My mother-in-law walked in on me and her daughter "going at it" on in the kitchen. She's still visiting for 3 more days and it's really awkward.
What do I tell her??? or do I not say anything
2007-01-21 09:30:02 · 35 answers · asked by thank you come again 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
to the guy who said "it's normal who cares"
IT'S NOT NORMAL!!!! for a girl's mom to walk in while she's screaming "oh god..."
P.S.-her bridge game was suposed to go for 2 mroe hours so i thought we were safe...apprently her bridge game got rescheduled
2007-01-21 09:31:40 · update #1
It sounds like she is visiting you. What you do in your house, when you think you are along, is none of her business. She will probobly announce herself when she comes in from now on. Don't sweat it. I am sure she has had her "OH GOD" moments as well.
2007-01-21 09:36:35 · answer #1 · answered by sexyladyinak 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
It is a natural act! Do you think that your mother in law never had sex in the kitchen? Most couples exeriment in the early development of their relationships. Especially after getting married. Young couples have sex everywhere in there homes. So, do not feel that you did something wrong. Let it be a lesson to your mother in law, that if she comes back unexpectedly, she may wish to proceed with caution. More importantly, let someone know that she is back as she walks in the door.
Why do you think people shout something when they enter someones house, without being greated at the door.
For example, "Anybody home?"
They know you are home, they are just giving you notice that you have company, and do not wish to walk in on you. Same goes for knocking before entering.
This is a universal truth, so don't stress over it for too long.
As for what to say; say nothing, let your daughter take the lead on this one. She knows her mom best and can gauge the situation better.
2007-01-21 09:42:40 · answer #2 · answered by Zeke 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, to say the least, it was embarrassing for all three of you. I sure your wife didn't want her MOM to see her like that and the other way around. BUT, things like this do happen on occasion. I would just be straight with her and be a strong man with a strong apoligy. Walk up to her (without your wife ) and tell her you are sorry that she walked in on this. Just tell her you didn't mean for her to have to see this and that you two thought she would be home later. I'm sure she will understand since you two ARE married and it is your house. The tension will ease up and all three of you will feel better. There is nothing you can do to erase the picture in her mind, but communication about it and an apology can help thing a whole lot and you would be a good son-in-law for taking the stand to do so.
2007-01-21 09:39:14 · answer #3 · answered by sugarbud 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Chances are, your MIL has had crazy monkey sex before. Don't worry about it. It's your house. Maybe suggest that she call before she comes back next time, or you could hang something on the doorknob. Don't act like you did something wrong, by all means. You can apologize for not being very discreet, but she should know that you are going to be spontaneous in your physical relationship with her daughter. Those kinds of relationships are the most fun, and usually the ones that last the longest. You are lucky. I woldn't say anything to her. Let her and your lady work it out. Be the man.
2007-01-21 09:39:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If it's your house, your kitchen, your wife, and your time, then you owe your mother-in-law nothing. Don't apologize for having a healthy intimate relationship with YOUR WIFE! If anyone's rights were violated, it's you for her untimely arrival.
Don't say anything. Now your mother-in-law will better understand the twinkle in your eye and your wife's glowing smile, and, really, won't that be a little better than blindly stumbling forward in ignorance? Let this experience serve as a reminder for all that there really is nothing new under the sun.
2007-01-21 09:51:11 · answer #5 · answered by rtanys 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You are married to her daughter. She was young once and I am sure she knows how things happen sometimes. I wouldnt say or do anything. But if you feel you should, although its your house and your business, you can simply say "I am sorry you seen what you did, I didnt expect you home so early." Leave it at that. It is your business and she needs to understand that the two of you are healthy adults who enjoy one another. Dont fret over it. She will get over it.....or may even be jealous....lol Good luck hun and keep your marriage fun like u are.
2007-01-21 09:36:21 · answer #6 · answered by Truth Teller 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Just think , when the two of you are alone she may high five you,give a wink and a pinch on the a@@ and say "way to go boy"
So how doe's the daughter feel about this? If she isn't concerned then you shouldn't be either.
Just a funny thought.How would you feel if you walked in on your father in-law and ma in-law doing the nasty on the kitchen table and he was saying "Who's your daddy now"
2007-01-21 09:43:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Firstly, I must thank you for the creative way to shorten a mother in law's visit. I was going to post that very question, but you've provided the answer. We shall make like bunnies in the kitchen forthwith.
Secondly, I would say you don't have to explain a thing. Assuming the daughter you were boinking was the one who is your wife, it is your house, and you are entitled to do the nasty anywhere you'd like. Relax, offer her a drink, and if she says anything about it, there's a few easy ways to discourage her from mentioning it again. Here's some suggestions:
"Yes, when she ovulates, there's no stopping her! Only thing is, they'll never let us back in Safeway again..."
"I looked at her, and saw your face...and I couldn't control myself any longer...you know she really hates it when I scream your name in bed!"
Or just wink at your mother in law and say "Mmmm-hmmm! Does nymphomania run in the family, Mom?"
2007-01-21 09:47:06 · answer #8 · answered by f117a_twinturbo 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You are married and I am sure she had her moments too. I am sure that it is strange for you but if she doesn't seem to be bothered by it, then you shouldn't. I wouldn't say anything if she doesn't. Treat her the same as you did before she caught you in the act. If she were that uncomfortable, I am sure she would leave early. Since she hasn't then it must not be as bad as you think it is. We always make it worse then it is. Because it happened to us.
2007-01-21 11:19:24 · answer #9 · answered by ~Carolina Beach Girl~ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it must be embarassing and uncomfortable for you i can only imagine!!
if she is staying on, perhaps it may be best for you or you and your wife to collectively clear the air with her. sit her down and apologise that it must have been a shock to her and if she was offended by it so to speak. you never intended for her to be compramised like that, as you respect her and basically your both sorry for her walking in on that. there isn't much more for you to say really, as its your house, she's visiting and she unexpectedly came back early. it was an accident after all.
hope this helps!!
2007-01-21 09:37:28 · answer #10 · answered by emzc 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think she probably feels awkward too.
Just sit with her for a brief talk and say "I feel really bad and embarrased about what happened the other day, very sorry that you had to see that... while we were working for your grandchildren (if you feel it would be ok to try and make a joke of it)" Be more careful next time, insure your privacy.
I feel for you, it is probably very bad, but also a bit funny - you will laugh on it in time :)
2007-01-21 09:40:29 · answer #11 · answered by raya_smartgirl 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋