Custody case in pa?

Question

i am a mother of 4 boys ages now are 18 he has graduated and moved out on his own...then i have a 16 yr old son soon to be 17 then i have a 14 yr old son soon to be 15 then a 13 yr old son soon to be 14.

my ex left us back in nov 1996 i had the children in my custody ever since....when he left i told him i was keeping custody of the boys so he told me fine and then i said about going for child support he told me if i did that then he would give up all his rights to the boys i didnt know the law so i thought he could then so i said fine cause i didnt want to be the blame for him not being in his kids life so i asked him what he could afford he said 50 aweek so he paid that when he did for 1/2 yrs till may 2006 i sued him for child support then he turned around and sued me for full custody ....none of our sons wants to live with him .

he left his 2nd wife back in 2004 she was 5 months pregnant and they also have a 2 yr old son at that time .he went to a bar and never went home ...he left her for his new gf.

well they live in a 3 bedroom well the gf has a son and a daughter the son is 10 the little girl is 6 they sleep in the same room the other women is a stranger she is handicapped living in the 3rd bedroom he has no rooms for my sons they sleep on the floor and couches .

i have to go by the custody agreement made from 1997 when he left ,the kids were toddlers they do not want this set up no more .
i have legal services tellin me i can not change this arrangement cause he is sueing me for full custody.

well we went to a modified hearing we were both ordered to pay 1050 i paid he didnt he asked the judge to give him 6 months to come up with it which will take us to april 2007 ..since then he had moved from his 2 bedroom in new phila .to a three bedroom four blocks from where we live the boys asked me to do something about the visitation they only want to see him now on a saturday from like 9 to 6pm .

i am being told by alot of ppl the kids will get to talk to the judge for my ex is telling the boys he has already won and they will be living with him and they have no choice?


what do you think ? is it true?

his gf moved in a women whom is handicapped , i paid 1050 for a home eval.
he paid me 50 aweek for 10 yrs until he stopped paying so i finally sued him for full support that is when he sued me for full custody.

he still didnt pay for the home eval...and my sons still sleep on the floor .
the women they moved in has a bed and her own room....my ex's gf's son and daughter share a room he is 11 and she is 5 i heard its wrong for brother and sister to share a room.....none of my sons want to live their they want me to try to stop sleep overs ....they sleep on floors and couches ...my ex has no bedrooms for our sons at all .....

Answer 1

I am a little confused: first, who is the other woman who is handicapped? What is the 1050 you had to pay? If you had a custody agreement in 1997 then child support must have been addressed then. Is he in arrears for the 50 a week, how much.

Bottom line is, it sounds like he is telling the boys he already won to frighten you into dropping everything so the boys will stay with you. I doubt he has won or you would have heard from the court. At their ages the boys will have something to say about where they want to live.

Don't let this bum get to you. He sounds like a first class jerk.

Answer 2

In most states, kids the age of your sons should be able to express their choice about where they prefer to live.

The fact that they have lived with you all these years will be noted by the judge. And the fact that he has not paid very much in child support.

I hope you have a lawyer. If not, check with your local bar association to see if there is one who would work for free or make some arrangements with you.

If your ex is able to hire a good attorney and you are not, then they may find some way to twist the facts around.

When you go to court, make sure the boys are heard. It will make a difference. Also, see if your 18 year old will testify on your behalf.

Don't allow your ex to do this to you without a fight. He is trying to make you give up without a fight because he is not as sure as he says he is.

Tell your boys not to believe what he says unless they check with you first. Good Luck!!!!

Answer 3

$50 a week, stable lord, i might have jumped on that as nicely. I make interior the low 40's and pay just about $800 a month in toddler help, and the insurance rates on the two young little ones. i are not getting to declare the two of the little ones for tax purposes, qualify for the youngster tax credit, or get to declare childcare expenditures the two. And, I see my little ones enormously lots everday, on the grounds that we are residing interior an identical small city. i do no longer think of you relatively have something to be bothered approximately. One, you have been the general caretaker for 10 years or so. you haven't any longer had any help from him. additionally, it looks the home is not greater healthful to function that many greater little ones to it. additionally, given the age of the little ones, the choose will honor their desires in maximum situations. yet, while the choose units visitation, at despite is desperate, the father, your self, and the little ones could shop on with the schedule. If the choose says they are to spend another weekend with him, they'll could do this no remember if or no longer they decide for to work out him or no longer.