Okay so one of my friends is totally throwing away her life. She used to be a nice girl. Once she got to middle school she was a little more risky. And now, since we started high school shes just lost it. She is a freshmen and she met a junior. He is not a good guy. He does drugs and hes just bad news. She is only 14 and she is already having sex with him. I tell her over and over that she is taking the wrong path and that this guy is just steering her the wrong way. She started smoking once he started smoking. She told me she stopped but I dont think she actually did. I have tried to tell her to leave him because hes not worth it, but shes too in love to see it. She wont listen to anyone. And I'm one of her best friends. I really need advice on how to help her. And if your wondering yes, her mom knows that she has had sex. Her mom told her to go ahead as long as she was safe. Please helpp!
2007-01-21 10:52:17 · 16 answers · asked by Shelby 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Right now your friend is going to ignore the friends closest to her, but the time will come when shes really going to need ya. Do your best to listen as often as shes willing to speak. You can try to encourage her away from him, but she is blinded by her affacuation for him. Stand by her and let her know that you Love her and you only want the best for her, and you don't want to see her hurt or harmed in any way. That you will always be there for her, but you will not support bad decisions, cause you wouldn't be a friend if you just let her get into anything she wanted that would cause her grief!. Believe it or not she may know it down deep that he is bad, but right now she has a false idea of what love really is. You show her your love continually and you will reach her! Goodluck Dear with your friend!
2007-01-21 11:00:17 · answer #1 · answered by Shannon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I"ve been there. But haven't you really fought to your self do you want to start off that generation of that certain behavior all over again? People get the life they get because they choose it. Even if the world is falling think of how much worth it is changing life not only the wife but to give a better life to your child. Giving up & not putting every effort to change makes you a total looser who will b rolling around alone in this world. Don't just sit there feeling sorry for the emotional stress and abuse you"ve put on your wife. Go out get HELP REA L HELP & think of that good woman your letting go & that has been there for you all this time its never too late to change Whether your young or not you marriage never comes in instructions.
2016-05-24 08:39:51 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well nobody can't really tell from whats wrong or right. Once you are in love feelings change and no one can change it except for themselves. I wouldn't say she's taking the wrong path but ya know everybody makes descisions. I think as long as she's happy its ok. If the guys is forcing her then its a different situation, just say you are proud of who she is and will always be there when she needs a friend. Ok ^_^
2007-01-21 11:03:53 · answer #3 · answered by Element 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, her mom says its ok for her 14 year old daughter to have 'safe' sex. I guess she's ready to be a Grandma. I would find a new group of friends to hang out with. Don't turn your back on this one particular friend because when she is pregnant or has a dibilitating disease she'll need you. But until then, you have to find friends who are interested in the same things you are. This guy that your friend is in 'love' with will be here through the sunshine, but if clouds and storms come to your friend he will be gone. You can't force people to view things through your eyes. I hope this helps!
2007-01-21 11:00:12 · answer #4 · answered by Nique T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't make someone do things they don't want to, if she feels she is in love and wants to have sex with him, let her, just make sure she is as safe about it as she can be. I know that doesn't seem like the thing to do but it really is. And about her smoking, maybe you should talk to her mom about it and you and her family can come up with a way to help her.
2007-01-21 11:01:40 · answer #5 · answered by shy eyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stick by her with you there she will take a look at the things she does, if you are not there she will feel like she has no one else and will stay with him longer, introduce her to another nice boy and set up a double date and see how that works, keep trying to have her spend time away from him as much as possible, but do not make it obvious, she will then see that she doesn;t need him or the sex, drugs, and alcohol.! YOU CAN DO IT! BE STRONG!!
2007-01-21 10:58:59 · answer #6 · answered by samee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if her mother doesn't seem to care....... does she know that he does drugs and she is too? Maybe it is better for you to just break away your friendship with her and let her make her own mistakes, because there is a point where you just need to focus on your own path and doing the right thing for yourself.
2007-01-21 10:57:28 · answer #7 · answered by Em C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that its great that your trying to be a good influence on your friend but as others say, you cant make some one choose right decisions. May be you should reconsider your friendship with her. Mr. Franklin said that if you lie with dogs you wake with fleas so be careful your self.
2007-01-21 11:01:28 · answer #8 · answered by flesh_of_daisy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think u should tell her mom more details of what else she doing and then maybe she will step in and do something! Also your a great friend looking out for her
2007-01-21 10:57:42 · answer #9 · answered by sweet sixteen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this happened to me once and what u should do is tell her that ur not gonna be her friend anymore and tell her why and then let it go and hopefully she'll realize that she lost a really great friend and maybe she'll dump that loser and go back to u as a friend. i hope i helped and good luck!
2007-01-21 11:22:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋