i messed up my relationship with my x really bad...i had been with him for a year..but we were really great friends before then...our relationship went down hill in the end of the summer..and then i got pregnant...then i had a miscarriage...it seemed like as soon as he found out that i had a miscarriage he was looking for the first thing to use as an excuse to leave me, i was to stupid then to realize that if he wanted to leave me i shoudnt try to keep him, so i lied to him and told him that i didnt really have a miscarriage and that i just said that to see if he was only with me because i was pregnant, so i lied to him about being pregnant for a couple months, despriatlly trying to get pregnant in the prossess so that i could possibly not ever have to tell him. Finally i couldnt take it anymore and i faked a miscarriage then what do ya kno he left me again.
2007-01-21 10:53:51 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
so he left me, and he refuses to talk to me. Now i think i might really be pregnant again, we havent had sex since he thinks that i had the miscarriage because that was only about a week ago and he broke up with me as soon as he found out. So now i believe that i might be pregnant again, i dont know if i should tell him or not, because to be able to tell him i would have to tell him that i was lieing to him before. So i completley dont kno what to do, i messed up so bad, and i regret it so bad i dont know how i could be so stupid, and i know that hes no good for me but if i am pregnant i dont want my baby to have to grow up with out knowing there father just because i was stupid and lied...can someone please give me some advise
i know i was stupid so i really would not like mean answers with people telling me how im a liar and ect. Helpfull answers only please...the last thing i need rite now is people being mean!! thank you
~god bless~
2007-01-21 10:57:48 · update #1
Uh, Wow.
You're a mess on so many levels. Lies upon games upon manipulations. Do this guy a favor and leave him be. You need to spend some time working on your need to screw with his feelings and test him. I suspect that your dramatics are why be wanted out. The miscarriage was releasing for him.
If I were with a woman and she faked a pregnancy, I would never speak to her again. Let's all hope he sees things the same way.
2007-01-21 11:01:15 · answer #1 · answered by lmcbuilder 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to him. Stop lying and just tell him the truth from the beginning, just as you told us here, except do leave out the part about him not being very good. Let him make the decision whether to try again or not. Offer to take a pregnancy test in front of him or see if he will go to a clinic with you to make sure you really are pregnant this time. Let him know how you feel about a baby knowing the father and the father being part of the baby's life. Good luck.
2007-01-21 11:10:57 · answer #2 · answered by sassywv 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This relationship is so full of deceit & manipulation on your part, that is is probably destroyed forever--so give up on it. Your behavior says you did not really love him, or you would have been treating him as you yourself would like to be treated. (Or, mayby you LIKE being lied to about things as important as your children, and whether they are dead, alive, or imaginary.
Pick up the pieces, and move on with the new knowledge that one person in a relationship cannnot expect to be able to control & swindle the other partner, and expect it to work. There must be a certain level of trust, and you have demonstrated that you are not currently worthy of any...but could be, if you allowed a guy to love you because he CHOOSES to, and not because you tricked him into something behind his back. Think about it; would you truely feel loved, if the love he was showing you was based upon something about you that you knew not to be the truth? And just how long would you expect something like that to last?
Get a grip, girl and let youself be loved for real, not falsehoods!
(This last guy would be a fool to ever trust you again!)
2007-01-21 11:08:22 · answer #3 · answered by Howie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U sound really desperate and need of some professional help! A miscarriage is not a joke! U need to grow up and stop acting like your world revolves around a man! He doesnt want U!
2007-01-21 10:58:49 · answer #4 · answered by Lou Lou 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So... he won't even talk to you? Hmm. Maybe ask him out for coffee, sit him down, and tell him the whole ordeal. If he listens, stick to him. If he doesn't believe you, then forget about him. You and your child deserve a husband/father, but a good one. If he doesn't have faith in you, then walk away from him. He's just another passing character in your life.
2007-01-21 11:01:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
a miscarriage is a hard thing to deal with so i think you should get therapy, see look at that i don't know you and i thought about you fisrt, find a man that will do that for you.
2007-01-21 11:02:14 · answer #6 · answered by Carolyn S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let him go.
Sounds like he wanted the baby.
2007-01-21 10:58:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋