hi ive been married 4 mths and although my partner has always had a high sex drive its now getting on my nerves ! he cant sem to be able to give me a cuddle without having a grope or a kiss without shoving his tounge in my mouth lol we have 2 children and i have recently started full time employment, as soon as i get in he wants it and i just want to sit down with a cuppa, we rarely go to bed together because he works nights what can i do/say that wont hurt his feelings ?
and yes i do like sex with him and i do love him to bits....just cant handle his high sex drive lol whats a woman to do ?
2007-01-21 08:51:48 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well you don't want to drive him to other women or porn - i would say give him a quickie as often as you can, or just, if the kids are around, go into the loo with him lock the door and give him a quick hand one or bj - how long would that take? Sorry to be crude, but surely you knew what he was like - you may have only been married 4 mths but you got 2 kids so weren't you living with him? Maybe the full time job and the kids are wearing you out - isnt there any way you can go back to part time? Believe me, men are like fires - if neglected they go out!!!
Good luck!
Faith x
2007-01-21 08:59:38 · answer #1 · answered by Caroline 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
All I have to say is just give in! I have been married for 26 years, and the first five years were rough. He worked nights I worked days, for goodness sakes I hardly got any sleep. Believe me it will slow down with age, but many people here are right be happy that he’s having sex with you, and not someone else.
2007-01-21 09:15:09 · answer #2 · answered by Ms Pollyanna 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As a woman with a really high sex drive I can't comprehend a man ever wanting too much!
Surely after years together and two kids you know what he's like, are you sure that your new job hasn't changed you?
Enjoy the fact that he wants you so much and if all else fails buy him a few good porn movies!
2007-01-21 09:00:56 · answer #3 · answered by Poppy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because of your contrasting work schedules, not to mention the kids, you two have a limited window of opportunity for intimacy. It could be he's overcompensating for the limited time you two have together. It's most likely that things will calm down after a few more months, so enjoy the ride while you can.
2007-01-21 09:25:32 · answer #4 · answered by rtanys 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
seems as newly weds this is healthy. Did you live together and have kids and then marry? so if that's the case you knew he has a high sex drive when you married him. Be a woman and talk to him about how you feel and find a happy medium so that he does not resent marrying you and you do not feel bothered by his needs and yours.
2007-01-21 09:11:20 · answer #5 · answered by MJ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just talk to him. Sex isn't the only way to "connect" with your spouse and show affection for each other. Ask him to back off a bit. But at the same time, you have to be somewhat accomodating, since this is what he's used to, and it wouldn't be fair for you to "cut him off" all of a sudden. If this is the way he is, it'll be something you're going to have to put up with for as long as you guys are together.
2007-01-21 09:02:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women are never satisfied. Too much, not enough, put it here, don't do that.......!
Anyway, does sex have to involve intercourse. Maybe you can satisfy him in other ways. Do you think he would be O.K. with that?
Is the problem intercourse or that he won't lay his *** down and just go to sleep? Are you tired of him intimately?
Just a note: Be glad that he wants to have all of this sex with YOU and not SOMEONE ELSE!
2007-01-21 08:59:40 · answer #7 · answered by Victor H 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That is a good question. I am not sure what you can do other than get him a sex buddy lol. The best answer I can give you is to sit down and be totally honest with him about how you feel.
Good luck
2007-01-21 08:59:39 · answer #8 · answered by sexyladyinak 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
youd better enjoy the ride. cause it will end. he is worried that this is what u are missing because of scheduling, but u need to talk to him and let him know that right now u are beat and u will try to accomadate him but not as much.
remeber if he can get it up, its ur job to bring it down. u dont want him taking it somewhere else.
2007-01-21 09:53:49 · answer #9 · answered by ray g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I gotta say at least he is not cheating on you just to get laid or even paying off hookers for a quickie. You are blessed with a man that cant get enough of you. Maybe suggest some sort of schedule.
2007-01-22 16:28:16 · answer #10 · answered by Macky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋