This girl and I had been friends as long as we could remember. We lived across the street from each other.
A couple years ago, she got into a few "bad" things, and, without involving me in all of them, took me down with her. Things got so bad that she got sent to New Jersey, sent back, and everyone lost all contact with her.
So she's been dead to me for a couple years, right? So I'm sitting at home just enjoying an episode of The Office, when the phone rings. It's her. I have my mom take a message for me. I just couldn't talk to her.
Turns out she's been in a rehab for a while, and has completely redone her own life. She wants to meet with my mother and I and apologize to us for causing me and my family harm. She also wants to inquire about being friends again.
I want to, but I don't want to. It would make her feel better, but I'm just scared it's going to open up that part of my life again, and that's a box I've had locked for so long.
Any insight is greatly appreciated
2007-01-21 08:39:37 · 6 answers · asked by Yasuko 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
she has given you the choice, possibly as part of her re hab she has to make amends for all the harm she has caused in the past, but you can accept her apology and not rekindle the friendship, it is in your hands and it is up to you to keep it honest and tell her that you fear she will do the same thing again, if she is true to her rehab, she cannot assure you she will remain on the straight and narrow, as we only can live one day at a time and to promise about next week is not living in the here and now, sorry this is the best answer I can give you
2007-01-21 08:53:57 · answer #1 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's been in rehab then she's probably doing her 8th step and that is making amends to the people you've harmed or done wrong to. So maybe you should let her come and apologize but that doesn't mean you have to be her friend again. Just let her know that part of your life is done and as far as you are concerned you would rather not for now. Who knows maybe in the long run you'll change your mind. Anyway good luck.
2007-01-21 08:50:53 · answer #2 · answered by flutterby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's really your call. If you don't want to get tangled up in all that again, then don't. But if you go, that doesn't automatically mean that shes a huge part of your life again. You could tell her that you'd like to see her, but being friends isn't an option. People change, but they don't change that much. Good luck : )
2007-01-21 08:46:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
trust your gut feelings. i had a friend who went to jail and i went out of my way to mail him (i was about the only one who did this)
when he got out the took advantage of me. jail had changed him and when i asked him why he betrayed me he laughed and said "if you have a friend and your friend is true..then screw your friend before your friend screws you." he also has borrowed money from most of his old friends and just laughs at them if they ask to be repaid. this person has no shame when it comes to using people. and even with all this happening i still like the person but i can't trust them anymore. does this help.??
2007-01-21 08:51:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you and your mom should allow her to express her apologies and then you be honest about how you feel. Honesty is always best.
2007-01-21 08:57:30 · answer #5 · answered by Moni B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you should give her a chance (everyone makes mistakes)and if she does that again then no.
2007-01-21 08:53:07 · answer #6 · answered by notoriousteen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋