Do you ever really get over being scared of marriage?

Answer 1

Depends on the person and the reasons why for the fear. For instance, if you grew up with parents who always fought and had a miserable marriage, it is understandable that one would be afraid of the thought of marriage. It's not really the thought of marriage your afraid of, but possibly the memories of the past that are unpleasant. It can be difficult to get past those feelings of fear, but it can be done. I would suggest professional counseling.

Answer 2

If you go into a marriage knowing everything you can about the other, baggage as well as good stuff, that you understand what marriage is (see below) then, hon, marriage is the only real way to live.... evolution made us wish to be partnered... we are just wired that way. And assuming you are not a child, have a good education, have a good job, communicate well, and won't ever be financially trapped, marriage is lovely. Choose one much like yourself --- same cultural background, religion, language, politics, views of children, faithfulness etc. These kinds of things are real areas of resentment if you haven't ironed them out, or at least agree to disagree, and they aren't deal-busters.

I think marriage is Admiration, Respect, Passion and Trust, with a whole lot of kindness, solving problems without rage, doing things for the other, putting your choices last, and many times, just shutting the hell up. This doesn't mean a marriage will last 60 years --- not very many years ago, the average age wasn't even 60. And if a marriage doesn't last, it doesn't mean that it was a failure.

Before you marry, have a session with a counselor, and discuss why marriages fail, and what each of you can do to be sure it remains a loving relationship, and intact.

Answer 3

No. I thought I did once. The first time, I was married for three years and then divorced. The second time, I waited five years. After 16 years of marriage he left me for a co-worker. I'll never get over being scared of marriage again.

Answer 4

No, not really. It's a scary proposition. This for life, thing. I've been married three times, am currently married and the only thing that scares me more than marriage, at this time of my life, is being single. Once you take the plunge, you do sort of get over the fright. Mostly, it's worth it, even if it doesn't work out. It's a constant learning experience. Your partner, about yourself. Try it. You won't die of fright.

Answer 5

I got marry December 22 and I have not got over of being scare and the reason why I say that is because we rush our marriage and I barely know about him.

Answer 6

My husband broke up with me because he felt we were headed down the marriage route. We were apart for about 2 weeks when he came back, apologized, and admitted that he was scared to death about the idea of never being with another woman, etc. He told me he then realized I was enough for him and that us being apart sucked. He's been a great husband, father, family guy. I love him and after 4 years, I don't think he's afraid anymore. (or at least I hope he's not!)

Answer 7

If you mean just cold feet, that usually goes away. Marriage itself is a constant gardening thing, you don't just live happily ever after. It scares a lot of people, but if the duo works at it together, then the fear should go away.

Answer 8

Marriage has never scared me. If marriage scares you, you should talk about it with a professional. Perhaps you fear the commitment that goes along with marriage.

Answer 9

I've been married 12 years and I'm still scared of marriage :-P!

Answer 10

Yes!! I'm living proof - my parents were divorced after 32 years of marriage. I decided that I was not going to be and found a nice guy who treats me with respect. Looking back, I was scared for a long time - so scared that I was attracted to guys who weren't interested in me (it felt safe to me)
There's always hope!!
God Bless!:)