a previous relationship. He works all day and I have the kids all day. When he comes home from work it's only for a half an hour then he goes over to the neighbors house to "unwind" he is gone for 2 to 4 hours. I've told him that I would like him to spend 4 nights out of 7 home with his family and how it makes me feel when he's gone every night. He said he would change and start spending time with us, that was 2 weeks ago. And it's still the same. What should I do? Am I being selfish?
2007-01-21 09:51:01 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Nope, he needs to grow up and be with his family.
2007-01-21 09:56:15 · answer #1 · answered by zen522 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not! You're not being selfish at all if you want him to spend time with you and HIS kids! I suggest you try and get him to unwind at home with you and the kids doing some light activity and get him involved where he feels that his kids need him more than the neighbours.
2007-01-21 17:56:49 · answer #2 · answered by green_baby_dragon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no it's not being selfish i would wonder too why he stay's at the nieghbor's that long is there something going on that i don't know about i would have a talk with your boyfrien d and ask what does he do for 2 to 4 hrs if he was gone only a few minutes that would be more under standable
2007-01-25 16:33:25 · answer #3 · answered by sweetgranny06 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go the neighbor's and tell him to get his butt back home, he helped bring these children into the world and he needs to help take care of them. Get the neighbor to agree with you. If he goes to the neighbor's without the kids again, take the kids over there to him.
2007-01-21 18:08:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pack your bags and leave them at the door. Tell him if he doesn't change, you're gone. If nothing changes the first two days, you will know he won't change.
I would start looking for another place to live if I were you.
Cohabitation is the quickest way to heartbreak.
NO strings attached.
2007-01-21 17:57:59 · answer #5 · answered by n9wff 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's not right at all. If he wants to "unwind" he should do it after he helps you put the kids to bed. Especially if one of them isen't even your kid.
2007-01-21 18:02:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no he need to be home with the family tell hm he need to start helping out or your done!!
2007-01-21 17:54:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋