said time and wait to see who turns up. Ann wont as she knows nothing but if your husband appears you have all the proof you need . Good luck and I hope that I am wrong.
2007-01-21 12:00:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweetie, this sounds like a mess! and I feel really bad for you. right now, I'd say don't trust any of them. I'm not sure what you're husband is up to, but it doesn't exactly sound good. and that voice mail from "ann," makes no sense at all. I honestly don't know what to tell you right now, except that a private detective is one of the best ways to get to the bottom of whatever is going on. I would seriously give it some thought.
for now, just keep quiet because you don't know who you can trust.
Take care of yourself, and be careful.
2007-01-21 11:56:52 · answer #3 · answered by atiana 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, I am a very suspicious person myself and tend to pick things apart..first something is not right here...
You decide to call her, you go straight to her voice mail and her name is "Ann"...did you say anything on the voice mail? if not how did she know it was you and not a wrong number or even him? the only way she would have known it was you if you didn't say anything was he was with her at the time the call was placed. If you said something to her voice, then she was trying to warn him you knew, BUT she was also letting you know they are seeing each other. I lived with a cheater for 20 years, I knew ever movement of his face and eyes, but oh he made his lies out to be my fault and tried his hardest to make me think I was losing my mind completely...that is until I caught him red handed, with hundreds of witnesses and no way to call me a raving lunatic
2007-01-21 11:51:54 · answer #4 · answered by sassywv 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well the voice mail is kind of weird. how does she know that you would hear it? Obviously he is going to say that he is not cheating. When she said 'if anyone gets hurt, she was probably also referring to her husband. she very well may be happily married, because her husband doesn't know shes cheating. .....I would probably do some silent homework on this one. Let your hubby think that you believe him, and then find out as much as you can.
2007-01-21 11:32:21 · answer #5 · answered by redsox fan 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The simplest answer is usually the correct answer. Lets see here.... He is cheating or some guy is trying to get back to him by texting his cell phone because he was passed over for a promotion.... Hmmmm... I think you need to take your husband to work to talk with his and John's boss to find out the real story or suggest couple consoling or toss his lying *** out.
2007-01-21 11:41:25 · answer #6 · answered by A friend of Bill W 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if Ann knows nothing about it, and claims to be happily married, and your own intuition tells u your husband is innocent than it seems to point to john, and his jealousy over your husbands promotion. could very easily be a set up to cause trouble in your marriage, and hurt your husband. seems her hubby was indeed trying to reach your hubby, to cause some trouble, and at the same time trying to cover his tracks not wanting his wife involved in all of the drama.
2007-01-21 11:37:11 · answer #7 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay so the husband let the ironious email and texts just go on? yeah no set up here real fishy. and looking for a glare? are you dumb evidence is right in front of you. does he have the bills? they tell you who he has called as it is a cell phone. look at that and if he has called the other number several times you really have your answer.
2007-01-21 11:32:26 · answer #8 · answered by gsschulte 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, find out how they got ahold of his cell phone number. It sounds like this could be reported as harrassment, see if he would be willing to report it as such.
Trust your instincts, if you don't think that he is lying, than he probably isn't...and it seems too much of a coincidence that someone just might have such a motivation to get revenge on him. OTOH, don't just believe him because you want to believe him and you want it all to go away. Make sure that you really DO believe him.
2007-01-21 11:33:09 · answer #9 · answered by Eleazar's Daughter 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The voicemails sound very fishy to me. Why would she tell your husband to hide his phone from you? And why would she leave the message and not "John", if "John" is the one trying to reach him? I'm sorry but I think Ann and your husband are both hiding something. And furthermore she couldn't think of a better name than John Doe??
2007-01-21 11:32:51 · answer #10 · answered by mrsleslie_lady 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋