Having doubts of accusations of my wife's affair.?

Question

Married for two years and we were planning a family at Christmas. After New Years a couple we go to church every Sunday advised me my wife is having an affair with a cousin who is staying with us at the moment. Would a be a case of conspiracy against my wife if these friends may have fallen out with my wife. The friends are older then us and we are doing financially better. I work away but when I am home I can see no love connections what son ever with her cousin and her.

Answer 1

Why is your wife's cousin living with you? I'm not saying that anything is going on, but you can't ignore the fact that an opportunity exists.

I don't think an older couple who goes to the same church as you would make up something as serious as this to "conspire" against your wife because they are "jealous" that you are financially better off. People really do have better things to worry about.

Where there is smoke there is sometimes fire. In any event I'd say some "red flags" should be going off and I think you'd be doing yourself a favor if you paid some attention to the home front.

It's certainly your call, perhaps your wife's cousin should find other living quarters, that would put a stop to the rumors (if nothing else). Good luck to you.

Answer 2

I'd be very wary of church gossip if I were you. It's worse than a sewing circle. Have these people had a falling out with your wife? What do they have to gain by butting their noses in anyone else's business? If you have doubts, mention what you've been told to your wife and pay attention to details of the result. What's the aftermath? How soon does a reaction follow? Not just your wife's respose. If she responds in anger or outrage, there may be some merit to these claims. If her response is much more benign, then they're blowing smoke up your proverbial skirt.

Answer 3

don't allow yourself to be blind in this situation. observe. watch the way that they talk to each other, look at each other and their body language. if the way they communicate with one another shows any signs of a possible affair happening, you need to confront your wife privately. let her know what the word around town is. ask her for the truth and then tell her your own observations that you've made after hearing the rumor. 99.9% chance that she will deny it...that's when you'll have to go with your own gut instinct. do you trust the couple that told you? did they give you legitimate facts? you need to ask yourself those questions and also gather more information on this rumored-affair before accusing your wife.

Answer 4

Church people can be mistaken and short of seeing something with their own eyes they could be wrong. The old saying is "don't believe anything you hear and only half of what you see" unless you have proof of her cheating. I would start cleaning my house of house guest (especially male ones while on the road) before planning a family and maybe some well meaning friends wouldn't have anything bad to say about your wife.

Answer 5

Don't believe anyone in this world in a situation like this. There are plenty of green and mean people. If in doubt, ask your wife a direct question. No further investigation to spoil your relationship with your wife. Make the question direct, to her. Do not, I repeat do no believe anyone else. The accusers may be just mean and green.

Answer 6

What are you going to believe this couple at church or your Wife? And plus having an affair with a cuzin is just gross. First of all talk to your wife first and tell her what they said. Don't talk to her like your accusing her. But just casually bring it up. And see what her reaction is. It could be that couple is just jealous.

Answer 7

For greater powerful or worse, remarkable? You already knew this approximately this whilst you obtain jointly, so no surprises. i could propose counseling, yet i in my opinion doubt it may help. maximum insecure women are insecure because of the fact they have low self-properly worth. the terrific thank you to attempt in comparison is to make her experience like a queen! compliment her...permit her understand she is the sexiest woman on the planet and how fortunate you're to have got here upon her! additionally...i could motivate her to pursue a number of her very own hobbies. If she has consistently needed to be an artist, working example, motivate her to take some instructions purely for exciting! Or regardless of that's that hobbies her. it extremely is spectacular how empowered human beings grow to be whilst they discover some thing outstanding to maintain their minds occupied. much less time to rigidity that hubby is cheating and greater time to verify how outstanding they are truthfully as a man or woman. It builds character.

Answer 8

Talk to your wife about it and her cousin to.If she is having an affair with her cousin run man.And maybe you should ask the neighbor just what kind of proof they have that they are having an affair.Good Luck

Answer 9

Sounds like idle talk. Ignore them, go with your gut feeling but also suggest to her cousin that you are starting a family soon and you need the space. Drop subtle hints about moving out and finding his own place.

Answer 10

What makes you want to believe these people over your wife ? Are they trust worthy do they lie on other people ? yes they might be conspiring against your wife simply because they do not like her . And they may be jealous because you all are doing better than them. Who knows? You need to do what your heart tells you . good luck .