i'm divorced and share custody of my 7yr old daughter sara with my exwife.sara comes over every other weekend friday-sunday to my house that i share with my gf.during the week sara goes to bed around 8pm but when she comes over to our house on the weekend she stays up till 12 or 1am.i don't keep her up this late on purpuse or its not like i fall asleep and forget about her.i only get to see her ever other weekend so we stay up playing games or watching movies.my gf feels this is to late and that even if it is a weekend and she does not have to get up for school she should go to bed around the same time everyday.so parents in this situation is it bad that a let my 7yr old stay up so late ever other weekend?
2007-01-21 10:04:27 · 14 answers · asked by johnwood7689 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i dont see anything wrong with it, but it is better to keep your children on schedule.. maybe just every now and then?
2007-01-21 10:09:15 · answer #1 · answered by *never give up* 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, kids that age need to get about 9 or more hours of sleep each night...seriously. I also have a 7-year-old daughter and routines are important. When your daughter goes home on Sunday she will propably not want to go to bed at 8 and this will cause problems with her mom and with her school performance.
Think about what is best for your daughter. Staying up a little bit later than usual is a treat, but staying up until all hours of the night is too much.
2007-01-21 10:19:20 · answer #2 · answered by michelle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
On the weekends we let our kids stay up late (11). I do feel that 12 or 1 is too late for a 7 year old though.
2007-01-21 13:30:24 · answer #3 · answered by tomimegi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't see any harm in letting Sara stay up late on weekends, but I think 1 am is pushing it. 11 pm would be more reasonable. I can certainly sympathize with you wanting to spend as much quality time with her as you can, but you're still her father and you have a responsibility to set boundaries. I know it's tough, but nobody said parenting was easy. At least not to me.
2007-01-21 10:13:35 · answer #4 · answered by rtanys 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you are monkey-ing with her sleep patterns... It's natural to want to "make up" time with her. But you are also setting a poor example by condoning behaviour contrary to what her mother allows. Your GF is absolutely correct. and you should consider yourself fortunate that she shows concern for your childs welfare. If you want additional time... maybe you could just ask the EX if you could have an additional afternoon now and then. regardless of your marital status you are parents and should present a united front by maintaining the same rules at both households. Anything less will allow your child to begin manipulating her circumstances, and create an unhealthy "competition" between you and the ex.
2007-01-21 10:21:30 · answer #5 · answered by alex b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, she is only seven years old and that is pretty young. Your girlfriend is right when she says that Sara should be sleeping at the same time every night whether it is a school night or not. You can always wake her early and spend a lot of time in the day time.
2007-01-21 10:11:30 · answer #6 · answered by green_baby_dragon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This isn't so tough. I let my kids stay up late at least one day every other weekend. Their dad has them the other weekends and I don't know how late they stay up at his house. As long as they go to bed early enough for bed, I don't see what the big deal is.
2007-01-21 10:15:24 · answer #7 · answered by Tasha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to let my kids stay up a little later than normal over the weekend but not until midnight or 1:00 in the morning. Kids need their decent amount of sleep too without breaking their sleep schedule and they would of been crabs in the morning.
2007-01-21 10:13:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Compromise, put her to bed at the same time each night but wake up a little earlier in the morning and do something fun like make breakfast, go for a walk, whatever you want. She needs a good nights sleep to grow properly and help her immune system stay strong! its sweet that your such a devoted daddy though:)
2007-01-21 10:18:24 · answer #9 · answered by marinewife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont feel this is a bad thing and you not seeing her all the time , and the weekend to , no theres nothing wrong with you wanting to spend some time with your child .There are so many out there that dont want anything to do with their children . Good Luck
2007-01-21 10:16:00 · answer #10 · answered by janice a 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep doing what you are doing afterall its the only time you get with your daughter. As a daughter I can say the time I spent with dad was very important in making me the person I am today.
2007-01-21 10:14:07 · answer #11 · answered by Babe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋