I have been with my husband for 12 years...married 8. We have difinatly had our ups and downs, but I love him and I will always love him. The problem is that he gets into these moods( Recently his Grand- mother gaves us a scare...thought she might die. He's also a Desert Storm Vet) where he shuts himself off from me...like he's afraid that if he opens up all the way I'll rip him up, spit him out, and leave him . I don't want to control him...or have a pu**y - whipped man. I just want to grow closer .... yet give him the space he needs. Any suggestions?
2007-01-21 09:07:53 · 2 answers · asked by rhonda y 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
All you can really do is make sure he knows that your love and support are unconditional, and there's nothing he can say that will change that. If he feels the need to turn to you in a vulnerable moment, he doesn't need to hesitate. This, more than anything else, is what marriage is about. Taking strength from your spouse in times of weakness and giving same when your spouse is feeling weak is what differentiates marriage from any other institution.
You're not going to be able to force this issue. Hopefully, he will find the strength and courage to open those floodgates on his own. But there are generations of programming what makes a man a man to overcome, and that won't be easy. Good luck.
2007-01-21 09:19:39 · answer #1 · answered by rtanys 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing you can do is talk to him and be there for him.
Good Luck
2007-01-21 17:11:36 · answer #2 · answered by zen522 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋