someone just said they were going to kill themselves?

Question

this is the second time this has happened, and i feel so helpless, they have posted a question saying they want to die and I don't know what to do? I replied saying email me let me try and help, alot of people did, but surely if they posted a question then they are reaching out for help? What are we supposed to do? Is there anyway to inform Yahoo, they will have their address so they can get the police or someone there?

I have checked this persons other questions and there are ALOT goign back a few months about how unhappy they are etc, I do believe this is 100% genuine.

Answer 1

Do you know what country/state s/he's in?

Use whatever info you have to send this person a helpline number for the area. There's lots of info on the net, but send/post a telephone number, not a url.

If you're in dialogue with the person, and you feel comfortable doing this, make a contract with him/her that s/he won't act for 24 hours and to check in with you by a specific time. If you're not comfortable doing that, is there someone else who might?

Remember that there's only so much you can do at this distance. Take care of yourself so that you can be at your best with it.

It's also very possible that the messages of support have been enough. And that the person doesn't quite know how to reply to them. When people come out of a spell like this, they're often too embarassed to let us know they're ok.

Answer 2

I'm sorry you are so distressed about this situation hun. There comes a time when we cannot save everybody. You have to stand back sometimes and look at all what you have done. That is not being selfish. I am sure this person has appreciated your help. I have answered a question more or less the same, even asked them to email me via private message, but heard nothing. I can only hope that they found the help they needed. And this is what you need to do. It is so nice to know that there are people like you that care. Please try not to become any more distressed about this, you have done what you can. If the question is posted again, just let them know you are there. Maybe that is all what they need, to know that there are caring people out there who are bothered. Give yourself a pat on the back, you tried, you cared, and thats what matters the most.

Answer 3

I knw, i tried helping these ppl too but there is only so much you can do to help. I wish i could rescue them too but we arent super humans so we are not in control. we can only do what we are capable of. i knw how you feel. I have actually helped this young girl of 15 and pursuaded her to go to GP and after few months she went and now she on the rd to recovery. I felt helpless form the UK and she was in Australia. Not as if i could travel through the line and pop up there could i? Nope so we just gotta keep faith in God and pray for the best. take care x

Answer 4

Advise them to ring the Samaritans. Those people are trained to help and will know better how to deal with it than we do.

Remember that on here people can just show one side of themselves, and this can be somewhere to have a moan and let off steam. Bless you for caring.



Edit: I've just found his question and it is pretty harrowing. He seems to be saying goodbye. But it still sounds like a cry for help to me - he's hasn't just gone & done it. There's still hope, if he listens to the people who want to help him.

Answer 5

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Answer 6

It looks like some of the other people here have some excellent advice. The best you could do is point them to helpful agencies, listen to them and try to give some positive, supportive advice. Understand their point of view. They will appreciate that. Pray for them also, if you're into that idea. God bless you for being concerned for people.

Answer 7

Have them call the Samaritans.
They are a 24 hr 7 day phone line to listen to suicidal people.

Answer 8

They might not be attention seekers you cant say that cos you don't know, there is not much you can do just hope that they were not serious. It is normally a cry for help but they need proper help. Trust me I know.

Answer 9

you give them advice...the best as u can...if they were near u, u would hang them and ell them they u are there for them...since u r far away [online], u write that down. u r a good person for caring.

Answer 10

Id say it was true... make sure they dont do it like od on painkillers.


takes days that and hurts like hell and often no going back.


Or hanging... most dont do it right and strangulation is real slow and painful