Should we feel sorry for people who suffer from jealousy?

Question

I mean, sure, they try to inflict suffering upon others, obviously, but isn't that the direct consequence of their own suffering?

Is jealousy a mental health problem in itself or is it a mere symptom of one's deep-rooted insecurities?

I see the devastating effects of it in bo peep and can't help wondering: what can be done to help her and stop her trying to hurt others.

Some very thoughtful answers, AND helpful, thank you all!
Shame, bo peep is still in complete denial, we ARE trying to help you, you know... I hope you take time to read the other answers, they are full of wisdom and all of them are completely objective as to your own particular problem. Shalom, bo peep.

Answer 1

Hi Doudou,

You sound like a thoughtful and compassionate lady! (Not sure who Bo Peep is but the name sounds familiar- is this a musician or singer?) Anyway, I think we all have our jealousies; it's the extent to which we feel them that determines whether or not they are going to affect us in a really negative way.

I once worked with an exceptionally pretty girl who was more or less the office "pet" of our boss and his right-hand woman. They took a liking to my work and promoted me ahead of her in something; it wasn't so much- I didn't think- and there was no way she could have gotten the promotion since this was not her area of expertise, but but she did seem to take exception to it and grew very quiet whenever I was around.

Finally I asked her if she was upset about something that had to do with me. As her lovely, lovely face grew all twisted and ugly, I suddenly realized what people mean when they say a person looks "wretched"- she looked as if she felt sick and awful. She simply poured out her dissatisfaction about that silly little promotion and how the whole thing was handled; she went on about it for about 20 minutes.

We got it straightened out eventually, but I will never forget the look on her face as she let out those feelings that were tearing her apart inside. Yes, I felt sorry for the way she must have been feeling about the whole situation the moment she began to talk about it. She looked so lost and confused under the ravages of that jealousy that I instinctively wanted to hug her and let her know things were going to be all right. And all for no real reason that I could see- everyone in that office thought she was the best, at what she did there and in everything else- so did I!

I don't think you can really help a person when they feel this way deep inside, unfortunately- I think they need to admit to themselves that they have a jealousy problem, stop blaming it on other people, and seek help on their own. At the same time, we need to learn to watch out for ourselves.

Answer 2

It's hard to feel sorry for people who are jealous because it is so... ugly! Jealousy is usually directly related to greed. People wanting more, more of what they don't have, more of what they can't have, more of what they can get but don't want to put the effort forth, and sometimes it's unattainable and the jealousy leads to feeling sorry for themselves and wishing they could have something, knowing they can't and so feeling neither should others have it. Life is not fair. It never will be! If we can be truly thankful for what we have and what we are capable of getting, we feel no jealousy. It takes being selfless rather than selfish. That's a hard row to hoe. Really hard!

Answer 3

I think considering that I do suffer from jealousy. Its not easy to get over. it does come from insecurities. Some people reflect their insecurities through dieting, low self-esteem, and cutting. People who are jealous just deal with it in a different way. yes of course some jealous people take it too far and hurt others, but some, like me, just want some things all to themselves (relationship wise)

Answer 4

Yes, jealousy is the person's own suffering. Suffering of his / her unfulfilled desires.

First thing, What is jealousy? Jealousy can be in different forms, Materialistic, Emotional, Power etc.

Something, you always been desiring, not yet achieved and some one else closer has achieved, you feel uncomfortable showing appreciation or gratitude, and start showing negative reflections called jealousy.

Yes, we must feel sorry for them and help them out.

Good Luck!

Answer 5

Yes, jealousy is always created not by the person suffering from it but by the person whom the sufferer is jealous towards. Jealousy is usually a thing that someone is TRYING to inflict on someone else. As harsh as that sounds, its true. You have to realize we live in an egotistical society where everyone considers everyone else competition. So we do things such as create jealous scenarios in order to help gain power over another person which in turn makes us feel more important. If we can learn to love and be selfless instead of trying to gain power over another we will get loved back in turn filling our yearning for importance. Which would create world peace.

Answer 6

you have each reason to experience happy with your self. What you have had to stay with ought to have been quite, lonely and depressing. you won't see it now, yet human beings like your self comprehend the thank you to artwork for what they choose and contained in the approach enhance a backbone, stamina or maybe (can) experience deeper compassion for lives of others. you will possibly be able to or won't get there. living with an alcoholic and in no way feeling enjoyed can do lots of harm to the human soul. i will purely desire you lose your resentment and bitterness, adversity made you sturdy...it made the different guy susceptible. replace your attitude and you will see which you had what grow to be necessary to prevail contained sooner or later. you comprehend what you do no longer choose, the form of pop to no longer be. human beings accessible do care approximately you and took the time to study your long question, then answer it. existence is extra common than you comprehend. Having it hassle-free isn't the main suitable thank you to enhance up, look what got here approximately to him...then benefit from the place you're. there is not any reason to seek for pity, it is not eye-catching and (with a bit of luck) no longer your form.

Answer 7

My neighbour is extremely jealous, always checking on us, running around trying to get attention, every time we go in garden , she quickly comes out, I don;t feel secure living in my home anymore, she can some out anytime & from anywhere (she has tried every possible place she can, front door, back garden etc .She has made my life very uncomforable, I cannot relax in my oen home. Should I feel sorry for her? I don't think so. Pity her maybe, but no sympathy from me. She's a night mare that hs happened in my life & I cannot wait to move.
Sorry for the moan, but u r right, jealous people do ruin others lives, better to stay clear of them.

Answer 8

DouDou,
Yes, we should feel sorry for people who suffer from feelings of jealousy. It can be quite devastating to be overcome by such a strong and negative emotion. It weakens both the mind and the spirit. But instead of feeling sorry, if at all possible, try to encourage "the jealous" to seek help. If that's not possible, try to keep your distance from them if you are being affected by this type of behavior

Answer 9

Yes jealousy is a dangerous thing. People have killed through jealousy. Because they are insecure, low self esteem.

Answer 10

I think you're right, it stems from someones own issues, their own insecurities. To a certain extent I could feel sorry for someone like that but it depends on how much their actions affected me.