Why are overweight women trying to make being overweight sexy?

Question

A lot of times when you tell an overweight women that you perfer toned, thin, or women of average weight they become so insulted. I hear a lot of comments from them like "why would you want a bony girl when you can have a curvacious girl with meat on her bones" or "what are you a child molester going after girls with no **** or *** that are built like little boys?". I'm not saying that men should hate or insult overweight women but honestly its just not as attractive to most men. Like most women want a man bigger then them, most men want women that are smaller then them. I just hate seeing these women wear clothes way to small for them and then get defensive when you don't find them attractive.

Answer 1

That is a very good question. I used to be heavy, then I gained every more weight. Then I lost all of it plus more and now I am fit and a normal weight. But, I'll tell you, my husband wanted to have more sex with me when I was fat or obese than now, even though I get more attention from random men than before. So, it is a mystery, but some men like chunky women. I am glad I lost the weight but some men like that I think better.

Answer 2

As with all genres of the population. There is sexy and there is just plain gross. I don't believe "overweight" woman are trying to make overweight sexy. That's like asking if Nicole Richie is trying to make skinny sexy. While it is true that there are women who wear clothes that perhaps they should not be wearing, the same can be said for skinny people. I personally don't think seeing one's rib bones is sexy. Honestly, I think sexy is what you want it to be. My idea of a sexy man or woman may not be the same as yours. Sometimes. the attitude is truly a way of covering insecure. But sometimes the attitude is just plain confidence and that's when you at least gotta give props. There aren't very many people thin or full figured that truly don't have insecurities.

Answer 3

Overweight women can and are very sexy in the eye of the one that finds them sexy. Not everyone would agree with you that a woman's body is suppose to look like Twiggy. If you look back in history the great artist depict women with fat bellies and curvaceous hips and rears. The insult you are experiencing is because of you attitude toward them. You are the one being insulting and abusive. They are being defensive because it is a form of abuse. Yes, it is abusive to tell someone they are ugly. My Mother taught me if I did not have something nice to say do not say anything at all. When did you take the last survey to know that "most" men do not like women with soft curves. As a matter of fact when men are polled it comes out it is not the body that keeps them in a relationship. If you do not like what you see look away. You are not their judge.

Answer 4

You know what, a***ole? Why don't you try wearing a body suit that makes you the size you don't like then go clothes shopping in it!!!!! Do you really think that fashion designers or dressmakers give a damn about what we "pleasantly plump" women wear or look like?

There are many possible reasons for being overweight. Comments like yours, for instance! I suggest you get used to it - being overweight is fast becoming the norm in this Country. If you don' like seeing it, then don't look!

Instead of insulting us, maybe you should try dating one (or two, or three!) of us. You MIGHT be, God forbid, surprised at what you'll find! You're now the second man I've told "I'm the best thing you NEVER had!!!"

Answer 5

Is someone mad because a big girl was after him?

Honestly, not every man wants a small woman. Just like women, men have some idea of what they find attractive. If no one wanted big women, there wouldn't be a name for it - Chubby Chaser.

I knew a guy who like larger women because he was very tall (not fat). And he found them to be nicer as well.

Here's an odd thing. I've lost weight since I met my hubby and married him. He saw a pic of me as a size 12 (I'm a 6 now) and told me I could get that big again ANYTIME. He thought it was horribly sexy. So you never know.......

Answer 6

ok why is it always the lame and unattractive man that wants to be with a toned, thin woman? they always want someone magazine oerfect but need their own membership to Bally's? sexy is just that, sexy whatever size u are if u can bring it then do so. i have small toned women that are model thin and cannot bring it. they lack the confidence of a big boned woman. they are always worrying are they toned enuff, buff enuff, slim enuff. that is just too many enuffs. i have male friends who advise that small women are good eye candy so others can envy but a as toys they dont rate that high. they are deemed to small to flib and bend for fear of breakage :) so pull ur too little shirt over ur belly and find a razor for that stubble and wipe ur chin with ur small toned woman and let the big girls be. they are looking for toned, 6 pack ab having men.

Answer 7

I wasn't going to answer this, but after reading some of the answers, I felt I have to.

I'm married to an overweight woman, and I understand how much pressure overweight women are under, women today are under so much pressure to have the perfect bodies. That women who are overweight and are trying to lose the weight, suffere from low self-esteem, partially having to deal with people who put them down because of their weight. I know, my wife has had to deal with it for years. And it upsets me to see how shallow people are, they judge people by what they see on the outside and don't bother to get to know the person at all.

I know lots of women who are overweight and they are confident, and I agree with one of the other people who answerd, confidence is sexy.

I'm an overweight man, and have been most of my life, and grew up getting made fun of because of my weight.

Instead of putting down people who are overweight, why not try to be encouraging, because I think if people were more encouraging towards others, people would have more motivation to try and lose weight and to try to quit bad habbits.

Personally I love my wife no matter how she looks. She's my wife and I married her for the person she is, not what she looks like.

Answer 8

There's no accounting for taste, so don't try. Don't speak for "most men" and assume your tastes swim in the mainstream. Everyone is different and beauty truly is in the eye of the beholder. As you mature, you'll find that sexy is more an attitude and state of mind than defined by physical criteria. Like the song says, "Everybody's beautiful in their own way".

Answer 9

You know in the fashion industry overweight is a size 10+. So what size are we talking? I am attacked to various shapes and sizes, personalities, etc.

You don't have to justify why you like what you like. If those plus size chicks are not you fancy, then cool. Leave them to the guys that enjoy that kind of woman. Are you telling me that you would not date the models in the Lane Bryant catalog? I'll that that black chick any day.

Oh yeah, please stop speaking for "most men". You don't know what everyone likes. What size are you, if you know what I mean? It takes a lotta man to handle a lotta woman.

Answer 10

Why is it okay for men to get beer guts or stop shaving for weeks at a time?

Okay first off...and I'm not trying to sound mean, but you sound like a superficial jerk!

Most women are very insecure with their bodies, so any woman who has confidence in themselves...is sexy-period!

I understand your frustration with women who wear clothes way too small for themselves...but hey, at least they aren't trying to hide who they really are!

If you aren't attracted to these women, just don't talk to them.