So I have this guy who I am friends with. And a few weeks ago he emailed me and asked me who if I had a crush on anyone. So I told him, "yes I have a crush on someone, why? do YOU have a crush on someone?" he replied he had a crush on some one, and he asked who I had a crush on! I say, "I find this very odd you are asking me this, but I will tell you if you tell me." I thought I was safe... then he replied: "I'll tell you, but you have to tell me first, cause I asked first." So I admitted I had a crush on him. He replied saying: "I don't like anyone girl, life is to be enjoyed not worry about a specific girl." Then he goes and contridicts himself at the end of the email:"I might have a little crush on you, but I would rather just stay friends for now." I was really mad so I "yelled" at him and he finally said he had a girlfriend and thats who he had a big crush on. And before all this it sured seemed like he liked me but I guess not...SO now I am really confused, can you help me?
2007-01-21 11:21:35 · 11 answers · asked by jackichanrules13 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
i don't think he likes you because if he does he would be nice with you or maybe he is trying to make you joules i think you should ask him once again and tell him that if he didn't answer you you will move on if he Sid no move on if he Sid yes then it is your lucky day good luck
2007-01-29 04:23:03 · answer #1 · answered by christena 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds as if he was embarrassed to be boxed into a corner or something during the conversation. I hear lots of game-playing, and an unwillingness to commit to one person on his part at this point of his life. Stay friends with him, but move on to better relationships for dating purposes.
Now, to answer your question, the way to tell if a guy really likes you, is to note if he is really there for you, and concerned about your needs. Or is it always about him, what he wants to do, and feeding HIS needs in the relationship? A person who truly loves someone else, will sacrifice their own agenda to make the othe person happy, since their own happiness depends on the other person being content also. Sure, ther will always be some give & take, and picking your battles about what IS really important to each of you, but these things can be done up front, on the surface, without any manipulation or game-playing. So, it is not so much about what a guy says, or promises, but what he actually DOES that you should pay attention to. If you get the sense you are being "worked" by a guy, you probably are.
2007-01-21 19:55:27 · answer #2 · answered by Howie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, it seems like he was going to tell you he had a crush on someone it could be you but at the same time I think that he may have led you on. To sum it up I think that you should just stay friends right now. oh yeah he has a crush on you dude sound scared.
2007-01-21 19:29:52 · answer #3 · answered by Bricee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he listens to what you tell him and if he asks questions about you. Another sure sign is if he tries to please you by doing the things he knows that you like. He would know those things if he listens to you. If he gives good advice geared toward your best interest and if he absolutely does nothing to make you uncomfortable. Also if he makes time to spend with you on a regular basis, to enjoy your company.
Sounds like your guy is an idiot and is simply playing ego games at your expense. Step off from him. He doesn't sound worth it in the least.
2007-01-29 11:35:44 · answer #4 · answered by sustasue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, this sound familiar to me. I have a guy friend of two years and I know he cares for me deeply but I feel he's not telling the whole truth. He is very confusing and you know what, I'm not dealing with him until he starts telling me the truth. I care for him deeply also. There is no room for childish games. Just forget him for now and find someone who can return your feelings. Like, maybe there's a chance later with him, but for now, just let it and him go before he drives you nutsy.
2007-01-21 19:32:20 · answer #5 · answered by art_girlt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When a guy is lying, he says...
Uh..I gotta go
I'll call you later
I miss you
Talking fast
Mispronouncing the words or mumbling
When they blink too much
Crinkles up there nose or touches there face
Thats all i know, when they are lying this goes for girls too.
I can't really tell when a guy is intrested in you but all i know is when they try to flirt like hi, hug or talk about personality everyday. yup yup ^_^
2007-01-21 19:30:42 · answer #6 · answered by Element 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know, it's usually pretty safe to go with your gut in any situation. People only lie then they are afraid of something, usually when they are afraid of losing what they already have or not getting what they want. So good luck with it all, if there were a lie detector that worked, the jails would be filled to overflowing with guilty people instead of a mixture of innocent and guilty!
Best regards!
2007-01-21 19:26:04 · answer #7 · answered by Xotzin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like this guy is playing the field or trying to see if he still has all the charm he once had. Let this one go cause if you try to see him and succeed in dating this guy he will just start talking to someone else on line. He is a liar, a cheater, a player, and an a**hole, let him die in his own hole that he dug for himself :-]
2007-01-21 19:30:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds more like he doesnt know what he wants. If you really like him wait around but dont make everything about him. If there are other guys out there move on, he will get jealous and figure out what he wants then. At that point youll have to choose
2007-01-21 19:29:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's just playing around with you. move on.
2007-01-21 19:25:46 · answer #10 · answered by aries8422 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋