My husband got offered a job and we are relocating, the same day I got offered an internal promotion...?

Question

I need some advice. I have been trying to move from my current position and applied for an internal move several months ago. We just found out that my husband has been offered a job somewhere else and it would be a great careet move. The same day, I got offered the job I wanted. The problem is that we are going to be moving (when? I don't know). I am torn over whether to pursue this job they are giving to me becuase I know I will be leaving in perhaps 4 months. No one at my office knows about the relocation and I want to take this position for as long I as I can have it to further myself. It's not everyday someone hands you a promotion.

What should I do? Take the job or not? I think I should just because my husband's job might fall through (you never know) and then I will kick myself later. Plus, it's a good career move. It's not personal, it's business right?

Any advice would be great!

His job would be more beneficial. It's with the same company and they have him on tract to move higher up in the years. My offer is good too, but not as good as his. I am willing to stay behind for a few months to continue learning. He is highly likely to take the job but chances are I won't be going with him right away just so I can stay behind to continue making money while he gets things settled. The promotion for me would be great for when I started looking for a new job.

Trust me, I am very torn on this one because I hate leaving people I respect in a situation. I respect my boss and the other supervisor that wants me to take the new position. But I also feel that if I don't look out for myself, I won't get anywhere. No one is looking out for me except myself. But trust me, I've came home crying because I didn't want to be put in this situation.

Answer 1

Ya know? I've always thought it funny that when an employee leaves a company, that person is supposed to provide a two week notice. You don't want to put the company in a bind... And yet when the company wants you to leave, you are expected to leave that day.

Funny how that works...

Or how an accounting department can look at divisional numbers and see that a couple of division's payroll is really out of whack. Then with just a phone call, all of a sudden five, ten, or however many people are completely out of a job. For no other reason, than numbers on a print sheet.

Funny how that works...

Simply put, you do a job, and the company pays you for that job. That's all you need to know. They don't owe you, and you don't owe them. The rest is all emotion that you put upon yourself.

You said that yourself, when you mentioned that you have literally come home crying over this situation.

You owe it to yourself and your family to take this job. Take the promotion, stick with it for as long as you can, learn from it, put it on your resume`, and run with it.

You go Girl!!!!!

(Sorry, I have to edit my answer a little bit...)

Holy Crap!

I just read the answer directly before me.

The LAST thing you want to do is let your bosses know what's going on!

If the company knows that you are only going to be with them a short time, what do you think is going to happen? He says he can see things from both sides, but his answer is about as pro-management and anti employee as you can get. Probably has a picture of Nixon on his bedstand!

You keep your mouth shut! You don't tell this to anyone! You take that promotion, and you stay with this company as long as you can, then you move!

Answer 2

You said your husband was offered the job and it would be a great career move..but that you don't know when you're moving. So it sounds as if he hasn't actually accepted it and even if he does you're not totally sure it'll happen and if so you don't know when/if you're going? No wonder you're in need of advice, that seems confusing. How long will it take to get the details on his job straightened out, and how much time do you have to decide on yours? If he earns the most and you make decisions based on his career, then you should get something in writing from his new employers...start dates, salary, etc. before you begin making decisions on your job. Once you know for sure that you're leaving, could you take a promotion knowing that you're only staying a few months? When you quit, if your boss asks how long you knew you were leaving, could you lie and feel ok about that? It might come back to haunt you when you look for your next job in your new location. I think honesty is best..just because it's business doesn't mean it's ok to let an employer put time and money into training you for something new when you know it's a waste of his/her resources and the company will have to start over with another employee.
p.s. Just read the other posts and obviously I'm the minority here .Honesty in the workplace doesn't seem to be a popular concept. I'm an employer. If I figured out that you knew there was a chance you were leaving when you accepted a promotion and didn't give me the opportunity to either go ahead and let you work in the new position until you left or choose someone who was sticking around, that would definitely affect your references with my company. I guess it depends whether you need good references or not.

Answer 3

The first thing I would consider, is how long have you been with that company and is his job offer more beneficial than yours. If his is so great that you won't even have to work, then I would say move and then look for something comparable to what you have. If you've been with this company for a long time and now you've opened up a whole new avenue for advancement in the long term, I'd stay with them, let him take the new position (if he wants it), and then work your way up and see what happens with his job.
Like you said, it may fall through. After all, it's just an offer. Is it through his same company or is he completely changing jobs?
He could rent a cheap apartment wherever his new job is, and if it works out well, then you could decide at that point to transfer in your company out to a location near him or take the new experience that you've gained and take a position with another company out there.
This is one of the toughest scenarios for a couple who both work. It's never an easy decision, because the only way to stay together is someone has to compromise. Sit down with him and go over the pro's and con's of all the scenarios: You stay together and he stays in his current position while you take the new one; You stay together and he takes the new position while you leave yours and begin new; You split for a while and he takes a new position while you stay in your old one until you see how it's working out.

Good Luck!!!! And Congratulations on your new promotion!!!!

Answer 4

That is a very tough question to answer. I can see it from both angles quite easily. So I guess if it was me I would first get the companies who is offering your husband the job to confirm it in writing that they are indeed hiring him, along with a exact date when he will be start his new job. Sometimes with hiring companies you have to be firm on the stance that you need to know these things because there are other factors at play in your decision.

I then would talk to my boss telling him/her exactly what the situation that your husband has been offered a job that will require relocating, though you really do want the job. To most employers they will respect you for being honest about the situation that you are in, and might have some own suggestions of their own. This route also shows that you are being responsible and thinking of the business instead of yourself, which in the end will more then likely help you if you do move since your employer will be much more willing to give a glowing recommendation to your next employer, then if you leave him the lurch which can easily kill your career at your next company.

However, with this said if your husband company will not send you this confirmation I would go ahead and take take the job promotion. Especially since not getting a confirmation of hiring I would be asking myself these questions 'is it worth moving to a company who will not confirm there hiring of your husband, and a time line of when he will start. Especially since moving usually occurs a lot of expenses of their own.'

By handling it this way you will build a lot of good reputation with your present boss, and he/she will be more likely to keep your name in mind if a higher promotion then the one you just got comes up, since you showed that you cared about their business

Just take a step back and try to look at the situation through your employers eyes. They offered you a promotion under the assumption that you are going to be with them for many more years to come. If you where them how would you like it if one of your employees just took your promotion and after you trained them on how to do the job. Then four months later they walked up to you and said 'oh by the way here is my two week notice soon because my husband got a job offer four months ago, which means we will being moving to a new area.'

Personally being an employer I do not like it when employees do this to me since it leaves me in the lurch and a bit confused as to why they had taken the job when they knew they where going to be leaving in a couple of months. All this ends up is creating a headache for your employer since they will now have spend money on hiring a new person, and train them on the job.

In the end the choice is really yours to make though your actions will create either positive or negative effects on what happens in the future. As the saying goes 'Do as you will in the end the choice...but in this choice harm none because if you do it will come back on you eventually.'

Answer 5

This from experience. I have been sorry only for the things I didn't do. The company you work for may know about your husbands offer and are trying to influence you by offering the job you wanted. If that is the case, then they are not being fair with you and you owe them nothing in return. A bird in the hand is worth two in the bush. Take the promotion. Your husband may find something close by soon. Anything may happen.

Answer 6

Take the job for as long as you can. Then give them your 2 weeks notice when the time comes. If the company has been really good to you, you might want to give them 3 weeks notice.

Never tell anyone when you knew that you would be moving. It really isn't any of their business. When asked why, just tell them your husband has been transferred.

Prove yourself in this new job and maybe you can find the same level job in your new location.

Answer 7

I would take the job. Anything could happen in the next four months. If you take the position, maybe you can finish your training in the new position. When you move and go to find a new job, you'll have that training and experience to put on your resume. It might help you to get a better job when you move.

Answer 8

Take the job - you earnt it. It would be difficult to explain why you no longer want it. I will look good on your resume and your husband's transfer may fall through!

Investigate now as to wether there is a simmilar job where you will be moving and if it is possible to move within your company (last one be discrete)

Answer 9

No: Don't take the job. If you take it and your husban job fall through, the company will not trust you if they find out. It is wiser to tell the company of your possible leaving, if you don't want to do that, just turn down the pomotion for personal reasons.

Answer 10

It seems reasonable to accept the promotion since you are not sure if or when your husband's new job will materialize especially if there is little or no significant training involved in your taking the new job.