Is it ok to chat on line with someone (male) while you still married?

Question

I am just curious what is like to chat one line. Do you think is good idea, thanks for your opinion!!!!!

Answer 1

i do not see why not...i do it....it all depends what you are planning on chatting about

Answer 2

Hey I think it isn't really a matter if it is wrong or right. I think it comes down to is it right for your situation. Is your husband ok with it? If there is trust and he doesn't mind, and it's an open agreement, then I don't see the problem. But if he is insecure and would be upset by it ( only you know him best) Then it would be the wrong thing to do. It could cause conflicts in your marriage if he doesn't agree to it. Some marriges have the confidence and trust in each other and faithfulness to allow it, while others are destroyed by just the mere thought of infedility. Is your hubby ok with this? Also does the male on the other end respect that you are married. Some people will flirt caring less that the person is married. I have a male friend that I have chatted with in the past his time is very occupied now with work. But he never crossed lines, my husband was aware of our friendship and never had an issue. I often discussed my conversations with my husband that we had. So like I said it depends on your situation and your husbands feelings most of all. Goodluck!

Answer 3

I'm married and I chat online with people (males & females) of all ages and discuss any topic. It's my hobby. I have found that it has broadened my perspective on many topics and brought me into contact with some really great people and the occasional cretin too. Thank heavens for the ignore button.

You can set the agenda for chat topics. Make it clear from the start what you will chat about and what you will not. Most people respect you for that. Those that don't you can ignore or they will leave to pursue what they want elsewhere.

I would download Yahoo Messenger and visit the chat rooms. Find one where you are comfortable & chat away.

Have fun!

Answer 4

I guess a lot of people who chat on-line wouldn't see anything wrong with it. I think it depends on the people, personally I wouldn't be interested in "chatting" with some guy on-line. If I want to "chat" with a guy, I have a great one right here at home.

This is only my opinion, the choice is obviously yours. Some things to consider: You have no way to verify whom you are chatting with, and you have no idea what their "intentions" are.

I think a lot of lonely people meet this way, and what may begin as an innocent conversation, often ends up turning into a steamy relationship.

My question to you is, if you are happily married, why do you want to "chat" with someone of the opposite sex? What are you really "curious" about?

If you do indeed start up a "friendship" with someone of the opposite sex on-line my only suggestion would be that you don't say anything to them on-line that you wouldn't say in front of your spouse.

Good luck.

Answer 5

What kind of chatting are you doing? Is it the kind of chatting you would do in the line at the grocery store or is it the kind of chatting that you could actually pay $2.00 a minute?
Here's the thing, if it's grocery store chatting, knock yourself out but if its 1-900 chatting, some may view that as cheating.

Personally, I think if you take it off line, ie:phone, person, etc. then it definately becomes cheating.

Answer 6

I think chatting with another guy online while married is fine. As long as it is just to be friends. But a lot of men seem to think the opposite because they are weirddddddddddd.

Answer 7

It depends on what kind of relationship you have with your husband. Is he the jealous type? Are you the jealous type?

Would you want your husband chatting online with another woman? How would that make you feel?

Those questions will help you choose the right decision for you on whether or not you want to chat online with another male.

Answer 8

It is completely dependent on what you talk about.

I talk to a stay at home father on line. We exchange recipes, talk about different music groups, and funny things we find on line (personal favorites are on line quizzes), etc. The conversation has never turned sexual. Once he did ask for advice on what B&B I would suggest for his anniversary. My husband will walk by and ask who I'm talking with, and I tell him. I never delete any on my IMs. If my husband wanted to read them they are available.

I have a rule of thumb. Would you be doing what you are doing if your spouse was standing right over your shoulder watching your every move? No? Then it is probably wrong, stop doing it. Yes? Continue on, and have a good time.

Answer 9

I chat with men online all the time. Hubby Fred knows and it's ok. I don't do cybersex and these guys know it. We talk about books and travel etc. Things hubby fred isn't real interested in. You've got to have friends outside of your marriage or you won't be an interesting person.

Answer 10

check your motives... are you trying to fill a need your spouse isn't? looking for intimacy? OR do you have specific interests you would like to discuss with like minded adults... like the merits of latex over leather? or maybe how the heck do I get a blood stain out of my merry widow? The net is a great big scary world... filled with posers and imposters...so sure... chat away... invite 10 million strangers onto your monitor... but believe nothing you read and only 10% of what you see...

Answer 11

I would say you are asking for trouble. I know your married, not dead BUT guys online can get the wrong idea.....they talk, then they want to meet etc etc you need to be careful. Ask your husband and if he says he minds then don't do it. Would you want him chatting with women?