As a young adult male, I am facing a psychological problem from past experiences will someone reach out to me?

Answer 1

OK. buddy. no ones gona give you a therapy on yahoo answers. sry, but you're gona need a psychologist to undo things from past experiences. especially if it was really early childhood.

Answer 2

Since you didn't specify what that problem might be; other than psychological, I'll just generalize a few words of empathy by saying.......when you are ready to face the demons of your past, you'll come out swinging and don't be hard on yourself. It takes a lot of mental, physical and emotional endurance to make it through all the pain. When you get to the finish there is nothing better than knowing you are a survivor like so many and only time heals wounds.

Answer 3

I agree with NILE queen, this is not the place to get proper therapy. Look in your local Yellow pages for a counselor, therapist, psychologist, etc.

Good luck.

Answer 4

i will, just confide in someone and let it out ,its harder to keep it in ,especially for your body because it just eats at you and taunts you, until you release the burden off your shoulders,you will not be well

Answer 5

Find a good therapist or friend you trust to talk to.

Answer 6

goodluck in your quest for the answers u seek

Answer 7

just let go of the past.

Answer 8

depends

Answer 9

A man goes to a shop, picks up a beautiful cup and says "my god this cup is so beautiful" and suddenly the cup starts talking to the man. The cup starts saying "O man, I am beautiful right now, but what was the state of my being before the pot-maker made me a beautiful pot?

Before I was sheer mud and the pot-maker pulled me out of the mud from the mother earth and I felt why that pot-maker is so cruel, he has separated me from mother earth. I felt a tremendous pain. And the pot-maker said, "Just wait." Then he put me and churned me, when I was churned I felt so giddy, so painful, so stressful, I asked the pot-maker "Why are you so cruel?" the pot-maker said, "Just wait." Then he put me into a oven and heated me up, I felt completely burnt. There was tremendous pain and I asked the pot-maker "Why are you so cruel?" and the pot-maker said, "Just wait."

Then he poured hot paint on me and I felt the fume and the pain, I again asked the pot-maker "Why are you so cruel?" and the pot-maker said, "Just wait." Then again he put me into an oven and heated it to make me more strong, I felt life is so painful hence pleaded the pot-maker and the pot-maker said, "Just wait." And after that the pot-maker took me to the mirror and said, "Now look at yourself". And surprisingly I found myself so beautiful.

When god gives us lot of trouble, it appears god is very cruel but we need patience and we have to wait. When bad things happen to good people, they become better and not bitter.

So all difficulties are part of a cosmic design to make us really beautiful. We need patience, we need understanding, we need the commitment to go through in a very calm and wise way. So all difficulties are not to tumble us but to humble us.

With this understanding, let us not be against difficulty. Understand difficulty is a part of a purifying process. A purifying process at present which we cannot understand and hence we need faith and we need trust.

Let us understand how to handle stress with this background. You can be affected by stress from two angles. There is an internal stress and there is an external stress. Nobody can avoid stress; one has to only manage stress. Managing stress can be internal and also external.

The internal stress is; your thoughts can create stress, your values can create stress, and your beliefs can create stress, meaning thereby your stress is coming from your mind more from the outer world. Many people suffer not from heart attack - they suffer from thought-attack.

For example, when somebody says you are an idiot, we get so hurt, we get so victimised. My boss has called me an idiot and I am feeling tremendous pain. Now where does this stress come from? If my boss has called me an idiot, I have to ask myself "am I an idiot"?

If I am an idiot nothing to be upset about; and if I am not an idiot, then also nothing to be upset about! It is the perception of the boss. But why do we suffer from that stress? I suffer not because my boss has called me an idiot but because of the thought-attack.

I may say the boss has called me an idiot; therefore I am suffering? It is true that the words are unpleasant. But what hurts is the interpretation of the unpleasant word. The thought in me interprets. That is pain and therefore it becomes pain. Much of our stress is our mind interpreting it as pain. So we suffer from thought-attack more than heart attack.


Can there be harmony in conflict? By approaching conflict in harmony, you can resolve it. And harmony comes with an attitude of wonderment and open-mindedness. Buddha took a flower and looked at his students silently.

He asked them to respond. Each student interpreted it according to his own philosophy. Mahakashap got up and smiled. Buddha gave the flower to him and said, "You have interpreted it correctly".

In his smile every cell of his being was in a state of wonder. In every moment of our life why can't we see with totality and not in a partial way? Just by looking at things with appreciation, we can avoid conflict altogether.

What is the essence of the Bhagavad Gita? The Gita teaches us the art of being total. Use your actions in an attitude of karma yoga, use your feelings in devotion in bhakti yoga, use your intellect for right understanding in jnana yoga and use your being in silence in dhyana yoga.

When there is conflict we tend to counter it with conflict. War is conflict and Gita presents a harmony that could lead to inner tuning. The Gita's message is: "Create harmony in conflict".

In the art of archery, "losing the arrow" is the most important aspect... Archery is only a preparation for the final "let go" of the arrow. Similarly, in life it is the "let go" of the ego which is most important.

Like in archery the anxiety to hit the shot dilutes and pollutes one's effort to hit the target. In life the anxiety to reach one's goals ravages one's life.

In the context of war the value of spiritual lessons is more, as one experiences tension... In martial art if someone twists your wrist and if you resist it, you may break your wrist.

But if you go with the flow rather than go against the flow, you are in a state of harmony. As you go with the flow then you counter-attack your opponent in the flow. This is creating harmony in conflict.

Most difficulties in dealing with conflict arises out of stress and tension. When you are in great tension, don't fight with it, just flow with it and then see the cause of the tension and handle it.

You see, there is a sharp distinction between worrying and worrying effectively. I feel like a sheep and I want to be strong. Has the Gita got something to say about this? Arjuna wanted to leave the battlefield.

Krishna tells Arjuna to face life and not run away from the conflict. Our conflicts exist because of our unconscious. Our prison habits created by the unconscious is making us live like sheep.

A lion lives alone and has the courage to face the dangers of life. A sheep lives in a crowd and has an illusion that the crowd will protect it. The sheep represents a part of our society and the lion represents our pure inner state.

The Bhagavad Gita helps us to tune to our inner pure state and denounce the illusion of security. Life is insecure, so face it courageously, says the Gita.

Clarity, courage and wisdom are true security. Learn to draw energy from that state and not from illusion. Then you will see the difference.

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