What is the best way to enjoy life , since it is so so short.?

Question

Im 45 and starting to wonder if ive wasted my life.

Answer 1

Throw yourself completely and passionately into everything that you do. Say yes when you mean it, and say no when you don't feel like doing something. There's nothing worse than regrets about what you should have done in the past.

There's a great poem by the 19th century Mexican modernist poet Amado Nervo called "At peace"...there's a line I specially relate to, it says: " ...I loved, I was loved, and the sun caressed my face. Life you owe me nothing. Life, we are at peace."....Personally, that's all I aspire to.

By the way, honey, 45 is the new 35, and since the 30's are the new 20's, you're 25 right about now *lol. No, but seriously, 45 is nothing age-wise, hey, Madonna was about 45 when she had her youngest kid. If there IS a positive change in our modern society outlook is that age is becoming irrelevant.

So there's no wasted lives, just lives lived with fear. It just takes a moment when you just have to say: "F*ck it!" and live on your own terms.

Enjoy, you only get to go on this ride once. ;)

Answer 2

You may have made some lousy choices, and your share of mistakes; and generally not made the best use of your life so far, that you could have done. But only you know how much of it you have truly wasted. But at 45 you certainly have time to redeem any waste by going on from here with a "brand new bag".
The best way to enjoy life is to engage in only the kind of things that you know you will some day be able to look back on with satisfaction and even a little self pride. One way or another, whatever you DO do from hereon, is going to be recorded in your memory, and there's nothing worse than being forced to recall things that make you groan with shame, embarrassment, regret, or any other kind of negative emotion.
Doesn't mean you will never feel uncomfortable ever again about a mis-step, or a not so good choice, but you CAN arrange for it to never be something you walked into with your eyes wide open, and knowing that it COULD result in regrettable consequences. An awful lot of people, an awful lot of times,go right ahead with something that every string of their gut is twanging out a message " DON'T DO THAT". They just go right on and do it, and sure enough, it turns out to be a goof-up. I never met anybody who could have truthfully said "I never did that" But when a person suddenly wonders, as you just have, about where he's really been going, and what has he really accomplished of any value, that is often an extremely good sign that the person is about to enter into a new phase of - for want of a better word "enlightenment"; is ready to do a serious review of things so far, and then come to a very sensible, and very good decision about where to go from here.
Now, what is the definition of "enjoying life"? I can tell you it darn sure isn't anything to do with trying to copy the nutty behaviours of the likes of Paris Hilton and Anna Nicole Smith LOL. It about reaching out towards something that you KNOW you will one day be smiling about and saying "Now that was definitely a positive. I'm not one little bit sorry I did that, and I did it well." You are the only one who knows what possible direction that might be for you, because only you know your particular skills, abilities, true interests, and potential. But if you apply them, no matter what has gone before, you will be striding off in a brand new direction and the past can be put where it belongs.

Answer 3

You know, I also often feel like I'm wasting my time. You should do what makes you feel accomplished. I don't know about you, but I feel accomplished when I know I've done my best at evolving into a better person or when I've helped someone. So, learn when you make a mistake, take chances, don't let fear get in the way, and help people. But of course, you got to have some kick-back time to just relax as well. Basically, just have a well-balanced life. I think that's the key to happiness. Don't hog all the time for yourself, yet don't neglect your own needs either. If you are wanting the purpose of life, or something like that, I recommened a book called Journey of Souls by Michael Newton or the movie What the Bleep Do We Know. But you have to be pretty open-minded for either of those. I'm not even sure if I helped you at all.

Answer 4

Enjoying life is simple. We restrict ourselves from sooo many things. Don't eat dessert, you'll get fat. Dont drink caffine, don't do this...don't do that. Well, if it's legal, if it's fun, if it tastes good...do it. Have a whole new outlook. Go sailing, go deep sea fishing, go on a cruise, spend some money if you have it and don't save it for the ones left behing because they will be the ones ejoying life then! Take some chances, fall in love again even if it's with the same person. A successful life is not one that has made lots of money.....but, a successful life if one where lots of friends have been made, you've experienced things, you've done the things YOU want from the smallest to the largest. It's all about you. It's your life and you are successful if you are doing what you want to do.....PERIOD!! HAVE SOME FUN....heck, go bungee jumping tomorrow!

Answer 5

As long as you have lived with no regrets and even with some not dwelling on them, them that is one way to enjoy life. Also if you have accomplished everything you set out for is apart of enjoying life. Are you truly where you want ot be in life? Is there more that you could do to help others? Things like that seem to me would make life complete before i die.

Answer 6

been there done that. if you concentrate on your mistakes of the past you will not enjoy life. find things to be grateful about. as for me.. well the job sucks, building I live in is up for sale by owner (not me) not well liked, dont have the money to move, surrounded by smartasses who think they have all the solutions, can barely work this computer, gotta go to the bathroom, need to lose weight, visited my mother today (nuff said) have hair where I dont want it and losing hair where i do want it, had a little tiff with girlfriend over paying my life insurance (ultimately its at least a little money for her but she still is not going to pay it), BUT ya know what? I am not that unhappy, I had an agreeable meal, I'm with my lady I'm not up to my butt with ice and snow, got day off tomorrow and I dont owe anyone any money. so remember we all have problems and doubts just find what is good in your life even if its one day at a time

Answer 7

The best way is to do the activities witch you've always wonted to do. (If you made to 45, I'm sure you'll make it for 20 more years.) So enjoy life because we have life once.

Answer 8

Just tell yourself Hakuna Matata. Hey if your having a good time - your doing allright! Maybe try a hobby you have always wanted to try. I love scuba myself! Anyway, dont be so hard on yourself. Nobody ever says that they are at the point where they want to be in life, or at least rarely! I will be 40 in a few years and I still dont know what I want to do but I have a good time anyway.

Answer 9

I can relate to you. I'm just starting to enjoy my life and myself being alone after 30 years of a bad marriage. It starts with treating yourself good, doing things that you like/love to do and not worrying about having to answer to anyone. Eat good foods, listen to great music, watch movies that you like. Tell yourself funny jokes and laugh your *** off at them. Be your BEST FRIEND!!

Make some lists of things you wish you had done and start writing plans for taking them up again. Perhaps you'll realize what you can do to become a success at this.

Answer 10

If you are wondering if you've wasted your life, then you have. But this sounds like a normal midlife crisis. Go buy a convertible. My remedy for staying a kid at heart, and loving every second of life is having kids.