I have a friend thats bi and I think I might like her. Im a homeschooled christian and I guess I'm not supposted to like other girls but I think I might. We kinda held hands the other night and I liked it but if it were to turn into anything it would have to be totally secret..what should I do? am I bi?
2007-01-21 09:00:25 · 18 answers · asked by sunnyskys1991 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
follow your heart...please dont buy into the "i'm supposed to like this, im not supposed to like that"...you are who you are, there's nothing wrong with it...also it's very common for younger people to have these questions...it's perfectly fine and natural...maybe you are, maybe you arent..a lot of people who arent had the same questions .but if the question is there, find the answer. not doing so because you're "not supposed to" can be detremental to your emotional well being....a lot of people dont realize, but it takes sooo much mental and emotional energy to block those feelings out!!
2007-01-21 09:06:42 · answer #1 · answered by the WOG 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You probably are bi; as for what you should do, that's up to you to decide. If you feel you could handle dating someone in secret then by all means go for it, but realize that there will be a lot of stress from not being able to tell your parents. Remember that they'll either still think you're single or they might even suspect that you're dating someone behind their back and sit you down one day and get mad that you aren't teling them who you're dating. Parents get suspicious about that stuff.
2007-01-21 09:04:57 · answer #2 · answered by guitarherofairy 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You're in a difficult position, with your religion, your family and all of that. Whatever you do, take it slowly. You have plenty of time to figure it out.
Sexuality is a continuum, with some people totally het and some people totally not and most people in between. So it's very common to have some feelings of attraction for a girl. Do what feels comfortable and good for both of you.
2007-01-21 09:22:05 · answer #3 · answered by The angels have the phone box. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
holding hands?? um, how old r u? you might be bi, but don't be in a rush to label yourself. try kissing her and see how it feels.. if you are bi, then that's great.. too bad others can't be accepting.. the idea of religion is great, however, it assumes everyone is straight, so you might wanna lose the religion so you won't be judged.. just don't tell too many people until you have to.
2007-01-21 09:18:30 · answer #4 · answered by Jeff 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
There is nothing wrong with having feelings for someone of the same sex, because of your christian upbringing it is taught that it is wrong, and in the eyes of christians it is. But go with your feelings on this one, explore your sexuality, the most important thing is that you have fun!
So yes, you may be bi, but who cares!
Have you seen my religions website?
2007-01-21 09:08:48 · answer #5 · answered by baroni2486 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know alot of girls in your spot. I mean how old are you? if you are younge your are probably just confused and following what she is doing you probably wont know what you really are for many years but if you think you are bi trying dating a girl and see how it goese i understand you feeling weird because of the xian school thing but god will love you no matter what hun!
[ hope it helps ]
2007-01-21 09:05:48 · answer #6 · answered by [undercover dinosaur] 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you liked touching her and want to go further, than I'd say you're definitely either bi or lesbian. If you want a relationship with her then go ahead. Life's too short to spend living on someone else's terms.
2007-01-21 16:26:24 · answer #7 · answered by carora13 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
merely be a real chum and be supportive of her. i assume your're both on your youngsters and nonetheless in puberty. throughout puberty many youngsters sexual needs are organic and widely used to be conWhile in college area of my curriculum become psychology and center Humanities, both having lectures and assignments on the challenge of Human Sexuality. Over various a lengthy time period learn blended executed by technique of proper researchers in all aspects of the international got here to those findings: a million out of 10 human beings globally are bi/bay. seventy 5% of adult males (won't be able to keep in innovations woman ratings) have had a million or extra similar sex journey of their existence (various a lengthy time period of persons experimentation for one reason or yet another: a lengthy time period from youthful boys, tweens, youngsters, youngsters, adults to previous adult males), are instantly; maximum married with children. depending on a real/pretend scale of 15% ratio. also, many conversations and debates with clergy of diverse cloths (maximum agreeing) with, and the findings of most suitable psychiatrists and different docs, researchers and scientist of the Human progression of Mankind, and anthropologists agree upon this: A human is born bi/gay, it isn't a call, ailment, ailment, beginning illness, all of us’s fault (which contain parental genes), custom depending, promoted by technique of yet another human or a sin. For that man or woman that is organic and widely used. fused about who to be with.
2016-12-02 20:47:00 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends, do you just find her attractive but would never do anything then u are straight. You are Bi if u Act on it
2007-01-21 09:14:56 · answer #9 · answered by Mysterious 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, do you like both guys and girls?
If not, than you probably are a lesbian.
I'm pretty sure only you can know the answer though?
2007-01-21 09:42:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋