There is an age gap, cultural differences, and the woman is a virgin, & he is basically her first love. They love each other very much, & they have been friends for 3 years. He was divorced before he met her, and she hadn't met his ex yet. She is a verrry emotional woman & she loves him verrry much. Will it be too tough than what she thinks, or both think?
2007-01-21 08:59:49 · 12 answers · asked by giggsmania 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Most of the time, the worst thing someone has to live with is not the mistakes they've done, but the 'what ifs'. You sound like you may be a concerned friend or even the woman herself. It is great to follow your heart and without knowing details, I believe that when two people love each other they can overcome just about anything, but it is obviously important to really know the person you're marrying...and really know who you believe you love, is in fact that person. What is this man's history, his level of respect for his significant other and why did his first marriage end? These questions need to be answered before this woman should make a decision on whether to marry.
2007-01-21 09:15:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is up to the couple themselves. But the woman must realize that the man has had a past "life" and it may come up in certain social situations. Also if he has children he will ALWAYS have a connection to his first wife through them and the new woman is going to have to come to terms with that and learn how to tolerate it, if she can not then she needs to find someone else.
2007-01-21 09:13:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think him being divorced is a problem here, but her being inexperienced and "emotional". If anything, he is perhaps the one who's closer to figuring out what is it that he wants out of life and relationships - and she is simply rushing into the first thing that came her way. If I was him, I would be very concerned. If I was her, I would go out and experience what life has to offer before making such a serious decision.
2007-01-21 09:07:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's fine. I married a man that was married before, and he is 7 years older than me. He worked out all his issues with the first wife . . . partying, flirting, wasting money, divorce will make a man mature, and is a great husband . . . . 12 years and counting!
2007-01-21 09:05:29 · answer #4 · answered by lady_blu_iz 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is your choice and totally up to you and him .... I dont know if it is wise or not ... Follow your heart and do what is right for you.... If you can handle him having an ex wife and you can live with that then marry him but if not than dont marry him.
2007-01-21 09:46:21 · answer #5 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is wrong to marry a divorced man.
Matthew 5:32
"To divorce one's husband or wife and to remarry is "adultery".
Luke 16:18
"Whosoever putteth away his wife, and marrieth another committeth adultery: and whosoever marrieth her that is put away from her husband committeth adultery."
2007-01-21 09:11:03 · answer #6 · answered by janetrmi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
salam Do people not get more points when someone stars their question? How can we get more points for other people? (Sorry not to answer this particular question, just wondering how we in Ramadan section can get you to level 3.) If you answer more questions, sister, I think that we can go about thumbing up your answers. And inshallah we can try to choose your answers as best answer whenever possible. C'mon, sister, you can do it:) Now that I have read the question, I can't figure out whether you want us to chooce between the two or to evaluate each independently of the other. I personally would say that both are not good choices. Please don't tell me that you're stuck with those two as choices. There is no way that a man who is so self-centred as description a) would ever have good iman. Also, since we women have such complicated communication methods, I would think that description b) would also be a bad husband.
2016-05-24 08:02:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it depends was the divorce his fault or hers does he seem like the kinda guy u wanna marry?
2007-01-21 10:47:57 · answer #8 · answered by wigger_tigger13 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the divorce was not his fault, what is wrong with marriage....God bless ya
2007-01-21 09:27:30 · answer #9 · answered by Bert 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes especially if he has kids that he loves( but date him for atleast 2 years)
2007-01-21 09:44:46 · answer #10 · answered by Beaner :D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋