my son matt spends 50% of his time at his dads house.now don't get me wrong my ex is the best dad he helps matt with his homework,attends all school functions and has been very supporting to me.the one problem i have is my ex plays warcraft all the time and this has rubbed on onto my son.matt is not allowed to play this at my house but when he goes over to his dads house he plays for hours straight.its not uncommon for my son to come home from a weekend at my exs to tell me all he did was go from the ps3 to the computer.now i do know this is a exaggeration and my ex does do other things with him but he does spend a great deal of time playing video games.since my ex is such a graet dad and my son loves playing these games with his dad i don't know what to do.can i ask what do you allow your children for video games? how much tv?
2007-01-21 10:29:10 · 10 answers · asked by megen7greeany 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Hi. Good question. I just heard of a study that indicated that video games actually fill unmet needs in kids, unmet needs may be the wrong phrase. Bottom line, they're actually good for kids.
I would do a google search or a yahoo search on this and find the study . . .
2007-01-21 11:16:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I was 8, I was only allowed 3 hours a day max apart from any movie or show seen with the family.
After that it was all up in the air hovering around the 4 or 5 hour neighborhood for VGs (at least for the weekends).
I was encouraged to go outside and do things with friends, I was never outright forbidden from too many things aside from drugs and MTV.
But it was also a much simpler time (early 90s, Arizona suburbs).
2007-01-21 10:37:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is more important is the types of games and shows he is watching. Granted he shouldnt doing nothing but those things. Video games however are proven to increase hand eye cordination. If you gave him a little time to play while he was at your house after he had other work done, he might not be so driven to play as much on the weekend b/c video games do get old after a while.
2007-01-21 10:39:26 · answer #3 · answered by O G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the only way children learn anything is through experience. An infant is as intelligent as you and I, they just lack experience.
Recently, a study showed that when watching TV, your brain is LESS active than while sleeping! In other words, that blank stare on your sons face as he plays video games is not concentration, his brain at the time is just as blank. Wriggling your thumbs and staring at one spot for 3 hours does not develop hand and eye coordination one bit, give him a hammer and watch him bash his fingers with it.
Do your son a favor---turn off the TV and kick him out the door. If he doesn't stand on the other side whining to get back in, he'll learn how to run, jump, climb a tree, skin his knees, fall off his bike--in other words, he'll be LIVING--not turning into some kind of techno zombie.
Your ex should seriously GROW UP.
When they find a practicle use for any bit of information learned from "Legend of Zelda" let me know.
2007-01-21 11:22:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I allow my kids a certain amout of time on the tv, computer and video games--I am personally not into any ofn them, but I do understand that their generation is into all this tech stuff.. I am also forever chasing them outside to play----its all about balance...if you think that ur son is gaming too much with his dad then talk with him and ask if he can incorporate other activities with your son.....I think there is also an addictive aspect of these video games so thats also something to keep in mind....good luck
2007-01-21 10:38:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kids learn from examples that are set by adults they admire. If you want your kid to be just like his Dad, I suppose it's ok. if I were you I think I would have a talk with Dad and tell him he you guys need to be on the same page with the video games. I'm sure he would enjoy going outdoors or doing some sport activity just as much and it would be better for him. Godloveya.
2007-01-21 10:33:58 · answer #6 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the best idea would be for you to make up a list of what you do not want your son to do while he is with his dad. You can include all the reasons if you want to, but it is not necessary. Then ask him for his list of all the things his son should not do while he is with you. You can follow his list, and he can follow yours. That should work.
Or the 2 of you could sit down and discuss the topic if it is that much of a concern to you. But, from what you have said, it sounds like it is more of a behavior problem to you than to your son.
2007-01-21 11:23:37 · answer #7 · answered by teachrmother 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let's make a point here: he is your ex husband, and he is your child's dad. So long as he is not endangering your child you really have no right to tell him what he can or cannot do with your son. You can set rules for your own house and expect them to be obeyed, but he has the same right as you do. Besides which, the father of your child is spending time with your kid and you're COMPLAINING?
2007-01-21 11:01:28 · answer #8 · answered by John F 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Basically when your son is with you its up to you to control his video games and tv BUT when he is with your ex its up to your ex. As long as your son is into sports or school activities and actually gets some physical activity I wouldn't worry about it. You are lucky your ex is a great dad!
2007-01-21 11:17:04 · answer #9 · answered by chemky1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
firstly i think that you ex should grow up, now tell your husband to have a balance b/w the games and the school work, tell him to even to go outside and play, the child is 8!!!
2007-01-21 10:37:33 · answer #10 · answered by Carolyn S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋