Scared of Marriage part II: I'm not so much scared of marriage or the wedding, I think I'm more scared of divorce. It just seems like such a volitile, emotional train wreck.
2007-01-21 11:17:15 · 10 answers · asked by starzzdcay 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
yes i agree
2007-01-21 11:20:45 · answer #1 · answered by can u ♥ moi? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I may be a bit jaded now, because im going thru a divorce. I think you are right to be afraid of divorce. More often than not ti turns into a very emotional ugly deal. It changes people to a point that can scare you. I dont say this to tell you not to get married. I'm telling you that you should think about everything before you take the plunge. Like it or not marriage is like a business to some point. And it definatley becomes one when it disolves. Once you think thru it all and understand that the odds are that you will get divorced go from there. I dont really think people change so much over time. i feel a lot of it is we try to change and be what we think the other person would like more. Then as time goes on we go back to what we normally are. And there is where a lot of the problems start. My advise? Dont get married to a person without being together for a good peroid of time. Years not months. Hope this helps a little
2007-01-21 12:40:00 · answer #2 · answered by hlind28 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Getting married is easy.Making a marriage work takes alot of compromise,understanding and patients.A divorce takes everything you have to get through it and then when you think everything will be OK something comes along and brings it all up again.Marriage is usually the highest of emotions and divorce is the lowest of emotions.No one wins.
2007-01-21 11:47:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
divorce is like u have lost your identity especially if u were not the one who wanted it. when divorce first is a real possibility, we fear our future, we wonder how we will make it financially, how we will be on our own, and than our fears kick in when we see that yes our worst fears have come to us and there will be an end of a relationship with the one we trusted and counted on. our safe world suddenly becomes the scariest place on earth. and the only thing we can do is to accept it, as if we don't we run the risk of an emotional breakdown because we aren't dealing with it. we never do completely get over it, especially if we were the one abandoned, but in time it does seem that when we allow ourselves to accept the reality of it, we do get better, and stronger.
2007-01-21 11:29:57 · answer #4 · answered by jude 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
then you should not be getting married
if youare young ( 18-25) 85% end in divorce
so why do it?
there is simply NO benefit for you to do it
none
you can have children outside of a marriage as many do
and if you seperate you still pay child support
BUT she cannot claim anything you have earned for alimony
since you were never married
nor can she get 50% of your assest aquired
even though prenups are popular
thye do not always work
sometimes they are voided
so best thing is to never marry
2007-01-21 11:26:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes things happen in your marriage that you can't even control if I were you i wouldn't even think about being divorce enjoy your man and the things you two can do for each other to make your life work
2007-01-21 12:22:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ive barely been married 4 months and I am considering divorce...but then he is across the country and isn't acting like he is married either.
If you are considering divorce already, DON'T GET MARRIED!
Please! I am really regretting getting married and now I am totally freaking trapped. I put $6000 on (my) credit cards for the wedding and we were supposed to his extra married pay (military) all to my credit cards...not a cent has come from him in being married for over 4 months...
If you worry about divorce already, DON'T GET MARREID!
2007-01-21 11:27:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you aren't married and fear divorce, you are not ready.
Problem today is people(not all) have selfish motives when it comes to marriage vows. Divorce is so easy and commonplace it becomes the solution to any difference, and there are ALWAYS differences.
Great marriages overcome those differences.
2007-01-21 11:27:00 · answer #8 · answered by n9wff 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your not even married yet I wouldn't even be thinking of divorce. All marriages do not end in divorce. And if it does end in divorce it doesn't have to be volatile alot of people get along with their ex's.
2007-01-21 11:21:46 · answer #9 · answered by chemky1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah it's a big step and if you still love your spouse it is hard to want to end thing's but when a spouse cheat's or is abusive what esle can you do
2007-01-25 08:50:49 · answer #10 · answered by sweetgranny06 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋